Why can't you let it go? You typed the text, deleted it three times, and sent it anyway just to get the last word. In part one of a three-part series, Sabrina Zohar breaks down the fight response: keeping score, replaying old arguments, the silent treatment, test texts, and why anger rumination keeps you stuck instead of setting you free. Whether you're single, dating, or years into a relationship, this one is for anyone who can't stop fighting to be right.

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Chapters:

00:00 Why you can't let it go

02:35 What being triggered really means

04:50 Needing the last word

08:41 Keeping score in relationships

10:58 Test texts and silent treatment

13:53 Fight as a survival response

16:43 Why we match the energy

20:25 Testing for reassurance

24:41 Anger rumination explained

27:41 The 20 minute rule

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What is anxiety, really, and why won't it go away no matter how much you overthink it? Sabrina sits down with neuroscientist and anxiety expert Dr. Russ Kennedy (Anxiety MD) to break down anxiety in dating, relationships, and everyday life. They cover why anxiety lives in the body and not just the head, why CBT, EMDR, and medication so often treat the symptoms instead of the root, and how to tell a real alarm from a false one. This one is for anyone who has ever felt anxious, avoidant, or convinced they were fundamentally broken.

They also dig into the myth that a new partner will fix your anxiety, why overthinking is really under-feeling, and how inner child work and somatic healing actually move you forward. You will walk away with tangible tools to stop abandoning yourself, get out of your head, and work through anxious attachment, breakups, and the uncertainty of dating. The biggest takeaway is learning to separate the feeling in your body from the thoughts in your mind, because that is where real healing starts.

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Get Dr. Russ' book, "Anxiety Rx: A Revolutionary New Prescription for Anxiety Relief―from the Doctor Who Created It"

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Chapters:

00:00 What Is Anxiety, Really

06:00 Anxiety Lives in the Body

13:30 Why Coping Tools Fall Short

20:20 Overthinking Is Under-Feeling

26:40 Most Damaging Anxiety Advice

33:30 Worry and Inner Child Wounds

41:00 Inner Child Healing Exercise

46:30 Telling a Partner You're Anxious

53:00 Why Feeling Beats Thinking

59:27 Rapid Fire and Biggest Lies

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What does compatibility actually mean, and why do so many people walk away from good relationships while staying stuck in bad ones? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina breaks down the broken definition of compatibility most of us absorbed from movies and Disney, and why shared hobbies, an easy connection, instant chemistry, and looking good on paper are not the things that make love last. She brings the research, including what a 20-year study revealed about perceived partner responsiveness and the quiet experience of feeling truly known by your partner.

Whether you're single and trying to date with more discernment or you're in a long-term relationship wondering why the spark faded, this conversation gives you a real filter. Sabrina explains fading affect bias and why your brain keeps you hooked on an ex, why the "right" person can feel boring at first, and the one question that works on a third date or a tenth year of marriage: do I feel known here? A grounded, practical look at attachment, dating, and building a relationship that deepens instead of rots.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

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Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 What compatibility really means

03:38 What compatibility is not

06:05 Why easy isn't the same as right

10:33 Why the spark isn't love

17:00 How your brain fakes connection

23:22 Why you can't get over an ex

26:28 Compatibility is a verb

28:08 Why feeling known matters most

30:32 The cost of choosing real love

32:46 The one question to ask

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What does a secure breakup actually look like? Most of us have never seen one, so we don't know it's even possible. In the finale of this four-part breakup series, Sabrina breaks down secure attachment in real terms: the in-person conversation, the honest reason, the clean ending that lets grief actually move instead of looping for years. She lays all four attachment styles side by side (anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure) so you can finally see why the same breakup hits four completely different ways, and why your reaction was never about how much the relationship mattered.

This one goes deep on breakup recovery, how to get over someone, and the truth about earned secure attachment: that security can be built later in life through co-regulation and consistent safety, not love alone. If you've ever wondered why being loved still left you feeling anxious or avoidant, this episode is the answer. Plus, the tool of the week that works for every attachment style and helps you spot secure behavior in the people already in your life.

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If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 What A Secure Breakup Looks Like

03:32 Why Speaking Your Truth Costs You

05:36 The Breakup Conversation Done Right

08:42 Do Secure People Still Feel Pain?

10:10 Secure Isn't Being Unbothered

12:20 3 Things A Secure System Does

15:37 Can You Become Securely Attached?

