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You are not here to try. You are not here to be the person others want you to be.

You are here to be yourself, with all your qualities and faults.

It’s not your responsibility to worry whether others will like you for who you really are, or hate you for the same reason.

It’s your duty to be yourself. That’s it!

Some people will love you, they will find you funny, attractive. Others will look up to you, set you as their role model.

Some people will think you’re boring or annoying. They will dislike everything you do.

This is all part of the deal. We can’t please everyone.

Keep sharing your magic. Don’t worry about what others will think.

Remember that you have the right to be yourself, not the being people are expecting you to be, but your true self.

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“To live fully, we must learn to use things and love people, and not love things and use people.” ~John Powell

This sounds remarkably basic, doesn’t it?

Yet, so many of us get it wrong. We stick with using people and loving things.

There’s nothing wrong with buying the latest laptop model, or a brand new car. The problem begins when you step over others to do it so.

If you’ve ever been involved with the corporate world, you probably have a clear picture of what I’m talking about.

Some people will do whatever they can in order to climb the corporate ladder. Even if it means bringing others down.

This is not exclusive to professional environments.

It’s common to have the exact same behavior amongst family members and close friends.

What we can, and should do, is to lead by example. Start noticing your own attitude. If you spot a situation where you feel like you’re taking advantage of someone, stop it. If you’re overly attached to a material item, try donating it to someone.

Experiment serving others without expecting anything in return. It may not be easy at first, but it will be worth it.

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We all want to accomplish more, reach new heights, overcome our challenges. We want to be better, to do better things.

But we often forget that it will take time, dedication and patience.

Wishing to be a better person won’t make you one. Wishing to have a better job won’t land you a new career opportunity. Wishing to visit a new country won’t make a plane ticket fall on your lap.

I’m a firm believer of dreaming, of wishing. But I also know that if you don’t do what it takes, these dreams and wishes may never become a reality.

Once you want to achieve something, you gotta be prepared to pay the price, to do the work, to do what it takes.

In my opinion, that’s where most of us fail. I’ve certainly did, many times.

When I wanted to accomplish something, it sounded all too good in theory. But I wasn’t ready to do the work. This can only result in failure.

Remember this when setting new goals. Don’t fool yourself, thinking it is a “set and forget” deal.

Are you ready to do what it takes?

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There is something that I like to call: the “grass is always greener”, syndrome.

We all suffer from it at some point in life.

The absolute truth is that the grass is, and always will be greener where we water it.

It’s alright to admire the grass on the other side of the fence, absorb their beauty. Let it inspire you.

But never forget that it’s up to you to start nurturing your own grass.

Don’t think that the shiny green grass on the other side of the fence doesn’t require any maintenance.

It takes effort, dedication and patience. It may even require outside help.

We’re conditioned to want what we don’t have, and that’s when our ego kicks in.

What’s important is to learn how to appreciate and don’t feel envy. Go after your own goals, learn from others, never stop watering your own grass.

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Have you ever said yes, when you really wanted to say no?

We’ve all been there. Maybe it was a favor for a friend or family member, maybe it was a work colleague.

We feel bad for saying no. Mainly because we don’t want to hurt, or cause discomfort to others.

We’d rather feel bad ourselves, so we say yes and then deal with the pain of having to do what we didn’t want to, in the first place.

This is something we must pay attention to, saying yes to everything and everyone is definitely not a good thing. You will end up overwhelmed and frustrated.

I’m not encouraging you to say no to every little thing, but start to prioritize. Do you have the extra time right now? Can you do it without compromising your own goals or projects? Is this something that will make you feel bad with yourself? Does it go agains’t your values?

There are many questions you can ask yourself before saying yes. You should follow your instincts, don’t diminish yourself in order to please others.

Your life, goals, projects and values are your number one priorities. Don’t feel bad for saying no when you have to. Let the other person know why you can’t help at the moment.

This works way better than saying yes just for the sake of it.

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Have your ever noticed how when your feeling happy, or motivated, you automatically know that you’re not going to feel this way forever?

Now try to remember a moment where you felt depressed or sad. These negative emotions tend to make you feel like this is who you are, permanently.

This is a false belief. You are not your emotions and they don’t define who you are.

They’re temporary feelings, good or bad. They will come and they will vanish. You do have the power to extend the duration of the good ones, as you also have the power to let go of the emotions that are not doing you any good.

It’s unfortunate that we focus much more on the bad ones, which makes them stay with us for a longer period of time.

Emotions will come and go, it’s important that you learn how to deal with them.

Always remember that they don’t define who you are.

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If you’re honest with yourself, you can think of at least a few moments where you caught yourself playing the victim.

This is human nature.

When we were kids and wanted a candy, or a toy, we knew exactly how to start acting in order to get it. Or at the very least, throw an amazing performance.

As we grown older, the natural order is for us to leave this behavior behind and start taking responsibility for our lives.

It would be comic to see a grown up rolling on the floor of a supermarket, because he or she wants a chocolate bar.

But we don’t see this kind of reaction. Or hopefully, not often.

We are smarter than this. We use clever tactics.

So clever that they fool ourselves into believing that we are the victims, that it’s not our fault.

Joe Doe has a happy life because he doesn’t have to wake up at 5 in the morning to go to a boring job.

Jane Doe is happily married because her husband isn’t cheating on her.

Joe Junior is a good kid because his parents love him, they give him great gifts, and they travel a lot.

Me? My life sucks, and there’s nothing I can do about it… Boo hoo!

Take control of your life. No one is going to be available to help you 24/7.

You gotta start helping yourself. And to do that, the first thing you must do, is to get rid of the victim mentality.

Life happens to all of us, good and bad. Only you have the power to change your reality.

You are the king of your realm. Start acting like one!

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From time to time I witness a situation where the person involved could have simplified it, by simply using a little bit of brain power.

The thing is, we’re so used to doing what do, the way we do it. Sometimes we are not open to learning new tricks or more practical ways to get things done.

Keep an open mind, and experiment. If it doesn’t work, or if you like to keep doing it “your way”. It’s fine!

But at least be ok with trying new methods.

This is not limited to work.

You can simplify you life in many ways.

Get rid of the unnecessary drama, get your priorities in order.

Flush out the clutter.

Once you start simplifying your life, you will notice how things will start changing for the better.

No more extra weight over your shoulders.

Keep it simple!

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“Be brave enough to start a conversation that matters.”

The title of today’s episode comes from this fantastic quote by Margaret Wheatley.

But what does it mean?

To me, it means being bold, having the audacity to challenge the status quo.

It means nonconformity.

Not being satisfied with average, chasing after something bigger and better.

Brave, by definition, could mean fearlessness. But I don’t agree with that, you can be brave and still feel fear. The difference is that when you’re brave, you know the fear is there, but you also know that it won’t stop you from keep going.

You know it will be a challenge, and you face it. Because you know the “conversation” matters.

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Nothing is permanent!

I always remind myself of it. Specially when I see people behaving like they’re on the top of the world. Ruled by their inflated ego.

They believe this is a permanent state.

I see younger women going through life as if they’ll never get old.

If you’re going through a dark season, it won’t last forever. This is how life is.

If you’re feeling amazing, energised and motivated. I guarantee you that you will not feel this way forever either. I’m not saying this to bring you down.

You will have moments where you will feel sad, disappointed, or simply not feel good. But, you can, and should learn how to minimize these bad moments.

The same applies to the good seasons. As you discover yourself, you will learn how to make them last longer.

Life is ever-changing, and nothing is permanent.

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