For decades, fitness culture has tended to break people into two categories: you’re either a strength guy or an endurance guy. You lift heavy or run far — but not both.

But my guest today says you don't have to choose; you can excel at both modalities and be ready for anything.

Alex Viada is a coach, a physiologist, and the author of The Hybrid Athlete. He’s a powerlifter who's also completed Ironman triathlons, and he's deadlifted 700 pounds and run an ultramarathon in the same week. Even if your goals are much more modest — you'd like to, say, set some weightlifting PRs in the gym and be able to run a decent 5k — Alex's training philosophy can help you combine lifting and endurance in a smart, sustainable way that builds true all-around fitness.

In our conversation, Alex explains how to combine training for strength with distance sports like running or cycling, how to test your progress, how to recognize and avoid the two kinds of fatigue, and why becoming a hybrid athlete will help you live more adventurously — and more capably.

Resources Related to the Podcast

• Alex's previous appearance on the AoM podcast: Episode #860: Get Fit, Not Fried — The Benefits of Zone 2 Cardio
• AoM Article: A Guide to the Biggest Thing Missing From Your Fitness Routine — Zone 2 Training
• AoM Podcast #970: The Misconceptions of HIIT (And the Role It Can Play in Your Fitness Routine)
• AoM Podcast #787: Run Like a Pro (Even If You’re Slow)
• AoM Podcast #777: Becoming a Hybrid Athlete

Connect With Alex Viada

• Complete Human Performance
• Alex on IG

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Most of us chase goals — starting a business, running a marathon, getting a promotion — without ever asking: What are the actual odds this will work?

My guest today says those odds aren’t just graspable — they’re hackable.

Kyle Austin Young is a strategy consultant and the author of Success Is a Numbers Game. He argues that every goal comes with a hidden probability of success or failure, and by thinking strategically — rather than just hoping for the best — you can tilt the odds in your favor.

In the first part of our conversation, Kyle explains the three common ways people pursue goals and their potential downsides. We then unpack how to approach your goals through probability hacking. We discuss how to spot the weak links in your plan, how to map out a “success diagram” that helps you avoid common pitfalls and pursue goals more intelligently, and how to use these same principles to know when you should quit a goal.

Resources Related to the Podcast

• AoM Podcast #387: Think Like a Poker Player to Make Better Decisions
• AoM Podcast #840: When to Quit
• AoM Podcast #490: Can You Learn to Be Lucky?

Connect With Kyle Austin Young

• Kyle's website
• Kyle on LinkedIn

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Happiness is the subject of thousands of articles, podcasts, and scientific studies. Yet all this focus on happiness doesn’t seem to be making people any happier. In fact, the more they try to be happy, especially by fighting to get rid of bad feelings and cling to good ones, the more unhappy people often become.

My guest would say that the first step in escaping this negative cycle is redefining what happiness even means — thinking of it not as a state of feeling good but of doing good.

His name is Russ Harris and he’s a therapist and the author of The Happiness Trap.

Today on the show, Russ explains how struggling against difficult feelings and thoughts just makes them stronger — amplifying instead of diminishing stress, anxiety, depression, and self-consciousness — and how simply obeying your emotions doesn’t work out any better. He then unpacks the alternative approach to happiness espoused by Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. With ACT, you allow both hard and pleasant feelings to coexist, and unhook from the latter so that they no longer jerk you around. This allows you to focus on taking action on your values to create a meaningful, flourishing life, or in other words, real happiness.

Resources Related to the Episode

• AoM Podcast #614: Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life With the Founder of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Steven Hayes
• AoM Article: From Overwhelmed to Empowered — How Labeling Your Emotions Can Help You Take Control

Connect With Russ Harris

• Russ’ Website

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Books are everywhere. They're so common, they're easy to take for granted. But my guest argues that they’re worth fully appreciating — because the book isn’t just a container for content; it’s a revolutionary technology for shaping culture and thought.

