Today, I want to take a moment to talk to you all about feedback, what it is, and, more importantly, what it isn't. It's easy to assume when we receive feedback that we're being criticized or even put down, but when we learn to give and receive feedback positively and effectively, we are actually given the opportunity to grow. That's why I encourage you all today to respond to feedback by offering thanks, making sure the other person feels heard, and giving yourself time to process that input. Accepting feedback with grace is no small feat and neither is doling it out.

There's a fine line between criticism and feedback, and it's important that we stay closer to the latter. Today I'll offer some ideas about giving compassionate and direct feedback as well as the value of nipping problems in the bud. After all, it's a whole lot easier to weave in compassion before we let issues fester or develop resentment - if we wait too long, however, things get terse, grumpy, and all compassion goes out the window. So remember to speak up immediately and to give grace to context. And most importantly, listen in to today's episode to see how you too can give and take feedback in a positive and effective way..

The Finer Details of This Episode:

• Understanding what feedback is and isn't
• Starting with thank you
• The importance of repetition
• Processing feedback
• Giving feedback with compassion and directness
• Understanding context

Quotes:

"So before you do anything else, it's important to check in with yourself around how you perceive feedback, and perhaps shift your mindset around what it is or isn't."

"Thank them for that input. Ask for some time, you know, let them know that they're being heard. But then give yourself the time to process it."

"We need to speak with both compassion and directness."

"I appreciated the feedback, even though it stung a little bit… he helped me to figure out how to pay more attention, and how to handle those tricky situations when I'm clearly not in agreement with something."

"So if you remember to speak up immediately, instead of hoping the problem will go away, it's a lot easier to weave in compassion. If we wait too long, then we let it fester, and we get grumpy and angry about the thing, then compassion goes out the window."

"So we have to ask for additional context, before we generalize the behavior or the performance."

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