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#20 Games People Play (Eric Berne, 1964)

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From Eric Berne's seminal book 'Game People Play', we look at the ways in which people communicate and structure time through social intercourse and 'Games'. We explore our human needs for Stimulus, Recognition and Structure hunger, and how we utilise ego states (Parent, Adult or Child) and systems of structuring time (Rituals, Pastimes, Activities, Games or Intimacy) to get these needs met. We then explore how to interact with more intimate and authentic communication, sharing our inner life candidly, without utilising avoidance strategies. This was all really interesting.

Hope you enjoy. 

Will & Luke  

  • 00:00 Introductions 
  • 2:45 'Games' and 'Strokes' (Also, Time Structuring - Withdrawal, Rituals, Pastimes, Activity, Games & Intimacy) 
  • 6:50 What is a 'game' - ongoing ulterior transactions, well defined and predictable outcomes. Professional games and social games.  
  • 08:15 'Strokes' - through social intercourse we crave - Stimulus hunger, Recognition hunger and Structure hunger) and Pastimes (structured interval of time) 
  • 15:15 Ego States - Coherent system of behaviour patterns and feelings (Adult -critical or nurturing, Parent, Child - adaptive or free) 
  • 22:15 Complimentary and crossed transactions 
  • 28:43 Types of Games (Interior motives vs exterior communication) 
  • 45:45 Authentic communication through different ego states 
  • 53:50 Psychiatry 
  • 1:05:00 Final reflections  

    • Purchase the book at: http://www.ericberne.com/games-people-play/

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