Today we consider how our perceptions of loved ones can change when the way we feel toward them changes, leading to a discussion about recognizing unresolved issues in relationships. I share what I spent years pretending not to know, unhappiness in my former marriage, and encourages open communication, seeking help, and deciding if you want to heal or move on from an unfulfilling relationship. Ultimately, advocating for having the courage to "say the things" we are pretending not to know.