Asking for Myself

19. How do I react to an STI disclosure? (ft. Laureen HD + Melody G of WTF is HPV?)

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STIs, Herpes, Genital Warts, and Taking Control of your Sexual Health


This episode was born out of an Instagram DM, “was on a second date...he says: “I have genital warts” and feel like if it’s heading in that direction it something you need to know” and I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY. No one has ever prepared me for that moment except in middle school the teachers saying stay away from people with STIs, but like what is the correct thing to do/say???" (~50 min mark)


So, I went directly to the experts to get an answer. In this episode, I was delighted to be joined by Laureen HD — sex educator and sexual health advocate and Melody G — artist, educator, and creator of WTF is HPV.


What do we discuss?


  • What are some of the common misconceptions about HSV and HPV?
  • Has COVID helped us become more mindful of community health and openly discussing our sexual health/STI status?
  • What is a herpes outbreak like? What can you expect if you’ve recently been diagnosed?
  • Can doctors determine which strain you have of HSV and/or HPV? What’s the difference and why, if at all, does it matter?
  • Should you ask to get tested for HPV? How about HSV?
  • Should you disclose your status to someone and if so, when?
  • What is an ideal response to being told a potential partner has an STI? 
  • Is it okay to turn someone down who has an STI? What is a compassionate way to handle this conversation?
  • What is the best way to disclose your positive herpes diagnosis? Is it misleading to use the term HSV vs. herpes?
  • What encouragement would you give to someone who feels the need to settle because they have an STI? 
  • How can you navigate dating with a positive diagnosis and not feel doomed?


    • Products mentioned in today’s episode!

    IHD (Innovative Health Diagnostics) for convenient, at-home STI testing - make sure you use our link!

    Semaine Health Urinary Cleanse Supplements for protection against UTIs. Use code TABU for 20% off!

    Uberlube, you already know. Go on ahead and use code TABU for 10% off your order!

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