The Art of Charm

By The Art of Charm

The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help... more

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July 21, 2025 You’ve Been Lied To About Growth | Howard Falco
What does it really mean to reclaim your power? In this deep and grounded episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and Johnny talk with transformation coach Howard Falco about why so many men feel off-track—even when they’re doing all the “right” things.
Howard reveals why insight alone isn’t enough, and how true transformation only happens when we confront ourselves, embody stillness, and live in full alignment. From breaking spiritual performance habits to building inner strength, this episode is a call to live with energy, truth, and direction.
What to listen for:
[00:00:00] Why intellectual insight doesn’t equal transformation
[00:04:42] The trap of spiritual performance and emotional bypassing
[00:08:37] Why men feel lost even after “doing the work”
[00:11:12] The role of embodiment in building internal power
[00:14:25] How stillness reveals what you’re really avoiding
[00:18:49] Leading yourself before leading others
[00:22:03] What true self-trust feels like—and how to build it
[00:26:16] The difference between hype energy and grounded energy
[00:29:58] Why you don’t need to be fixed—you need to be clear
[00:33:45] Howard’s message for men who feel disconnected or stuck
A Word From Our Sponsors
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Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CIA-proven guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to networking like a spy!
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Stop needlessly overpaying for car insurance. Before you renew your policy, do yourself a favor—download the Jerry app or head to JERRY.com/charm
Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.rula.com/charm ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Episode resources:
HowardFalco.com
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
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1h 4min
July 17, 2025 The Social Gravity Effect [Social Intelligence Brief]
Why do some people walk into a room and instantly attract attention, introductions, and opportunities—while others grind endlessly and get ignored? In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and Johnny break down the science of social gravity—a real, research-backed force that explains how connection works like attraction, not effort.
They reveal the five key drivers that increase your social “mass,” from showing up to adding value, and how trust, similarity, and usefulness make you magnetic. If you’re tired of chasing validation and ready to start drawing others to you naturally, this episode outlines the playbook.
What to Listen For
[00:00:00] Social gravity explained: why connection is like gravity, not hustle
[00:01:24] The science behind mass: trust, visibility, and perceived closeness
[00:02:23] Five drivers of pull: proximity, similarity, positive affect, trust, instrumentality
[00:03:24] Why simply showing up builds momentum and visibility
[00:03:53] Similarity bias: how to signal shared identity in conversation
[00:05:18] The underrated power of warmth and enthusiasm in social settings
[00:07:02] Reciprocity and trust: how adding value attracts others
[00:09:47] Becoming useful: why helping others boosts your social value
[00:11:24] Network centrality: how to build influence across multiple groups
[00:12:43] The gravity loop: how clients become the ones people chase
A Word From Our Sponsors
Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/sc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities!
Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CIA-proven guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to networking like a spy!
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Stop needlessly overpaying for car insurance. Before you renew your policy, do yourself a favor—download the Jerry app or head to JERRY.com/charm
Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.rula.com/charm ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok

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19min
July 14, 2025 Self-Talk That Actually Works | Jay Heinrichs
What if the key to change isn’t willpower—but persuasion? In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak sit down with Jay Heinrichs, bestselling author and renowned rhetoric expert, to uncover how the ancient tools of persuasion can be turned inward. Drawing from Aristotle, Taylor Swift, and even personal injury, Jay reveals how to reframe identity, build emotional endurance, and use the “dark art” of rhetoric for transformation.
From redefining suffering as training to manipulating yourself into greatness, this episode offers practical strategies and philosophical insights for anyone stuck in cycles of self-doubt, burnout, or stagnation. If you've ever wanted to master your inner dialogue, this conversation will arm you with the tools to rewrite your story and reclaim agency.
What to Listen For
[00:00:00] Persuading yourself: the ancient secret to real change
[00:05:06] The absurd goal that pulled Jay out of self-pity
[00:08:37] Aristotle’s identity formula: craft, caring, cause
[00:12:41] How 300 painful shots became “training” through reframing
[00:17:44] The rhetorical trick introverts use to fake extroversion
[00:19:07] A ninth-grade confidence hack that still works
[00:21:24] Why catchy rhythms rewire your brain (and boost belief)
[00:24:35] Taylor Swift’s treadmill ritual—and the power of prep
[00:27:44] Manipulating yourself without lying to yourself
[00:33:32] Donut or apple? How shame beats guilt for better choices
[00:36:47] The mindset shift before running a mountain
[00:41:58] Turning chaos into opportunity with kairos
[00:47:49] A quick trick to bounce back from failure
[00:50:11] Why timing—not talent—made Jay’s book a bestseller
A Word From Our Sponsors
Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/sc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities!
Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CIA-proven guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to networking like a spy!
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Stop needlessly overpaying for car insurance. Before you renew your policy, do yourself a favor—download the Jerry app or head to JERRY.com/charm
Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.rula.com/charm ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Episode resources:
⁠JayHeinrichs.com
How Ancient Rhetoric, Taylor Swift, and Your Own Soul Can Help You Change Your Life
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok

