In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the biggest post-breakup traps; putting your ex on a pedestal.

If you’ve been replaying every memory, romanticising the good moments or secretly wondering if you’ll ever feel that spark again- this conversation is for you. Kelly breaks down why we idealise our exes, how attachment styles (especially avoidant dynamics) can distort our perspective & what it actually takes to see them clearly again.

Through honesty and humor, she reminds listeners that healing starts when you stop worshipping the fantasy and start reclaiming your power. Because the truth is, you don’t miss them, you miss the version of them in your mind.

This episode also features a Where Is She Now story from a listener who finally walked away from a four-year on-again, off-again relationship, cut contact & built a brand-new life abroad, proof that peace really is on the other side of letting go.

• Why “knocking your ex off the pedestal” is essential for healing

• How to separate the fantasy from the reality of who they were

• Why we confuse potential for love (and how to stop)

• The power of no contact and creating emotional distance

• How to rebuild your self-worth and confidence after heartbreak

• What avoidant attachment can teach you about the cycle of chasing unavailable love

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