In this conversation, Steph discusses the importance of celebrating wins and the negative impact of constantly striving for the next goal without recognizing the achievements. She introduces the concept of 'the gap' and 'the gain', where the gap represents always looking ahead and feeling like you're falling short, while the gain is about looking back and acknowledging your progress. Steph emphasizes the need to integrate the wins to upgrade your self-identity. She challenges listeners to audit their big wins and encourages them to celebrate and level up their self-perception. By doing so, they can become more confident, capable, and impactful.