In this conversation on the Know Thyself podcast with André Duqum, Matthew explores why we so often mistake familiar patterns for healthy ones—and how our “normal” can quietly keep us stuck. From gravitating toward emotionally unavailable people to operating from scarcity and self-protection, he breaks down how our past shapes what we tolerate, even when it hurts.

This episode is a reminder that your past doesn’t get to dictate your future . . . and that real change begins when you stop staring at the wall you’ve mistaken for the world.

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I’ve carefully designed these steps to address the stages you’ll go through. And while we all know this process can take an enormous amount of time to put into action, I hope these steps will serve as a compass that will keep you pointed toward your strength (in spite of any distractions the narcissist may try to throw your way).

I also hope this episode provides you with strength, acceptance, peace, and progress as you finally move on with your life and remember what it feels like to be free from the coercive control of the narcissist in your life.

P.S. Even if you’re not in this situation, learning these principles in advance may save you a lot of time and grief down the road. And if you are going through this right now? Please know you’re not alone. I’m right here with you.

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December can be a strangely emotional time—even when everything looks festive on the outside. In this podcast, Matthew revisits “Complicated Christmas,” a message created for anyone whose holiday doesn’t match the picture-perfect version we so often see online.

If you’ve ever felt the weight of loneliness, grief, anxiety, or that uneasy mix of emotions that tends to surface as the year winds down, this podcast is a reminder that you’re far from alone—and that what you’re feeling is more common than you think.

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Early dating has a sneaky way of turning us into versions of ourselves we don’t even like. You start off calm, confident, grounded . . . and suddenly you’re overthinking texts or pulling back in ways that don’t feel true to who you are. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t like who I am with this person,” there’s a reason for that, and it’s not because you’re broken.

In this week’s episode, Matthew breaks down how early dating so often goes wrong without anyone meaning for it to. More importantly, he explains how to lead instead of react, and how that shift can turn dating from exhausting into something that actually brings out the best in you.

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We all know the feeling. We start speaking to or dating someone and we begin to get excited about them . . . but then as soon as we show interest, they start to pull away. This can be painful and demoralizing. But why does this happen? Is it them, or is it us?

In this episode, Stephen and I break down a number of “them” and “us” scenarios. For instance:

• Some people loathe themselves so much that they devalue anyone who starts to see value in them.

• Others might have an obsession with attainment, and once they “get” you, they just move on to their next quest.

Thankfully, in these examples, you want to scare off a person like that. But sometimes our actions may inadvertently scare them off. For example: when they see us valuing them more than we should, especially given the stage of the relationship we’re currently in.

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Long distance relationships can feel intoxicating. The late-night calls. The fantasy. The sense that if it weren’t for geography, this could really be something. But when does distance deepen connection—and when does it quietly keep us stuck in something that can’t truly grow?

In this episode of the Love Life Podcast, we go deeper than ever on long distance love. We talk about why these connections can feel so powerful, how fantasy can sneak in and blur reality, and the often-overlooked skill of restraint (knowing when not to let yourself fall, even when attraction is there).

This episode is about discernment, self-respect, and learning how to protect your heart without closing it off . . . whether the person you’re talking to lives across the world or just across town.

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Breakups can flip your whole world upside down, and in this week’s video, Matthew and Jay Shetty get real about what those moments actually feel like. They discuss why healing doesn’t follow a timeline, and why some seasons of pain simply have to be lived through at their own pace.

They also talk about how heartbreak can shape you in unexpected ways and why “right person, wrong time” doesn’t exist. Don’t miss this honest conversation between two friends about finding strength in the very moments you wish you could fast-forward.

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Does it sometimes feel like men are afraid of commitment? You could be dating someone for a few months—and have a ton of chemistry and a great emotional connection—and yet, like clockwork, you hit a wall the moment the relationship gets to a stage where it feels like it should be progressing to the next level. Just when you start to feel that this could be something real, he puts his guard up and isn’t ready to commit.

Situations like these can be unbelievably painful, and they can leave you feeling crazy as you analyze the situation to death, wondering if you’re somehow not good enough.

Well, in this brand-new episode, I’ll share with you 3 of the main reasons why a lot of men are afraid of commitment and what you can do to turn things around by circumventing those fears.

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There are breakups that hurt . . . and then there are the ones that feel like they’re splitting your life in two. In this episode, the Love Life Podcast team unpacks the kind of pain that’s so shocking and overwhelming that you can barely make sense of it—the heartbreak that leaves you questioning everything you thought was real. If you’ve ever been blindsided by a breakup, this conversation is for you.

You’ll learn what you can do when the pain feels unbearable and what your greatest power can be right now. Whether you want to know how to steady yourself, who to trust with your heart, or how to begin rebuilding, this episode will help you find your footing again.

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If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing over someone who barely knows you exist, or clinging to a connection that’s all spark but no substance, this video with Lisa Bilyeu is going to hit home. In it, I break down the four levels of attraction . . . and reveal which ones matter most.

You’ll learn how to stop overinvesting in situations that aren’t going anywhere, how to recognize when you’re confusing impact with character, and how to stop grieving someone who was never your person to begin with. If you’re done wasting time and ready to build something real, don’t miss this.

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