In reference Alain de Botton’s work on love. You can listen to him speaking to Krista Tippett on the On Being podcast, or read his book The Course of Love.

https://onbeing.org/programs/alain-de-botton-the-true-hard-work-of-love-and-relationships-aug2018/

https://www.waterstones.com/book/the-course-of-love/alain-de-botton//9780241962138?awaid=3787&utm_source=redbrain&utm_medium=shopping&utm_campaign=css&gclid=Cj0KCQiAk53-BRD0ARIsAJuNhptosEQru8U9r8lgB2tytGmZczF7Um9Xu17_G0_k4qN0xIZqC1SuwWcaAlvQEALw_wcB