On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Bestselling author of The 48 Laws of Power and The Law of the Sublime, Robert Greene, joins Jay to explore why so many of us feel unfulfilled, even when we're achieving everything we thought we wanted. He opens up about the life-threatening stroke that changed his perspective and inspired his new book, and shares how reconnecting with our childhood interests can help us discover our true purpose. Robert also explains why boredom, struggle, and confronting our mortality can lead to a more meaningful life, how to turn envy into gratitude, and practical ways to navigate workplace politics, complicated relationships, and the feeling that life has become stagnant.

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What I Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

02:18 Why We Feel Disconnected and Unfulfilled

06:27 Pursuing The Right Goals

11:32 Near-Death Experience And Writing The Sublime

13:13 Uncovering Your Authentic Self

19:51 The Looking-Glass Self

22:20 Overcoming Boredom Through Slow Disciplines

27:38 What is The Difference Between Happiness And Fulfillment?

32:15 Resisting Modern Culture And Embracing Difficulty

36:08 Building Confidence Through Small Steps

41:03 The Anxiety of Feeling Behind in Life

48:00 Connection To Others vs. Chasing Wealth

51:17 Turning Envy Into Gratitude

55:12 Real Fulfillment Beyond Financial Success

58:32 Money As Oxygen, Not Fulfillment

01:00:13 Workplace Politics And Power Dynamics

01:02:46 Why We’re Drawn to People Who Send Mixed Signals

01:04:53 Breaking Out of Repetitive Life Patterns

01:07:23 Confronting Mortality To Feel Alive

01:14:45 Transcendence, Evolution, And Spirituality

01:19:37 The Anti-Sublime Vs. the False Sublime

01:25:02 Robert On Final Five

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Jay explores why we can have plenty of time to rest and still feel completely exhausted. He shares five practical shifts to help you break out of the cycle of constant busyness, set healthier boundaries, and understand what your mind and body actually need to recover. Jay challenges the pressure to always be productive and explains how to let go of the guilt around slowing down so you can finally feel rested, not just take time off.

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What I Discuss:

00:00 Why Rest Doesn't Always Feel Restorative

03:30 Give Your Day An Ending

09:15 Rest From What Actually Exhausted You

13:10 Make Yourself Temporarily Unavailable

19:30 Do Something You Never Have To Get Better At

23:05 Stop Justifying Why You Need Rest

27:45 Reclaiming Choice Over Your Time

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This episode with Trisha Paytas was filmed on September 28th and set to release on October 28th

Trisha Paytas opens up like never before about the experiences that shaped her life, from childhood trauma and her complicated relationship with her father to stripping and the years she spent chasing fame and validation online. She reflects on the rise and fallout of Frenemies, the intense online backlash that followed, and how therapy, DBT, and meditation helped her rebuild her life. Trisha also shares how her marriage to Moses and becoming a mother have changed her perspective on success, happiness, and what truly matters. In her upcoming memoir, Crying on the Kitchen Floor, she reflects on her complicated relationship with fame, her mental health struggles, and the journey that brought her into a new era of healing.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

01:50 Warning Lies Ahead!

03:00 Finding Identity Through Motherhood

03:51 Blurry Childhood And Early Exposure

06:12 Seeking Her Father's Approval

08:20 Fears Of Raising Daughters

11:54 Growing Up Without Guidance & A Teacher’s Hurtful Comment

16:26 The Importance of A Mother's Protective Love

18:37 Invented Personas And Her First TV Appearance

21:23 Media's Romanticizing of Age-Gap Relationships

23:32 When A Teacher Crossed the Line

27:45 Advocating Against Power Imbalances

29:14 Moving To LA And Entering Sex Work

33:45 Fear Of Her Husband's Judgment

36:50 Past Lifetimes Vs. Present Spiritual Peace

38:41 From Sex Work To Internet Trolling

43:32 They Don’t Hate Me, They Hate The Persona

44:40 The Real-Life Cost of Your Online Persona

48:20 The First Time Trisha and Jay Met

49:30 Letting Go of Judgment Through Monk Training

52:44 Apologizing To Past Beefs

54:11 The Boy Who Cried Wolf And Police Wellness Checks

56:30 What Are The Vows of a Monk?

