You say you have high standards. But is it really self-respect or self-sabotage in disguise?

In this episode, you’ll learn how to tell the difference between standards that protect your peace and walls that block your connection. Christina dives into the origin of emotional walls, how hyper-independence masks emotional wounds, and how to open up to love without losing yourself.

If you're constantly picking people apart, lonely but fiercely independent, or afraid others won’t approve of who you choose to love—this episode is your wake-up call.

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00:00 Intro
01:02 Standards or walls
01:43 Christina’s checklist
02:28 Healthy standards vs emotional walls
03:15 Client examples
04:31 Canceling and catching the ick
05:12 Where walls come from
07:17 Hyper-independence
08:18 Boundaries vs walls
09:06 Cost of emotional walls
10:31 Their high standards hurt too
12:06 Standards that aren’t yours
13:05 Questions to ask
14:08 Real boundaries vs armor
15:09 Let them show up
16:42 Pause before protection
17:54 Your mantra
18:10 Outro