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1h 4min
July 10, 2025 From Likable to Influential: The 3C Method [Social Intelligence Brief]
Do people like you… but never seem to respect you? In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak reveal the hidden social trap of being “too agreeable.” While it might seem like the best way to build rapport, research shows that excessive agreeableness actually suppresses your influence, erodes your authenticity, and leads to burnout.
You’ll learn why likability isn’t the goal—and how the Three C Model (Challenge, Curiosity, and Contrast) can transform your conversations into memorable, high-impact interactions that demand attention and build real connection.
What to Listen For
[00:00:00] Why being likable doesn't make you more influential
[00:01:15] The hidden cost of being predictably agreeable: burnout and boredom
[00:02:27] Why people won’t respect your time if you don’t value it first
[00:04:00] Agreeableness suppresses authenticity—and makes others trust you less
[00:04:37] The Harvard study: Why respectful disagreement builds stronger connection
[00:06:28] The Three C Model for breaking free from the “nice” trap
[00:07:13] How to challenge respectfully without sounding combative
[00:07:55] Curiosity with intention: The secret to deepening conversations
[00:08:21] Contrast with authenticity: Sharing personal truths to build influence
[00:10:44] Why most people operate from a worldview they never chose
[00:12:04] Mistake #3: Agreeing when you actually disagree
[00:12:42] Likability ≠ connection—how hiding your thoughts delays rejection
[00:13:08] What is “productive friction” and why it makes you unforgettable
[00:13:54] Take the Influence Index assessment to uncover your social blind spots
A Word From Our Sponsors
Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/sc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities!
Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CIA-proven guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to networking like a spy!
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Stop needlessly overpaying for car insurance. Before you renew your policy, do yourself a favor—download the Jerry app or head to JERRY.com/charm
Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.rula.com/charm ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok

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18min
July 07, 2025 Your Brain Needs More Space, Not More Hacks | Dr. Anne-Laure Le Cunff
Can being "too smart" actually hold you back socially? In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak sit down with Anne-Laure Le Cunff—founder of Ness Labs and a former Googler turned neuroscience researcher—to explore the psychology of overthinking, social fatigue, and emotional connection for high performers.
If you've ever felt drained after socializing, struggled to connect in unstructured conversations, or defaulted to overanalyzing instead of just vibing, Anne-Laure’s insights will change how you see your brain—and your relationships.
What to Listen For
[00:00:00] Meet Anne-Laure: Neuroscience researcher, entrepreneur, and former Googler
[00:02:01] What inspired Anne-Laure to walk away from Silicon Valley
[00:04:02] The science of mental fitness: training your mind like a muscle
[00:05:42] Why smart people often struggle in social settings
[00:07:50] Overthinking vs. high thinking: what’s the difference?
[00:09:20] Anne-Laure’s framework for emotional granularity
[00:11:03] The hidden impact of unspoken emotions on your connections
[00:12:42] How journaling and reflection sharpen your emotional vocabulary
[00:14:35] Real-time self-awareness: catching yourself before you spiral
[00:16:04] Why smart people default to logic instead of connection—and how to fix it
[00:18:20] The loneliness trap of overperformance
[00:20:03] How Anne-Laure blends neuroscience with self-compassion
[00:22:01] The importance of emotional bandwidth and recovery
[00:24:40] What socially intelligent people do differently after high-effort conversations
[00:27:20] Tools for restoring your energy after social drain
[00:29:00] Why connection doesn’t mean constant performance
[00:31:05] Anne-Laure’s advice for other deep thinkers navigating real relationships