01:00:13 The Pitfalls Of Public Relationships

01:00:57 Balancing Public Content With Privacy

01:05:49 2019 Cancellation And Hitting Rock Bottom

01:09:41 Her BPD Diagnosis And DBT Therapy

01:11:40 Peak Success On The Frenemies Podcast

01:16:48 Frenemies Fallout, And The Unreleased Finale

01:19:32 Relentless Harassment And A Severe Psychotic Break

01:24:10 Meditation And Fertility Success

01:29:54 Perspective On The Ethan Klein Feud

01:35:20 Reflections For Her Children

01:36:44 Realizing Love Outweighs Fame And Money

01:39:08 Trisha On Final Five

Episode Resources:

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Communication expert Vinh Giang joins Jay to share practical tools from his first book, Before We Forget How to Connect, to help you become a more confident communicator and build deeper, more meaningful connections. Vinh explains how to become a better listener, avoid common communication mistakes, and speak so people actually pay attention. From sounding confident when you're nervous to speaking up in meetings, navigating difficult conversations, and making a great first impression, Vinh shares simple techniques to help you communicate more effectively and connect with people in every area of your life.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

00:25 Before We Forget How To Connect

01:52 The High-Low Buffalo Icebreaker

02:45 Sharing Personal Highs

05:15 Sharing Personal Lows

11:40 Sharing Personal Buffalos

13:40 Escaping Small Talk

16:10 Overcoming Self-Judgment

17:58 Sharing Wins Without Sounding Arrogant

19:50 Communication Beyond The Script

20:40 Gen Z's Communication Struggles

23:20 Last Word, Last Letter Game

27:20 The Four Modalities Of Listening

29:50 The Three Follow-Up Questions Rule

35:50 How Do You Make A Great First Impression?

40:10 Reading the Room, Not Formulas

44:10 Finding Your Unique Voice

49:00 Life As A Book: New Chapters

50:40 Building Executive Presence

53:20 Fix Your Resting Blank Face

58:30 Filming Yourself For Self-Awareness

01:02:20 When Your Mind Goes Blank

01:06:10 The Power Of The Pause

01:09:30 How Can You Sound Confident When You’re Nervous?

01:14:40 From Texting Chemistry to Real-Life Connection

01:18:40 How to Communicate Better During Arguments

01:20:20 Learning to Speak Up In Meetings

01:25:45 How to Join a Conversation Without Feeling Awkward

01:28:20 Leaving A Conversation Gracefully

01:31:4 Embracing Vulnerability

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Jay shares five unconventional mental exercises to break out of autopilot and strengthen parts of your mind you rarely use. From mapping out an imaginary place and sitting in silence without distractions to mirror gazing, reverse journaling, and spotting patterns in everyday life, he explores how these simple practices can sharpen your imagination, self-awareness, and attention. Jay explains why actively challenging your mind can be more powerful than passive learning, and how just 10 minutes a day can change the way you see and experience the world around you.

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What I Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

00:25 The Cost Of Familiarity

02:23 Redefining Mental Growth

03:28 Lucid Mapping

05:30 Strengthening Your Imagination

08:16 Training Internal Awareness

09:38 Overcoming Overstimulation And Boredom

11:45 10-Minute Sensory Reduction

13:24 Becoming More Aware of Your Thoughts

14:53 Observation Before Correction

17:07 Reverse Journaling

17:47 Reverse To-Do Lists

21:55 Pattern Hunting And Training Attention

23:17 Recognizing Behavioral Patterns

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Jay takes four listener calls exploring the different ways we experience grief, from caring for a child with chronic illness and losing a close friendship to mourning a parent who's still alive and fearing the loss of someone you love. He shares practical ways to navigate uncertainty, make peace with relationships that have changed, let go of guilt, and stay present with the people you love instead of living in fear of losing them.

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What I Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

01:04 Finding Purpose Amidst Uncertainty

07:02 Navigating Inconsistent Friendships

09:30 The Radius Of Respect

15:40 How Do You Grieve Someone Who Is Still Alive?

16:47 Understanding Ambiguous Loss

21:48 Coping With Anticipatory Loss

23:37 Learning to Appreciate What You Have Before It's Gone

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Ezra Frech shares the mindset, discipline, and determination that have shaped his career and led him to win two Paralympic gold medals. From turning heartbreak in Tokyo into motivation to using visualization and meditation to perform under pressure, Ezra reveals how he prepares for the biggest moments of his career. He also opens up about competing on Dancing With the Stars, breaking down misconceptions about disability, and founding Angel City Sports to make adaptive sports more accessible to the next generation.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

01:20 "Pressure Doesn't Exist"

02:51 The Day Ezra Was Born

06:24 The 15-Hour Surgery At Age 3

11:15 The Kindergarten Letter

13:29 Learning To Handle The Stares

16:21 Overcoming Stigma And Bullying

23:18 Falling In Love With Sports

27:00 Changing Culture & Looking Ahead to LA 2028

31:09 Mentorship From Pau Gasol

33:56 A Message From Novak Djokovic

36:53 How Do You Define Confidence?

