The Code: A Guide to Health and Human Performance

163. Using the Let Them Theory to Control You Day

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Let them do what they do. Your power comes from what you do next.

 

Ever catch yourself getting worked up over something completely out of your hands? Dr. Andrew Fix dives into the idea of “let them,” inspired by Mel Robbins, and why releasing control over the uncontrollable can ease anxiety and improve your reaction to life’s frustrations. Whether it’s traffic, a tough game, or someone ghosting you, the way you respond makes all the difference. Instead of fixating on what others do, what if you focused on what comes next? Shifting from “let them” to “let me” puts you back in the driver’s seat, turning small, intentional choices into lasting progress.

 

Quotes

  • “One of the reasons why I love this concept of ‘let them’ is because it’s all about controlling the controllables. It’s one of our core values here at Physio Room. It’s one that I resonate with really hard, but it’s also not always the easiest thing to do, to focus on the things that are within your control.” (02:27 | Dr. Andrew Fix)
  • “If somebody cuts you off in traffic, rather than responding and reacting in a frustrated, upset kind of manner, where you’re honking at them, now you’re tailgating them, and you’re trying to pull up next to them to glare at them through the side window of the car—just let them. Let them cut you off. You don’t know what's going on in their life.” (03:57 | Dr. Andrew Fix) 
  • “The part that I love the most about the book was what comes after that let them part. After you decide and you make the decision, I’m going to move forward. I’m going to control what I can. Mel Robbins says, ‘now let me.’” (05:38 | Dr. Andrew Fix) 
  • “You’re not going to lose 15 pounds by focusing on losing 15 pounds. You’re going to lose 15 pounds by focusing on the steps that you need to take, the habits that you need to stack in order to get there.” (07:10 | Dr. Andrew Fix)
  • “Many of us overestimate what we can do in a day or a week, like in a really short time span. But many of us also underestimate the impact or the amount of things that we can get done in a really long period of time.” (08:31 | Dr. Andrew Fix)

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    The Code: A Guide to Health and Human PerformanceBy Dr. Andrew Fix