If you are trying to cut out yelling (or any other tactic you don't want to use), you are in fact learning a new skill. When we're learning a new skill, there is a concept that we need to keep in mind. It's one that I explain to my kids all of the time when they get frustrated learning to read, drawing a picture, riding their bikes, etc. 

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