Most men are masking their pain and performing a role that isn't actually them. Join international men's transformation coach, spiritual mentor, and author of the bestselling book “Let Love In”, Jake Kauffman, as he guides you through the process of breaking down the barriers to love and healing, even in the face of overwhelming trauma and betrayal, and shares his personal journey with healing and transformation, the writing process of his book, and the importance of vulnerability and self-love for men.

In this episode, discover the role of forgiveness in the healing journey and how to approach it in a safe and supportive group setting. Embrace true transformation by unlearning and unbecoming, rather than achieving or succeeding, and learn how to discern truth versus trauma by tuning into your body's feelings and perceptions. By confronting trauma, cultivating vulnerability and self-awareness, and embracing spirituality and emotional intelligence, men can find purpose, direction, and fulfillment in their lives. 

Jake offers valuable insights into men's transformation and healing. He has supported hundreds of men to thrive and reach their next level in all areas of life, business, and relationships. His mission is to help men radically heal and transform so that they can achieve their potential and fulfill their purpose. 

Key Takeaways

00:00:55 Jake’s writing process

00:02:40 Definition of love and the barriers that prevent us from giving and receiving love

00:04:00 Jake's journey with letting love in and decision to write his book

00:10:00 Men's unresolved grief manifesting as anger

00:13:00 Teaching men how to grieve and working through emotions

00:16:50 Adaptive personality traits and coping mechanisms to avoid pain

00:21:20 Forgiveness process and moving through emotions

00:31:05 Classical virtues and the controversy surrounding masculinity and what it means to be a man

00:34:20 The role of women in supporting their partners 

00:40:45 The difference between truth versus trauma

00:44:20 Importance of titration in healing and checking in with oneself 

00:48:05 Simplifying goals and career pursuits to embrace a more peaceful way of living

00:52:50 Pursuing things that bring peace and surrendering to the natural flow of life

Where to Find Our Guest

Website: https://www.awakewithjake.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamjakekauffman/

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Let-Love-Stops-Truth-Starts/dp/B0C1J3FDPX

Memorable Quotes

"True transformation is always predicated on dying to something. So, transformation is way more about unlearning, unbecoming than it is about learning or becoming. We don't achieve our way to our full potential. We die our way there.” [00:27:49] - Jake Kauffman

"The secret to getting what you want is to stop wanting, because paradoxically, what do you do when all of a sudden you stop wanting, you relax. And when you relax, what do you do? You do what you enjoy. You do what comes most naturally and authentically to you. And by virtue, what happens, you end up getting what you want." [00:51:41] - Jake Kauffman

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