What few of us ever understand is that the problem isn’t the situation; the problem is that we are afraid of the situation. The situation is whatever it is.  In itself, it's neutral. Nothing is happening to you, it is happening in you.  Your pain or upset come from how you are seeing the situation through some form of fear.  Through awareness you can identify the fear, see it as mind made, not real, and let it pass.  The more you practice allowing fear into awareness and embracing it instead of suppressong it,  the less it will control you.   Practicing awareness is how we wake up from the unhappiness we are living.