A Word From Our Sponsors
Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/sc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities!
Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CIA-proven guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to networking like a spy!
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Stop needlessly overpaying for car insurance. Before you renew your policy, do yourself a favor—download the Jerry app or head to JERRY.com/charm
Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.rula.com/charm ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Episode resources:
https://anne-laure.net/
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok

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1h 5min
July 04, 2025 Supercharge Your Charisma [Social Intelligence Brief]
If you’ve ever felt invisible in a room full of people, it’s not your personality—it’s your presence. In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and John unpack the three research-backed traits that make people charismatic, memorable, and magnetic—whether you're an introvert or not.
You’ll learn how charisma isn't a gift you’re born with, but a skill you can train. From mastering body language to showing emotional generosity, this episode delivers the tools to light up every room you walk into—without faking it or burning out.
What to Listen For
[00:00:00] Why charisma beats competence in winning attention and influence
[00:01:30] The Harvard study that proves social intelligence matters more than IQ
[00:03:00] Syncing with others: why charismatic people create biological resonance
[00:04:00] How charisma helps introverts use energy efficiently—not drain it
[00:05:00] Trait #1: Presence — why micro-pauses and ditching your phone matter
[00:06:30] The hedge fund manager who finally nailed charisma by showing up differently
[00:08:00] Trait #2: Enthusiasm — the underrated superpower of emotional generosity
[00:09:30] Why asking, “What do you love about your job?” instantly creates connection
[00:11:00] Trait #3: Confidence — the body leads the mind, not the other way around
[00:12:30] Smiling, posture, and anchoring the room: the nonverbal signs of true confidence
[00:14:00] How to mentally prep for presence: “Who do I want to be? How do I want them to feel?”
[00:15:30] Weekly challenge: your three-part field test for real-time charisma training
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok

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21min
June 30, 2025 Nice Guys Finish First—If They Do This | Dr. Ryan Fehr
When high-stakes emotions hit — anger, anxiety, fear — most people default to either freezing or reacting. In this episode of Social Intelligence, Dr. Ryan Fehr, a leadership professor at the University of Washington, shares tools that help Navy SEALs, Fortune 500 execs, and everyday professionals regulate emotions under pressure.
Ryan and AJ discuss how to train your brain to respond—rather than react—in critical moments, build emotional range, and use discomfort as a performance advantage. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I say that?”—this episode will show you how to stay in control when it matters most.
What to Listen For
[00:00:00] Why emotional intelligence beats raw intellect under pressure
[00:04:32] How to keep your cool during hard conversations
[00:07:15] Why naming your emotions gives you back control (affect labeling)
[00:11:28] The one mindset trick elite performers use to slow time during chaos
[00:15:40] Why “emotional range” is more important than positivity
[00:20:11] A Navy SEAL’s approach to mastering fear
[00:24:57] How to recognize your “emotional dashboard” before you blow up
[00:29:45] Why overconfidence is emotionally blinding — and how to fix it
[00:36:01] How Ryan teaches emotional control to MBA students and CEOs
[00:42:16] Emotional safety in leadership: what the research actually shows
[00:47:20] A 10-second tool to stay grounded when you want to explode
[00:51:55] What to do after an emotional failure — the self-compassion loop
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June 26, 2025 Present Like a Pro: The 4 Brain Hacks Used by Top Performers [Social Intelligence Brief]
In this short, tactical episode, AJ and Johnny deliver a science-backed masterclass on how to create presentations that audiences remember. Forget reading from your slides and dumping data. This episode outlines four proven strategies that top speakers use to captivate attention, boost retention, and make every talk land with clarity and impact.
What to Listen For:
[00:00] The brutal truth: people forget 90% of what they hear
[00:58] Strategy #1: Control the 10% – what’s the one thing they should remember?
[01:44] The science behind memory decay and how to structure around it
[03:05] Strategy #2: Use the Memory Curve – why timing matters more than you think
[04:12] Why you must “open with fire and close with clarity”
[05:23] Strategy #3: Kill the Split-Attention Effect – how to avoid losing your audience to your slides
[06:32] Minimal text, bold visuals, and Phil Jackson’s secret to motivating elite performers
[07:58] Strategy #4: Prevent Cognitive Overload – why more data = less retention
[09:04] The Rule of Three: a high-performer’s framework for simplifying complex ideas
[10:12] Recap of the 4 strategies that separate forgettable from impactful
[10:46] How top performers “wire it” – real-world drills inside the X-Factor Accelerator
[11:15] What “persuasion triggers” are—and how they level up leaders in real time
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Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CIA-proven guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to networking like a spy!
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Stop needlessly overpaying for car insurance. Before you renew your policy, do yourself a favor—download the Jerry app or head to JERRY.com/charm
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Resources from this Episode
⁠⁠Dr. Abbie Marono's website⁠⁠
⁠⁠The Upper Hand⁠⁠
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok

