We all know about Mum Guilt…you drop your little one at school and they're the only one not dressed up…ohhh yep here comes that drop of guilt. 'My poor child'.

Ok, so as always let's talk about the meaning of Guilt.

Guilt in Phycology terms is defined as: Guilt is a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person believes or realizes—accurately or not—that he or she has compromised his or her own standards of conduct or has violated a universal moral standard and bears significant responsibility for that violation.

So, let's talk about this. Let's talk about what Mum Guilt is, why you get it and ways you can identify it and choose to remove it from your life, as most of the time…it feels like shit!!!

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• Mum Guilt is a feeling, an emotion experience that we have when we believe that we have compromised our moral standards…  
• Mum Guilt is an emotion – this is GREAT news because it means we have a choice to change this!
• We get mum guilt because we set moral standards in our mind about what we will, or wont do as a parent. We have guilt in our usual day to day, but during pregnancy or early parenting we look at others and set standards. Have you ever caught yourself saying 'Oh, I'd never do that'. That is, you setting a moral standard.
• Have you noticed that you might be with 5 mums having drinks and maybe 3 will have mum guilt and the others wont? That's because it is your thoughts creating this emotion.

 

FEAR TOOLS:

• First, you need to understand your morals – what are your standards as a parent?
• Then, when you get 'mum guilt' you need to identify WHAT you are thinking when this happens – this is your thoughts. (Use the 'Let's change that thought' worksheet attached.
• Do you believe that thought? Is that part of your moral setting? Because YOU have a chance to change that my friend.

 

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