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In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly explores one of the most subtle but powerful shifts you can make in your relationships: the difference between being detached and being disconnected. Acting like you don’t care might seem like protection, but it actually blocks love and safety from landing.

Lilly explains how emotional maturity means holding your desires with peace instead of fear, learning to trust instead of chase, and creating space for love to flow without gripping or withdrawing. You’ll learn what healthy detachment really looks like and how to move from survival energy to self-trust and connection.

If you’ve ever been told to “just stop caring so much” and it left you confused or shut down, this episode will help you understand how to care deeply without losing your power.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The energetic difference between not caring and healthy detachment

• How flippancy and indifference are forms of self-protection rooted in fear

• What healthy detachment feels like in your body and nervous system

• Why emotional maturity and self-trust create real attraction and safety

• How to hold your desires without gripping, chasing, or avoiding

• Why long-term relationships require short-term discomfort and emotional resilience

• How leading with love instead of fear transforms your connection

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Feeling more like roommates than lovers? Download Lilly’s guide here, Get Out of the Roommate Rut or by commenting PUMPKIN on any of her Instagram posts. The first 50 people to download it get it completely free.

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