In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the biggest post-breakup traps; putting your ex on a pedestal.

If you’ve been replaying every memory, romanticising the good moments or secretly wondering if you’ll ever feel that spark again- this conversation is for you. Kelly breaks down why we idealise our exes, how attachment styles (especially avoidant dynamics) can distort our perspective & what it actually takes to see them clearly again.

Through honesty and humor, she reminds listeners that healing starts when you stop worshipping the fantasy and start reclaiming your power. Because the truth is, you don’t miss them, you miss the version of them in your mind.

This episode also features a Where Is She Now story from a listener who finally walked away from a four-year on-again, off-again relationship, cut contact & built a brand-new life abroad, proof that peace really is on the other side of letting go.

• Why “knocking your ex off the pedestal” is essential for healing

• How to separate the fantasy from the reality of who they were

• Why we confuse potential for love (and how to stop)

• The power of no contact and creating emotional distance

• How to rebuild your self-worth and confidence after heartbreak

• What avoidant attachment can teach you about the cycle of chasing unavailable love

💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment?

Email ⁠[email protected]⁠

✨ Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok ⁠@kellyskoaching⁠

🔗 All links: ⁠linktr.ee/kellys_koaching⁠

In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the biggest post-breakup traps; putting your ex on a pedestal.

If you’ve been replaying every memory, romanticising the good moments or secretly wondering if you’ll ever feel that spark again- this conversation is for you. Kelly breaks down why we idealise our exes, how attachment styles (especially avoidant dynamics) can distort our perspective & what it actually takes to see them clearly again.

Through honesty and humor, she reminds listeners that healing starts when you stop worshipping the fantasy and start reclaiming your power. Because the truth is, you don’t miss them, you miss the version of them in your mind.

This episode also features a Where Is She Now story from a listener who finally walked away from a four-year on-again, off-again relationship, cut contact & built a brand-new life abroad, proof that peace really is on the other side of letting go.

• Why “knocking your ex off the pedestal” is essential for healing

• How to separate the fantasy from the reality of who they were

• Why we confuse potential for love (and how to stop)

• The power of no contact and creating emotional distance

• How to rebuild your self-worth and confidence after heartbreak

• What avoidant attachment can teach you about the cycle of chasing unavailable love

💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email [email protected]
✨ Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok @kellyskoaching
🔗 All links: linktr.ee/kellys_koaching

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives into a viral topic inspired by a video from Therapy Jeff.

If you’ve ever felt completely disillusioned with dating, this one’s for you. Kelly unpacks the frustration of navigating modern relationships for a woman who’s self-aware, healing and tired of the same emotional patterns- yet still wants to believe in love again.

She explores how to separate the system from the individual (yes, patriarchy is real but not every man is your ex), how to spot emotionally intelligent men & how to date with hope & self-respect instead of fear or resentment.

This is a real, grounded & empowering conversation about keeping your standards high without closing your heart.

In this episode, you’ll learn:💭 How to stop projecting past pain onto new people💭 Why expanding your “evidence file” of good men matters💭 What to do about the emotional intelligence gap💭 How to balance accountability with compassion💭 Why you don’t need to choose between awareness & optimism

Because you can call out the patriarchy and still believe in love- without lowering your standards or losing yourself.

Listen for: real talk, humor & healing perspective on modern dating, inspired by the viral wisdom of Therapy Jeff.

💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email ⁠[email protected]⁠✨ Connect on Instagram & TikTok @kellyskoaching🔗 All links: ⁠linktr.ee/kellys_koaching

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives into a viral topic inspired by a video from Therapy Jeff.

If you’ve ever felt completely disillusioned with dating, this one’s for you. Kelly unpacks the frustration of navigating modern relationships for a woman who’s self-aware, healing and tired of the same emotional patterns- yet still wants to believe in love again.

She explores how to separate the system from the individual (yes, patriarchy is real but not every man is your ex), how to spot emotionally intelligent men & how to date with hope & self-respect instead of fear or resentment.

This is a real, grounded & empowering conversation about keeping your standards high without closing your heart.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
💭 How to stop projecting past pain onto new people💭 Why expanding your “evidence file” of good men matters💭 What to do about the emotional intelligence gap💭 How to balance accountability with compassion💭 Why you don’t need to choose between awareness & optimism

Because you can call out the patriarchy and still believe in love- without lowering your standards or losing yourself.

Listen for: real talk, humor & healing perspective on modern dating, inspired by the viral wisdom of Therapy Jeff.

💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email [email protected]
✨ Connect on Instagram & TikTok @kellyskoaching
🔗 All links: linktr.ee/kellys_koaching

What do you do when your husband cheats, your next boyfriend dumps you before your big Europe trip & life completely implodes?

If you’re Gabrielle Stone, you buy a plane ticket, grab your journal & write a book about it that becomes a global phenomenon!

In this week’s episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly sits down with actress, author & queen of heartbreak-to-healing, Gabrielle Stone, to talk about everything from betrayal & love bombing to solo travel & the infamous Self-Love Cocktail.

Together, they dive into:
✨ The messy truth about healing (spoiler: it’s not linear)
✨ How to stop confusing love bombing for real connection
✨ Why solo travel is the ultimate breakup glow-up
✨ The importance of self-awareness and owning your patterns
✨ How to turn rejection into redirection & pain into purpose

This episode is equal parts therapy session and girls’ night- complete with laughter, brutal honesty & the reminder that the person you really need to fall in love with is you.

So grab your matcha (or a cocktail) & get ready to feel seen, empowered & maybe even inspired to book that solo trip!

