Asking for Myself

16. Can we ever really escape our childhoods? (ft. Dr. Betsy Chung + Nicole Walker)

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How does your attachment style impact your relationships?

Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today I am joined by Dr. Betsy Chung and Nicole Walker We’re taking it back to where it all began…our childhoods. We talk about the buzzy topic of attachment styles and how we can meaningfully understand our pasts to inform a brighter future, particularly when it comes to our relationships. So here’s what I asked:

  • What are the different attachment styles and how are they informed?
  • How early do your experiences begin to shape your identity and impact your future relationships?
  • Do people who aren’t used to being in a securely attached relationship find themselves getting bored with a securely attached partner?
  • Is it common to have a different attachment style with your friends vs. your partners and why?
  • Are women attracted to men like their fathers and are men are attracted to women like their mothers? Does the same hold true in same-sex partnerships?
  • Do certain attachment styles tend to attract each other?
  • Are certain attachment styles less compatible?
  • How do you navigate the anxious-avoidant dynamic in a relationship?
  • How much weight should you give to someone’s attachment style? Is it in some ways self-fulfilling?
  • How do you trust yourself but also let go of patterns that aren't serving you?

    • As you listen, you’re gonna want to give your inner child a big hug. 🥰 As you should!

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    📚 Books referenced:

    • The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
    • Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
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