Keynote Speaker and Personal Development Coach Jessi Beyer joins Chelsea 6 minutes in to talk about self-preservation within a relationship and the need to strike a balance between boundaries and empathy, the importance of figuring yourself out so your wants can guide you versus societal, familial, and self-expectations, the unhealthy compulsion to latch on to the wrong relationship for fear of having to start over, and how taking on the responsibility of keeping her now ex-boyfriend alive was unwise in retrospect yet also the catalyst for the career she has today. Gems to look out for:+ when you define yourself by the relationship you’re in and by the actions you take to maintain that relationship, the fear of losing the relationship becomes the fear of discovering how little of your own identity you have left+ the paradox of feeling relief after ending a tumultuous and toxic relationship and yet simultaneously feeling lost within your newfound freedom+ when you pour so much of yourself into an unhealthy relationship and then it ends, you often don’t know how to offer yourself to others or what it is exactly you even have to offer+ the fear of being single is often the fear of what life is going to be like when your relationship is no longer your world+ keeping secrets for your partner can make you feel like the chosen one but that doesn’t mean you should do it+ carrying someone’s secrets isn’t intimacy, it’s a burden+ what’s behind the fear of establishing boundaries and limitations+ how having different love languages can feel like a barrier rather than a boundary+ when you start a new relationship, that relationship is the coolest thing in your world+ you need to write your own dictionary because success, fulfillment, and even “a nice guy” doesn’t look the same for everyone+ how you hold yourself accountable to pursuing a relationship that’s aligned with your integrity versus getting swept up in the romance of a new love+ when you don’t have confidence and a firm sense of self, you’re more willing to compromise+ going into a new relationship scrambling for emotional stability, appreciation or validation, is not going to lead to a healthy outcome + designing a life you want to live versus the life that others want you to life naturally energizes you+ how to recover from a personal letdown, shake it off and try again+ growth-oriented relationships are capable of developing different acts to demonstrate different levels of devotion; with a foundation of good communication and maturity, your love is able to adjust to the circumstances of your life together__To connect with Jessi, visit her:Website: https://jessibeyerinternational.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessibeyerinternationalFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/jessibeyerinternational__Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: [email protected]