A common driver for addiction is perfectionism. When we feel like we don’t have control over our own life and can’t achieve perfection, we seek for something that we can control (in a sex addict’s life, this is lust). When perfectionism drives us, we can develop a defeatist mentality (I’m not going to do it perfectly, so why try?) 

In this episode, I talk about perfectionism, how defeatism appears in our lives and how to overcome our defeatist mentalities. Instead of giving up when we make a mistake, take time to look at your mistake and learn how to do better next time.