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Sarah- known as Momuncharted online, has been one of the loudest voices when it comes to bringing awareness to the dangers of online exploitation of children and parental oversharing. She was recently featured on the Dr. Phil show where she was able to share the message so many need to hear about the dangers of putting children online.  Today, we dive in exploitation of children on social media and how we, as the viewers, can make sure to help mitigate this problem, by refusing to consume this type of "entertainment". 

1:24- Is there a difference between sharing children online and exploitation? 

2:30- Parental oversharing

5:00- Potential bullying fodder 

7:40- What do you hope viewers change about their viewing habits? 

10:20- Parents control the narrative of the children- how easy it would be to paint some of these kids as a monster 

11:00- Nuanced conversation- awareness when it comes to our neurodivergent children and sharing meltdown videos 

15:00- Are there any protections in place? 

18:40- Kids in the spotlight exposed to REAL danger 

22:40- My personal mistakes sharing my kids 

24:00- Kids always in performance mode 

27:00- If you could pick one take away from the episode- what would it be? 

28:05- LETS GET DEEP- Game time! 

Today we explore all aspects of Respectful Parenting and Santa- Is it lying to our kids and should we be doing this tradition? 

0:11- Weekly check in 

1:29- Did our families do Santa? Do we do Santa with our kids? 

6:16- Addressing kids questions about Santa

7:02- Do you think Santa is in line with Respectful Parenting? 

8:50- Using Santa to have kids behaving

9:45- Horrible Holiday tradition we keep seeing popping up 

14:00- When your kids starts to figure out the truth about Santa 

17:20- Dangling the "nice" list in front of your kid

19:17- The strong- willed kids will call your bluff on the Santa lies 

20:00- Expectations for kids opening presents 

23:40- Lets Get Deeper- Game for couples but we decided to try it out 

Today we talk about the fact that there is absolutely no such thing as perfection in parenting. We share some of our most memorable "mom fails", what we do about "mom guilt", and how to move forward. 

0:18- Weekly Catch Up! 

2:23- Have you ever made any mistakes? 

3:31- This parenting style requires trial and error- which means there will be some ERROR 

4:40- Forgot the school uniform 

5:22- Finding a balance between validating feelings and coddling 

6:43- Jess- epic fail day 

9:40- When we start to see our parenting style in our kids 

10:50- I don't beat myself up forever over a mistake 

12:50- Being candid and continuing to show up after a mistake 

16:20- The big picture 

19:15- Kids give sincere apologies now on their own 

20:15- How these moments influence sibling dynamics

23:40- Our biggest mom fails to make you feel better about yours 

Socials: 

Tiktok- @jesmartini / @alisonsaidno

Instagram- @jes_martini / @alisonsaidno

ATTENTION- 5 SECOND DELAY IN START TIME IN EPISODE, DON'T CLICK AWAY!!!This episode is an extremely vulnerable one. Jess talks about mom guilt and opens up about her personal life. She also adds a tip for mom guilt and special surprise at the end! 

0:05- Episode starts

0:53- We are not defined by our tough seasons

1:35- Storytime- traumatic pregnancy

2:55- Big Life News *vulnerable moment

4:35- Not giving my kids the childhood I envisioned 

5:35- Tip for mom guilt!! 

9:19- BOOK READ! "Timmy Doesn't Tie His Shoes" (available on amazon)

Socials- 

Tiktok- @alisonsaidno / @jesmartini

IG- @alisonsaidno / @jes_martini

Today we discuss having a code word with our kids for an added safety measure as they are growing and learning to navigate the world around us. Growing up Jess had a code word with her mom "pretty please" and the way that it worked is that if she ever got into a situation where she did not feel comfortable to use her own voice she could use her code word "pretty please" and her mom would know that she was actually supposed to say "no" to whatever was being asked or she was supposed to drop everything and come get Jess. This is not a replacement for teaching our kids to use their own voice- simply a precaution for if they are ever in a situation they do not feel comfortable to. We also discuss another use for code words with our littlest kids! 

