In this episode, I dive deep into the concept of letting go of past dreams that no longer serve us. We explore those persistent inner soundtracks - the "shoulds" and negative self-talk that keep us trapped in an unlived life. I challenge you to pause, reflect, and say goodbye to the dreams and thoughts that are holding you back, making space for the joy and potential of who you are right now.

I missed last week's episode because I welcomed a foster puppy into our home, which unexpectedly gave me time to sit, read, and reflect on our "unlived lives" - those desires we've silenced for too long. During this forced pause, I realized how much of what remains unlived in our lives can remain dormant simply because we don't speak up about what truly matters to us. Honest conversations - even when they don't change external circumstances - transform us internally and help put us on the right trajectory toward living our full lives. This week, I challenge you to say just one thing you've been holding back as a first step toward reclaiming your unlived life, one conversation at a time.

Today we’re diving into something deeply personal—our unlived life. It’s not just about the big dreams we’ve abandoned; it’s the potential we’ve yet to step into, the hobbies we never explored, the desires we’ve been told were impractical. I’ve been there—living small, holding back, and thinking I needed absolute clarity before taking action. But what if action itself brings clarity? What if simply writing down a dream makes it 40% more likely to happen, and telling someone makes it 80% more likely? This episode is an invitation to stop waiting and start living. So, what’s one small step you can take today toward the life waiting for you?

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Boundaries are essential for a healthy life, yet they can be challenging to set and enforce. In this episode, I share a personal story about navigating boundaries with my teenage son and the emotional weight of following through on consequences. We also explore how boundaries go beyond just saying no—they protect our time, energy, and well-being. If even Wonder Woman had limits, why do we expect ourselves to do it all? Let’s rethink boundaries, not as walls, but as bridges to a healthier, more intentional life.

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Are you wearing metaphorical “big red shoes,” pushing yourself into roles and routines that don’t actually serve you? In this episode of Say the Things, we explore our relationship with energy—how we use it, how we waste it, and how we can align with our natural rhythms instead of forcing ourselves into schedules that don’t fit. From mental and emotional energy to physical stamina, I challenge you to become a curious observer of when you feel your best and when you’re just pushing through. Maybe the real wisdom isn’t in doing more—it’s in honoring your own rhythm.

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In this special bonus episode, I sit down with my husband, Andy, for our first-ever podcast interview together—wine in my closet and all! We dive into the world of Valentine's Day social media posts and the authenticity (or lack thereof) behind them. Andy shares his honest take on the curated perfection we often see online, and we reflect on how our past relationships shaped the way we communicate now. From attachment styles to unspoken truths about marriage, this conversation is candid, funny, and full of insights. Happy Valentine’s Day—let’s talk about what real love looks like!

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Love and social media—what’s really going on behind those carefully curated posts? In this episode of Say the Things, I dive into the history of public love declarations (turns out, we’ve been doing this for thousands of years) and what research tells us about why we post about our relationships. Are we sharing or performing? Seeking validation or celebrating real connection? Our attachment styles even play a role in how we show up online. Let’s get honest about our digital love letters and ask ourselves: would our relationships look different if social media didn’t exist?

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I love comfort - there, I said it. But as we move past "Quitters Day" and into the heart of 2025, I'm getting curious about what we actually care enough about to get uncomfortable for. Join me in exploring the difference between the changes we choose and the ones that choose us, and why sometimes the most important question isn't about change at all - it's about what matters enough to make us willing to be uncomfortable.

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Satisfaction, my husband asked me 'what makes me feel satisfied' while in a flurry of frustration, I moved on. But that question got me thinking about our complicated relationship with joy and why we often find it easier to share our pain than our pleasure. Let's talk about what happens when we dare to believe we're worthy of joy and what it means to choose heaven here and now.

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For years, I thought my inner critic was just echoes of my dad's voice, but the journey took me deeper into understanding the impact of emotional abuse and how it clutters our inner dialogue. I'm sharing my experience and learning to recognize when those "never" and "always" statements are red flags. Come explore how we can choose which inner voice to feed and why self-compassion, not self-criticism, might be our best path forward.

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