November 26, 2025

Welcome to Episode 19, Shades of Pleasure

Four sexologists open up about life, love, and the pursuit of consensual non monogamy.

In this episode, The Crew — Mou, Melissa, Wayne, and Kelly — dive into navigating nonmonogamy during the holidays, coming out to your children, and how to introduce new partners to your family.

Navigating nonmonogamy—and especially introducing new partners to family members or children—can stir up a lot of anxiety. For many, the fear isn’t just about the moment of disclosure. It’s the worry about the subtle questions, projections, opinions, or judgments that may follow. People often assume that nonmonogamous structures involve intimidation, coercion, or manipulation, when in reality much of that discomfort comes from deeply ingrained cultural conditioning: rampant allonormativity and mono-normativity that frames anything outside monogamy as suspicious or unsafe.

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