Joel Miller is a former publishing executive, an editor, a book reviewer, and the author of The Idea Machine: How Books Built Our World and Shape Our Future. Today on the show, Joel argues that to appreciate the power of the book, you have to look at its design: how it's constructed, how we interact with it, and how its evolution transformed the way we think, learn, and communicate. He walks us through a fascinating history of the book as a physical object, from Augustine reading under a fig tree, to medieval monks introducing word spacing and punctuation, to the printing press’s world-altering explosion of information. We also explore how novels changed our emotional and social intelligence, how silent reading birthed individual interpretation, and why, even in an age of video and AI, books still matter.

Resources Related to the Podcast

• AoM book-related archives
• Dying Breed Article: Why I Hate Making (and Watching) Online Videos
• AoM Article: Why Men Should Read More Fiction
• AoM Article: Fiction for Men as Suggested by Art of Manliness Readers
• AoM Podcast #1,057: The Power of the Notebook — The History and Practice of Thinking on Paper

Connect With Joel Miller

• Miller's Book Review

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Most of us know what we should do to be healthier: eat better, move more, sleep well. The real challenge? Actually following through.

On today’s show, I talk to behavioral psychologist Amantha Imber, author of The Health Habit, who argues that the missing piece in most health advice isn’t more information — it’s learning how to bridge the gap between knowing what to do and actually doing it.

Amantha first outlines four “habit hijackers” that sabotage your best-laid plans and shares practical, research-backed tactics to overcome each one. We then dive into some specific health habits that will give you a lot of transformative bang for your buck. We discuss how restricting your sleep can help you sleep better, the truth about the popular 10,000 steps a day recommendation, the underrated power of an after-dinner walk, and more.

Resources Related to the Podcast

• Hijacker Survey Link
• Related AoM Podcasts:
• The Psychology of Effective Weight Loss
• How to Hack the Habit Loop to Build a Better Life
• The Microbiome Master Key
• Related AoM Articles: 
• Unlocking the Science of Habits
• The Science of Drive: 5 Theories of Motivation
• The Power of Temptation Bundling
• The 10 Best Ways to Make Exercise an Unbreakable Habit
• The Importance of a Good Start: Using Temporal Landmarks to Achieve Your Goals
• AoM “Sleep” archives
• AoM “Habits” archives
• The Power of Implementation Intentions
• The Digestive Power of an After-Dinner Walk
• The Existential in Red Dead Redemption 2 
• Sleep Restriction and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
• Study: Holding the Hunger Games Hostage at the Gym
• Study: “I Don’t” vs “I Can’t” 
• Study: The Fresh Start Effect
• Study: Designing More Effective Goals by Using Emergency Reserves (“Hall Passes”) 
• Study: Untapping the Health Enhancing Potential of Vigorous Intermittent Lifestyle Physical Activity (VILPA)
• Study: Reduced exertion high-intensity interval training

Connect With Amantha Imber

• Amantha's website
• Amantha on LinkedIn
• Amantha on Instagram
• Amantha's podcast, How I Work

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There’s a lot of debate these days about what it means to be a man. But maybe the answer is simpler than we think, and a lot of masculinity just comes down to confident competence. A broad set of know-how. The ability to get stuff done. The capacity to move through the world with purpose and skill.

As someone who's lived several lives in one, Elliot Ackerman certainly embodies that ethos. He's a decorated Marine, a former CIA paramilitary officer, a National Book Award-nominated novelist, and now the writer of A Man Should Know, a column at The Free Press that explores the small but significant skills that shape a man’s life.

Today on the show, Elliot and I talk about why young men are struggling, how intention, discipline, and competence can change the way a man carries himself, and a few of the specific skills a man should know — from how to wear a watch to how to give a eulogy.

