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By Mia Davis
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The podcast currently has 23 episodes available.
Self-pleasure, Shame, and Double Standards
If you grew up with a lot of shame and fears around masturbation (shame which you very well still may carry), this episode is for you.
Join me as I dive into an eye-opening discussion with the Creator, Executive Producer, and Host of Sex Ed with DB, Danielle Bezalel.
Today’s Questions
What has your own personal journey with self-pleasure looked like?
How can parents talk to their kids about masturbation?
How does self-esteem play a role in self-pleasure?
What were the results of your Magic Wand masturbation experiment?
What masturbation tips do you have for beginners?
How can you incorporate self-pleasure in the context of a relationship?
How do you take the pressure off of orgasming when it comes to self-pleasure?
How can you navigate conversations or boundaries with your partner if they are uncomfortable with masturbation (and/or don’t want you to masturbate)?
Get your hands on the Magic Wand! Happy experimenting… 🪄
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Resources
Sex Positive Families
AMAZE Org
Sex Ed Files
Sex Ed With DB
O.school — vibrators
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Boundaries, Codependency, and People Pleasing
Do you find yourself constantly struggling with setting boundaries, feeling caught up in codependent patterns, or finding it challenging to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing? In this episode, we navigate the delicate terrain of personal boundaries, codependency, and the art of putting oneself first.
Join me as I embark on a thought-provoking discussion with experts in the field—THE boundary therapist, Lacy Simmons and codependency coach, Klara Kernig. Together, we unravel the complexities of establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries in various relationships.
Today’s Questions
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Do you have that one friend that’s always in a toxic relationship? Is that friend you? This episode is all about red flags, unhealthy dynamics, and some serious introspection. I dive into murky waters with therapists Dr. Carli Blau and Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick (aka Dr. Liz).
Here’s what we get into:
Trust me, you’re gonna want to tune in.
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Painful Sex, Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy, and Pursuing Pleasure
Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. 🙊 Today we’re talking all things painful penetration. In this episode, I am joined by wellness influencer and podcast host Alyssa Harper and pelvic floor physical therapist and online health educator Dr. Sabrina Baxter. This episode is so important to me and I hope you have some incredible takeaways! Whether you experience the occasional mild discomfort, chronic painful insertion, or you have sex with someone who experiences painful sex, this episode is definitely one to listen to!
Today’s questions:
Partners:
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Resources:
Dr. Sabrina's Guide to Pain FREE Penetration
Asking for Myself's Yes/No/Maybe List
BDSM/Kink Test
STIs, Herpes, Genital Warts, and Taking Control of your Sexual Health
This episode was born out of an Instagram DM, “was on a second date...he says: “I have genital warts” and feel like if it’s heading in that direction it something you need to know” and I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY. No one has ever prepared me for that moment except in middle school the teachers saying stay away from people with STIs, but like what is the correct thing to do/say???" (~50 min mark)
So, I went directly to the experts to get an answer. In this episode, I was delighted to be joined by Laureen HD — sex educator and sexual health advocate and Melody G — artist, educator, and creator of WTF is HPV.
What do we discuss?
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Self-love, body image, and self-pleasure
Today I am joined by the one and only Cat Lygate, the founder of UNGIRL. UNGIRL is a platform to educate and empower people's sexuality and self-confidence. Cat dropped so many gems this episode! 💎 Here’s what I asked her:
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Links: Internal vs. external processor Spontaneous vs. responsive desire
Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today we’re talking about a topic that’s near and dear to my heart, sexual trauma. This episode contains content about a topic that is understandably highly sensitive for many people. If this topic is triggering for you, it may be difficult to listen to this episode. That being said, the goal of this episode is to be a guide and a warm hug to all survivors of any form of trauma. If it’s too much for you, you can listen in chunks or skip it entirely. We don’t go into any graphic detail, but rather focus on coping strategies for healing and guidance to partners and friends or family who want to support someone they love. 🥰
Here are some of the questions we address:
Today’s brilliant and incredible guests:
Rafaella Smith-Fiallo, licensed clinical social worker, founder of The Healing Exchange, and co-creator of Afrosexology.
Alyssa Pressman, licensed clinical therapist & certified trauma-informed sex and relationship coach.
Sponsors:
Sexual trauma support resources:
Self-care & mental health resources:
youfeellikeshit.com
getmoodfit.com
wysa.io
Suicide resources:
Text ‘HELLO’ to 741-741 for the Crisis Text Line or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) for the National Suicide Lifeline.
For LGBTQIA+ youth under 25, get 24/7 crisis intervention & suicide prevention lifeline support with The Trevor Project. Text ‘START’ to 678678 or dial (866) 488-7386.
Get the support you deserve. You really, truly do deserve it. ❤️
How does your attachment style impact your relationships?
Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today I am joined by Dr. Betsy Chung and Nicole Walker We’re taking it back to where it all began…our childhoods. We talk about the buzzy topic of attachment styles and how we can meaningfully understand our pasts to inform a brighter future, particularly when it comes to our relationships. So here’s what I asked:
As you listen, you’re gonna want to give your inner child a big hug. 🥰 As you should!
Stay connected with Dr. Betsy and Nicole on Instagram!
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📚 Books referenced:
Being Single, Getting on Apps, and Learning How to Communicate
Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today I am joined by Ilana Dunn, host of the podcast Seeing Other People, and Stevie Bowen, author and creator of The City of Dating. Today we get into my least favorite topic…dating apps. Of course, I had a lot of questions, including the following:
Ilana and Stevie share some great advice and a lot of relatable stories...and you know I brought the laughs. Hope you enjoy listening!
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Casual Sex, Hookups, and Building Sexual Confidence
Welcome back to Asking for Myself, where I ask all the questions you're too afraid to. Today I am joined by sex therapist-in-training training and host of the Handy Mandy Podcast, Amanda Pahl, and sex and relationship coach Dr. Tara, host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast. Here’s what we get into on the episode:
This was such a fun episode and I loved every minute of it. I hope you do, too!
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If you or someone you love has experienced sexual assault, there are resources that can help. 🙏🏽
Get the support you deserve. You really, truly do deserve it. ❤️
The podcast currently has 23 episodes available.