40:43 The Moment That Inspired His Paralympic Dream

44:35 Making Team USA At 14

48:41 How Running Blades Actually Work

52:09 Tokyo Heartbreak & "The Man In The Arena"

58:53 Visualizing Paris Gold Every Morning

01:04:50 Protecting His Good Leg

01:11:33 Winning Double Gold & The 20-Minute Rule

01:17:00 Meditation Under Pressure

01:20:34 A Lifelong Dream to Compete on Dancing With the Stars

01:24:14 Inside the Dancing With the Stars Family

01:27:19 Learning To Dance On A Blade

01:30:12 Pressure Is A Privilege

01:32:10 Making Adaptive Sports Mainstream

01:37:10 Ezra On Final 5

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Jay explores how to stop replaying past mistakes, let go of guilt, and move forward when an apology isn't enough. Drawing on research, he shares four ways to work through regret: understanding the difference between guilt and shame, making a meaningful apology, accepting that forgiveness is out of your control, and learning to move forward even when regret hasn't completely faded.

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What I Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

00:24 The Guilt Spiral

02:10 Accountability Vs. Beating Yourself Up

03:00 Guilt Vs. Shame

05:30 Facts Vs. Mental Stories

09:15 Creating Distance from Negative Self-Talk

10:42 The Power Of Self-Compassion

13:03 Anatomy Of An Effective Apology

15:35 Turning Regret Into Positive Change

18:54 Accepting Someone's Response

21:45 Learning to Move Forward With Regret

22:51 Bringing Your Focus Back to the Present

24:56 Suffering Doesn’t Equal Remorse

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Jay explores why first dates have started to feel more like performance reviews than opportunities for connection. He shares four ways to make dating feel fun and exciting again, from leading with curiosity and embracing new experiences to finding something valuable in every date and bringing a little romance back into your love life.

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What I Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

00:25 Dating Burnout And Fatigue

01:50 Wanting Connection But Dreading Dating

02:35 First Dates As Performance Reviews

04:19 Curiosity Over Optimization

06:00 Evaluating People Vs. Experiencing Them

11:03 Make The Date An Adventure

13:14 New Environments Create Natural Connection

14:47 Building Dates Around Your Life

16:20 Every Date As a Lesson

17:30 Self-Discovery Through Dating

19:25 Emotional Growth Through Lived Experience

23:00 Romanticize Your Love Life Again

28:00 Embracing The Beginning

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Collin Gosselin opens up about what it was really like growing up in the spotlight of Jon & Kate Plus 8, sharing his personal account of life behind the camera. He recounts his experiences with family isolation, allegations of physical abuse, time spent in a basement room, and his twenty-month stay in an institution he says he never needed to be in. Collin also details how a smuggled note led to a reunion with his father, how he is working to rebuild his life today, and why he is finally choosing to speak publicly about his past.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Welcome To On Purpose And Disclaimer

01:43 Inside the Gosselin Household

03:50 Faking Reality On Camera

05:15 The Normalization Of Constant Filming

06:35 The Turning Point

09:06 Modern Child Exploitation

12:35 Pushing Back And Early On-Camera Resistance

17:02 Earliest Memories Of In-Home Abuse

20:37 Targeted Isolation And Homeschooling

25:21 Child Protective System Flaws

35:11 Advocacy In The Face Of Public Backlash

36:55 The Attempted Runaway

44:03 Institutionalization At Age 11

48:16 Twenty Months In Inpatient Confinement

53:53 The Official Admission Records

59:12 The Harsh Reality of Living in Isolation

01:04:45 The Smuggled Letter And Custody Battle

01:08:37 Reconnecting And Healing

01:11:26 Repairing The Father-Son Relationship

01:14:00 Turning Pain into Purpose

01:17:14 False Diagnoses & His Dream of Joining The Marines

01:24:41 Legal Defamation Threats

01:26:16 Where Does He Stand With His Siblings?

01:30:20 Who is Collin Today?

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