✨ Episode Summary

This week on Torn: Finding a Mom-Life Balance, we continue our bullying series with special guest Tom Ramsey, a conflict resolution specialist and author of Slaying the Giants: The ABCs to Stop A Bully.

Through personal stories and practical tools, we unpack how bullying impacts both children and adults—and how building confidence, awareness, and communication can change everything.

Key Takeaways

• Bullying is bigger than we think

• Confidence is a shieldWhen self-esteem grows, how you carry yourself changes—and bullies notice

• The first bully is often internalNegative self-talk shapes how we show up and what we tolerate

• Bullies look for easy targetsThey tend to avoid those they perceive as confident or equal

• It starts at homeSafe, loving environments help prevent both being bullied and becoming a bully

🛠️ Practical Tools

For Parents:

• Create a safe, emotionally supportive environment

• Listen actively—don’t dismiss concerns as “just teasing”

• Model healthy communication and conflict resolution

  For Kids & Teens:

• Speak up: Tell a parent or trusted adult

• Set boundaries: It’s okay to say, “I don’t like how you’re treating me”

• Find your thing: Passion builds confidence (sports, arts, hobbies, etc.)

• Choose your circle: You don’t have to stay where you’re not respected

🧠 Powerful Mindset Shift

“You need to change the inside to change the outside.”

Confidence, self-worth, and awareness are the foundation—not just for stopping bullying, but for how we show up in every space (school, work, relationships).

• Slaying the Giants: The ABCs to Stop a Bully by Tom Ramsey

• Free PDF available by contacting Tom Ramsey at [email protected]  

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