Resources Related to the Podcast

• Elliot's novels
• Elliot's "A Man Should Know:" columns:
• How to Introduce Yourself
• How to Be a Friend
• How to Own a Watch
• Fields of Fire by James Webb
• The Things They Carried by Tim O'Brien
• The Catcher in the Rye by J. D. Salinger
• AoM Article: 100 Skills Every Man Should Know
• AoM Skills Archives
• AoM Podcast #307: Make Your Bed, Change the World
• AoM Article: 10 Ways to Be a Better Husband Today
• AoM Article: How to Choose a Watch
• AoM Article: How to Give a Eulogy
• AoM Article: A Eulogy for My Grandfather, William D. Hurst
• The Poetics of Manhood: Contest and Identity in a Cretan Mountain Village by Michael Herzfeld
• AoM Article: MacGyver Manhood and the Art of Masculine Improvisation
• Free Press discount code: subscribe at thefp.com/manliness, and save 10% off your first year

Connect With Elliot Ackerman

• Elliot on IG
• Elliot on X

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It’s a tough job to manage a household. Things need to be regularly fixed, maintained, and cleaned. How do you stay on top of these tasks in order to keep your home in tip-top shape?

My guest knows his way all around this issue and has some field-tested, insider advice to offer. Charles MacPherson spent two decades as the major-domo or chief butler of a grand household. He’s also the founder of North America’s only registered school for butlers and household managers and the author of several books drawn from his butlering experience, including The Butler Speaks: A Return to Proper Etiquette, Stylish Entertaining, and the Art of Good Housekeeping.

In the first part of our conversation, Charles charts the history of domestic service and describes why the practice of having servants like a butler and maid ebbed in the mid-20th century but has made a comeback today. We then turn to what average folks who don’t have a household staff can do to better manage their homes. Charles recommends keeping something called a “butler’s book” to stay on top of household schedules and maintenance checklists. We then discuss how to clean your home more logically and efficiently. Charles shares his golden rules of house cleaning, the cleaning task you’ve probably neglected (hint: go take a look at the side of the door on your dishwasher), his surprising choice for the best product to use to clean your shower, how often you should change your bedsheets, and much more.

Resources Related to the Podcast

• AoM Article: How to Establish a Simple Cleaning Routine and Stick to It
• AoM Article: How to Clean Your Entire House in 30 Minutes
• AoM Article: How to Clean Like a Man
• AoM Article: Keep Your House in Tip-Top Shape — An Incredibly Handy Home Maintenance Checklist
• AoM Article The Butler’s Book: How to Create the Instruction Manual For Your Home
• AoM Article: Towards a Philosophy of Household Management
• The Book of Household Management by Isabella Beeton

Connect With Charles MacPherson

• Charles’ website

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When people think of J.R.R. Tolkien and C.S. Lewis, they often picture tweedy Oxford professors and beloved fantasy authors. But their writing wasn't drawn only from their bucolic days teaching at Oxford and walking in the English countryside; it had a darker, deeper backdrop: the trenches of World War I and the cataclysm of World War II. Lewis and Tolkien weren't just fantasy writers — they were war veterans, cultural critics, and men with firsthand knowledge of evil, heroism, and sacrifice.

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Joseph Loconte, returning to the show to discuss his latest book, The War for Middle Earth. We explore how both world wars shaped the perspectives of Tolkien and Lewis, found their way into works like The Lord of the Rings and The Chronicles of Narnia, and infused their literary masterpieces with moral weight, spiritual depth, and timeless themes of resistance, friendship, and redemption. We also talk about the legendary friendship between Tolkien and Lewis, the creation of the Inklings, and how the men demonstrated the countercultural power of imaginative storytelling.