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June 23, 2025 Don’t Chase Trends—Chase Tension | Robert Siegel
Why do some leaders command respect while others get ignored? In this episode of Social Intelligence, Stanford professor and venture capitalist Robert Siegel breaks down the overlooked behaviors that separate average performers from high-impact leaders.
Drawing on decades of research and real-world business experience, Robert shares how humility, listening, and honest self-reflection are the key ingredients to long-term success. You’ll learn how to thrive in chaotic environments, shift from control to trust, and build loyalty in the people you lead — whether you’re running a startup, a classroom, or a family.
What to Listen For
[00:00:00] Why Robert’s background in tech and venture capital revealed a pattern in great leaders
[00:03:11] What leaders miss when they mistake charisma for competence
[00:07:19] The value of slowing down and listening — even when you’re under pressure
[00:10:32] Why being the smartest person in the room can make you ineffective
[00:14:09] Lessons from Motorola: how “hero culture” undermined the team
[00:18:23] The danger of over-optimizing for control instead of building trust
[00:25:00] The “credibility bank account” and how it affects influence and decision-making
[00:31:11] What CEOs often miss about emotional intelligence
[00:38:30] The role of humility in hiring, managing, and growing a company
[00:44:15] Why balancing empathy and execution is the mark of a real leader
[00:51:20] The underrated superpower of asking good questions instead of giving answers
[00:56:42] What Robert teaches his Stanford students about legacy and influence

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Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠CIA-proven guide⁠⁠⁠⁠ to networking like a spy!
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠
Stop needlessly overpaying for car insurance. Before you renew your policy, do yourself a favor—download the Jerry app or head to JERRY.com/charm
Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at ⁠⁠⁠www.rula.com/charm ⁠⁠⁠
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠.

Resources from this Episode
⁠Dr. Abbie Marono's website⁠
⁠The Upper Hand⁠
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok

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June 19, 2025 Your Network Is Weak—Here’s How to Fix It [Social Intelligence Brief]
Most people attend networking events hoping something good happens. High-performers don’t hope — they engineer connection. In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and John share a 3-part framework for dominating networking events without faking extroversion or relying on luck.
You’ll learn how to build relationships before the event even starts, create social capital in real-time, and make sure your connections actually turn into opportunities after the event. If you’re tired of leaving conferences with nothing but a stack of business cards, this is your blueprint for finally making networking work.
What to Listen For
[00:00:00] The problem with most networking: business cards, but no real relationships
[00:01:00] Strategy 1: Host a private dinner before the event to create instant connections
[00:03:00] How one client turned a simple dinner into the most talked-about moment of the conference
[00:04:40] The science behind why pre-event exposure boosts trust (Mere Exposure Effect)
[00:06:00] Strategy 2: How to become a super-connector — even if you’re introverted
[00:07:48] How live introductions instantly raise your status and social capital
[00:08:53] Strategy 3: Get hyper-specific about who you want to meet
[00:10:00] Why vague networking goals lead to vague results
[00:11:00] The follow-up system: 60-90 minutes that turn conversations into real opportunities
[00:12:07] How the pre-event dinner creates a collaborative "team" approach to networking
[00:14:09] Swing for the fences: how one client landed a keynote speaker at dinner
[00:15:12] The magic of networking happens before and after—not during

A Word From Our Sponsors
Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/sc⁠⁠⁠⁠ and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities!
Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠CIA-proven guide⁠⁠⁠⁠ to networking like a spy!
Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns.
Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠.
This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠
Stop needlessly overpaying for car insurance. Before you renew your policy, do yourself a favor—download the Jerry app or head to JERRY.com/charm
Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at ⁠⁠⁠www.rula.com/charm ⁠⁠⁠
Curious about your influence level?
Get your Influence Index Score today!
Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠.
Check in with AJ and Johnny!
⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok

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