0:14- Weekly Catch Up! 

1:45- Do you use code words with your kids? 

2:00- Jess discusses how a code word was used in her childhood

3:05- Alison discusses children with anxiety/social anxiety

4:50- The more they are prepared for situations the better they will do in them 

5:15- When do you start the code word? 

6:57- Code words with a spouse

9:45- Temperament matters and kids who have a harder time using their voice- still deserve protection

10:28- Adults have the luxury of just leaving 

12:30- How did the conversations start?

14:40- VIRAL video breakdown of the week 

(Video- 12yo boy destroys house over cell phone) 

16:45- Mom comes out with the truth of the viral video 

19:28- Viral video- girl puts color stain lipstick all over her face

20:30- Internet's dangerous obsession

Today we talk about grandparent privilege- our thoughts on when and how to set the boundaries when it comes to grandparents and our kids. 

0:18- Catch up for the week! 

1:36- What is Grandparent Privilege

2:45- Shocking thing a grandparent has done behind a parents back

3:40- How much trust does the parent have with he grandparent?

5:30- How Alison would create a boundary

6:00- Story time with Jess- creating boundaries with an in-law

10:00- "we're respectful parenting our parents"

11:50- If you're a grandparent trying to make amends...

13:00- Story time 

15:32- 2 Truths and a Lie! 

Today we go over when we started talking to their kids about their bodies, body autonomy, and who a safe adult it. We also go into sample conversations we have had with our kids to help protect them from grooming behaviors and to keep our kids safe in regards to their bodies in other ways. 

0:24- Highs and Lows for the week! 

2:00- The importance of using anatomically correct body parts 

3:55- Never forcing a child into affection even with family members

4:50- Opportunities that come about organically in childhood

7:05- Why we don't keep secrets and who a safe adult is 

9:20- No, Go, Tell, Keep Telling Method 

12:53- Going through situations we have been in 

16:36- 2 Truths and a Lie! 

Today we dive into bullying. We go over our experiences both as parents and as kids with this subject. We also give our number one way we believe we can help our kids protect themselves from the emotional impact bullying can have. 

0:12- Highs and Lows for the week

2:25- How do we help protect our kids? 

3:15- Learning how to help them handle the situations their own way

4:03- Jess- her #1 thought on how to protect kids from bullying 

5:45- Alison- Acting out scenarios

7:11- Making sure kids know they are allowed to defend themselves and practice doing it 

13:58- Acting out scenerios 

17:56- Practicing the scenerios

19:00- One of the biggest reason my husband got on board with Respectful Parenting 

20:50- GAME- F, Marry, Unalive 

Lots of people believe that gentle/respectful parenting is the same as permissive parenting. There is this idea that there are no boundaries or expectations for the kids and that they run the house... So, today we go through scenarios of what it would look like using permissive vs. respectful parenting. 

0:15- Highs and lows for the week 

2:30- Tantrum in a store- permissive vs gentle

2:50- 1 way to tell a tantrum vs meltdown

3:09- Permissive during a tantrum 

3:40- setting expectation ahead of time 

4:45- handling store tantrum- respectful parenting

7:25- Teens and curfews- permissive 

8:12- Teens and boundaries- respectful/gentle 

11:50- GAME- Everyone's favorite 90s sleepover game- F, Marry, U_alive! 

Today we go through the 3 most asked about scenarios in regards to gentle/respectful parenting. We cover holding boundaries from toddlers to teens! 

0:15- Highs and lows for the week 

1:45- How to handle phone situations with teens

4:08- When one child self-regulates electronics better than another

6:09- Talking about TANTRUMS

7:27- Co-regulation! 

8:40- Learning BASIC child development and what a child is actually ready for

9:45- Getting kids to clean their rooms!

11:20- Alison- story time about a struggle w/ executive function

12:58- Teaching every single step of a process until it becomes habit 

13:58- Organizing in a way that makes sense for THEIR brain 

17:28- Anxiety around care tasks 

19:09- GAME!! 2 Truths and a Lie!