Resources Related to the Podcast

• Related AoM podcasts:
• #178: The Inklings Mastermind Group
• #272: Lewis, Tolkien, and the Myth of Progress (Loconte’s first appearance on the AoM podcast)
• #430: Why You Need to Join the Great Conversation About the Great Books
• #499: A Fascinating Primer on Norse Mythology 
• #594: How Churchill (and London) Survived the Blitz of 1940
• #723: Men Without Chests
• #765: C.S. Lewis on Building Men With Chests
• #951: The Hobbit Virtues
• Related AoM articles
• The Power of Conversation: A Lesson from CS Lewis and JRR Tolkien 
• Lessons in Manliness from Viking Mythology 
• Lessons in Manliness: The Hobbit
• Men Without Chests
• “Blood, Sweat, and Tears” speech by Winston Churchill
• 4 Classic Chapter Books to Read Aloud With Your Kids
• Related outside articles:
• Tolkien’s Deadly Dragons 
• Munich Agreement
• Owen Barfield
• Tolkien books mentioned:
• The Letters of J.R.R. Tolkien 
• Beowulf translated by Tolkien
• The Hobbit 
• The Lord of the Rings 
• Beren and Luthien 
• Letters from Father Christmas 
• Lewis books mentioned:
• The Letters of C.S. Lewis 
• The Collected Poems of C.S. Lewis 
• The Pilgrim’s Regress
• The Chronicles of Narnia
• The Great Divorce
• The Screwtape Letters 
• The Space Trilogy 
• The Four Loves
• Mere Christianity 
• The Reading Life 
• Related books by other authors:
• Tolkien and the Great War by John Garth
• The Somme by Martin Gilbert
• The Guns of August by Barbara Tuchman
• The Future of an Illusion by Sigmund Freud
• The Aeneid by Virgil
• Phantastes by George MacDonald
• The Vinland Sagas
• The Iliad and The Odyssey by Homer
• The Divine Comedy by Dante Alighieri
• Le Morte d’Arthur by Thomas Malory

Connect With Joseph Loconte

• Joseph's website

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When we think about what shaped our life trajectory, we often focus on the way our parents raised us. But what about our siblings? What role do they play in who we become?

My guest today makes the case that siblings may be just as influential as parents in impacting how we turn out.

Her name is Susan Dominus, and she’s a journalist and the author of The Family Dynamic: A Journey into the Mystery of Sibling Success. Susan and I start our conversation by unpacking the broader question of what drives human development more — nature or nurture. We then dig into how siblings shape us, from the impact of birth order to how rivalry can raise our ambitions and alter our life paths. Along the way, we also explore the influence parents do have on their kids — and why it may not be as strong as we often think.

Connect With Susan Dominus

• Susan's website
• Susan's faculty page
• Susan at the NYT

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In a story from ancient Greek philosophy, Hercules faces a choice between two paths: one promising pleasure and ease; the other, hardship and struggle — but also growth and greatness. According to today’s guest, this ancient parable is more relevant than ever.

Dr. Paul Taylor, a psychophysiologist and the author of the new book The Hardiness Effect, returns to the show to argue that comfort has become our default mode — and it’s making us mentally and physically sick. To reclaim health and meaning, we must actively choose the path of arete — a life of effort, engagement, and challenge.

Paul first outlines the four traits that define a psychologically hardy person and how we grow by embracing and even relishing discomfort. We then dive into the physiological side of hardiness. We discuss how intentionally seeking stressors can strengthen both body and mind and some of the practices and protocols that lead to optimal health. We end our conversation with what tackling heroic, Herculean labors looks like today.

Resources Related to the Podcast

• Paul's previous appearance on the AoM podcast: Episode #941 — How to Avoid Death by Comfort
• AoM Podcast #1,087: Why You Need the Good Stress of Socializing
• AoM Podcast #793: The New Science of Metabolism and Weight Loss with Herman Pontzer
• The Choice of Hercules 
• AoM podcast on the benefits of sunlight
• "Don't Die: Eat More Small Fish" by Michael Easter
• AoM Article: Nature’s Prescription — The 20-5-3 Rule for Spending Time Outdoors
• Norwegian 4X4 HIIT Protocol
• AoM article on Zone 2 Cardio
• Omega-3 testing

Connect With Paul Taylor

• Paul's website

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