When should parents step in and request a teacher change for their child?

In this episode of Parents of the Year, Andrew and Caroline break down one of the most difficult decisions many families face: advocating for a classroom change. 

They share their own recent personal experience navigating a challenging teacher-student dynamic that left their child anxious, tearful, and resistant to school.

Together, they explore:

• The difference between normal classroom struggles vs. true red flags.
• Why “not having friends in class” isn’t enough of a reason.
• How to tell when your child’s learning and emotional well-being are at risk.
• Practical steps for approaching school administrators with confidence and clarity.
• The importance of balancing resilience with advocacy.

Whether you’re a parent currently struggling with this decision, or simply preparing for the “what if,” this candid conversation will leave you better equipped to support your child while maintaining healthy partnerships with teachers and schools.

If you're thinking of making a request: 

• Reflect on Your Child’s Situation: Write down concrete examples of your child’s school experiences (e.g., emotional distress, avoidance, patterns of conflict). Separate opinion from observable facts.
• Debrief with Your Child: Have a calm conversation asking open-ended questions (“How do you feel in this class?” “What makes it hard?”). Avoid immediately offering solutions.
• Assess Severity: Distinguish between everyday discomfort (not being with friends, occasional teasing) and serious concerns (consistent bullying, ongoing tears, refusal to learn).
• Plan Your Approach: Draft an email or talking points for administrators that include specific examples instead of general complaints.
• Collaborate First: List at least 3 questions you’ll ask the teacher to understand their perspective and strategies before requesting any changes.

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