🔗 Links & Resources

• Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation (bonus episode)

• Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching

• Follow Gabrielle on Instagram @gabriellestone

• Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: [email protected]
  

Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree

In this episode, Kelly shares her personal journey through relationships, focusing on the lessons learned from her past mistakes. She discusses the importance of self-awareness, taking responsibility for one's actions & the need for personal growth after breakups. Kelly reflects on her experiences with anxiety, trust issues & the challenges of maintaining a sense of self-worth in relationships. She emphasises the significance of setting boundaries, recognising red flags & the journey towards healing & independence. Ultimately, Kelly encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences & to embrace the lessons learned from their past.

🔗 Links & Resources

• Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation

• Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok:⁠ @kellyskoaching⁠

• Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: [email protected]

• Explore more tools & resources:⁠ Kelly’s Linktree⁠

  Takeaways

  Kelly reflects on her past relationships and the lessons learned.

  Self-awareness and taking responsibility are crucial for growth.

  Anxious attachment styles can impact relationships significantly.

  Trust issues often stem from insecurity and paranoia.

  Reassurance should come from within, not solely from partners.

  Avoiding conflict can lead to unresolved issues in relationships.

  Having an identity outside of a relationship is essential.

  Recognising red flags is important for future relationships.

  Shame can be transformed into valuable lessons for personal growth.

  Healing involves compassion for oneself and understanding past behaviours.

In this episode of the Breakup Debrief, Kelly discusses the often-taboo subject of divorce in Ireland, sharing her personal experiences and insights. She explores the stigma surrounding divorce, the legal processes involved, & the differences between legal separation and divorce. Kelly also highlights the benefits of a DIY divorce, emphasising the importance of mindset and self-empowerment in moving forward. Additionally, she addresses the challenges of dating after divorce and encourages listeners to celebrate new beginnings with a divorce party. The episode concludes with a listener's inspiring story of resilience and personal growth after leaving an abusive relationship.

🔗 Links & Resources

• Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation

• Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching

• Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: [email protected]

• Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree

  
  

  Takeaways

  
  

  Divorce is still stigmatized in Ireland, affecting many people's decisions.

  Choosing happiness over an unhealthy marriage is essential.

  Legal separation and divorce are two different processes with distinct implications.

  DIY divorce can be a cost-effective option for amicable separations.

  The divorce process in Ireland can be lengthy and confusing.

  Mindset plays a crucial role in healing after a divorce.

  Dating after divorce can be daunting, but honesty is key.

  Celebrating a divorce can be empowering and liberating.

  It's important to acknowledge the emotional journey of divorce.

  Sharing personal stories can help others feel less alone in their experiences.

In this episode of the Breakup Debrief, Kelly & Dating Coach Lisa-Marie discuss the complexities of dating, healing from breakups & the importance of setting standards in relationships. Lisa shares her personal journey through heartbreak & how it led her to become a coach, emphasising the significance of self-worth & belief in love. They explore the process of manifesting love, raising standards & the value of investing in personal growth through coaching or therapy. The conversation highlights the transformative power of breakups & the opportunities they present for self-discovery and growth. In this conversation, Kelly & Lisa-Marie discuss the nuances of dating, the importance of a supportive dating environment & the work required before entering a new relationship. They emphasise the significance of healing & self-awareness in recognising readiness for dating, navigating breakup phases & the necessity of surrendering to the process of finding love. The discussion also touches on the value of investing in oneself & the idea that there are multiple soulmates in life, each serving a purpose in personal growth

🔗 Links & Resources

• Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation

• Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching

• Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: [email protected]
  

Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree

Welcome to Season 2 of The Breakup Debrief! In this first episode, Kelly is breaking down the most common breakup myths that keep women stuck in heartbreak, anxious attachment, and situationships & and replacing them with the truths you actually need to heal.

From the lie that “time heals all wounds” to the fantasy that “closure comes from your ex”, these myths might sound familiar… but believing them is exactly what keeps you spiralling, waiting or holding on to someone who isn’t choosing you.

✨ In this episode, Kelly debunks myths like:

• Why “time heals all wounds” keeps you passive (and what really creates healing)

• The truth about closure (and why it never actually comes from your ex)

• Why “staying friends” isn’t maturity

• The danger of “maybe one day” & exes who circle back

• Why “getting under someone else” doesn’t actually help you get over your ex

• The myth that healing has a timeline (“half the time you were together”)

• & why walking away from the wrong relationship isn’t failure, it’s freedom

💡 Key takeaway: Breakup healing doesn’t come from myths, distractions or waiting. It comes from self-awareness, no contact & the choice to start choosing you.

🔗 Links & Resources

• Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching

• Share your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: [email protected]

• Explore more tools & meditations: Kelly’s Linktree

In this special bonus episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly guides you through a powerful Cutting the Cord Meditation, designed to help you release lingering emotional ties with an ex (or anyone you’re struggling to let go of!)

Whether you’re stuck in breakup limbo, still checking their socials or replaying old conversations in your head, this practice will help you:
✨ Energetically release the connection that’s keeping you feeling stuck✨ Calm your nervous system and return to a sense of safety✨ Reclaim your energy so you can move forward feeling lighter and freer

This isn’t about pretending the relationship never happened, it’s about acknowledging what was & then choosing to let go so you can step into your next chapter.

Find a quiet space, put your phone on airplane mode & let Kelly guide you through a gentle but deeply transformative process.

💡 Remember: healing doesn’t come from waiting for someone to choose you, it comes from choosing yourself, right here, right now.

🔗 Links & Resources

• Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching

• Share your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: [email protected]

• Explore Kelly’s offerings: Kelly’s Linktree