18:50 The Weeks And Months After

22:41 All 4 Breakups Side By Side

26:17 Tool: Spotting Secure Behavior

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What is polyamory, and how is it different from ethical non-monogamy? Can an open relationship actually last, and is dating really any different across the gay, straight, and bisexual communities? In this Pride Month episode, Sabrina sits down with writer, actor, and Tell Me Something Messy host Brandon Kyle Goodman to unpack poly, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), open relationships, jealousy, trust, and what every monogamous person can learn from how non-monogamous people communicate.

They dig into how to know if ENM is actually for you, the real difference between non-monogamy and cheating, how to handle jealousy and insecurity, and why no dating book or set of rules will ever beat honest communication. They also run a live dating profile audit packed with tips on attraction, compatibility, and getting comfortable with rejection. Whoever you love and however you connect, you deserve love like the rest of us.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Polyamory and Open Relationships Intro

06:08 Why Men Love Bitches and Dating Rules

10:14 Masculine and Feminine Energy in Love

14:22 What Polyamory Actually Is

18:29 How to Know if Polyamory Is for You

22:34 Open Relationship vs Cheating

29:10 Why People Choose Polyamory

35:03 Using Sex to Numb Loneliness

42:29 Dating Profile Audit and Tips

51:36 Meeting People and Handling Rejection

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Ever swing between anxious and avoidant with the same person, reaching for them one minute and running the next? That's not you being broken or "too much." In week three of the Breakups by Attachment Style series, Sabrina breaks down disorganized attachment (also called fearful avoidant attachment): the push-pull, hot-and-cold, on-again-off-again pattern that makes you feel like you're losing your mind. Learn what's actually happening in your nervous system, why your relationships keep taking this shape, and why no attachment style ever excuses how someone treats you.

Inside: the research on fearful avoidant attachment in adulthood, a real story of dating someone disorganized, and what the path to earned security actually looks like (slower than 90 days, and worth every bit of it). Plus the Tool of the Week, a simple somatic state check-in to start tracking your nervous system today. If you've never fit neatly into anxious or avoidant, this one on attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and breaking the cycle is for you, baby.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Anxious and Avoidant at the Same Time

03:48 What Disorganized Attachment Is

06:36 Why You Can't Predict the Pattern

09:43 On Again Off Again Relationships

13:35 Hot and Cold Relationship Story

18:00 Why You Keep Going Back

21:00 How the Push Pull Cycle Works

25:03 What Causes Disorganized Attachment

28:55 How to Heal Fearful Avoidant

31:26 Somatic Practice to Self Regulate

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Why does an avoidant ex look completely fine after the breakup while you're falling apart? In Part 2 of this 4-part breakup series, Sabrina breaks down avoidant attachment after a breakup using actual attachment research, not the recycled TikTok takes. She explains what deactivation really means in the nervous system, why avoidants register as less distressed in the acute post-breakup period, and what's actually happening when they seem to move on overnight or jump straight into a new relationship.

You'll also learn the three types of avoidant reach-outs (suppression breakdown, the phantom ex phenomenon, and the rare real reach out), how to tell which one you're getting, whether avoidants can actually change, and why you keep responding even when you know better. Stay until the end for the Tool of the Week, the single most useful practice for anyone trying to heal from an avoidant discard, an anxious-avoidant dynamic, or a breakup where you can't stop wondering if you ever mattered to them.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Inside the Avoidant Breakup

06:10 What Avoidant Attachment Really Is

10:45 Why Avoidants Don't Grieve at First

13:21 Avoidant Discard vs Breakup

17:08 The Suppression Study Explained

21:20 3 Types of Avoidant Reach Outs

25:37 Why You Keep Responding

28:21 Can Avoidants Actually Change

31:12 Healing Without Becoming Avoidant

33:40 Tool: Stop Predicting Their Feelings

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It's 2am, you've checked their Instagram three times, and your body still aches for the person you know wasn't right. In this episode, Sabrina unpacks the anxious attachment breakup: why anxiously attached people chase, ruminate, and spiral after a relationship ends, what new research reveals about the nervous system pull toward an ex, and the one move keeping most anxious people stuck in the loop.

This is part one of a four-part breakup series covering anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment styles. Expect honest talk on post-breakup rumination, no contact, withdrawal symptoms, self-abandonment, and how to stop chasing emotionally unavailable partners, plus a 30-second reframe to interrupt the spiral the next time your brain starts to loop.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 - The 2am anxious breakup spiral

04:54 - Why you feel withdrawal from your ex

07:08 - Rumination and the pull toward your ex

11:43 - Both sides of an anxious breakup

15:48 - Why your 2am thoughts feel true

17:21 - Self punishment after a breakup

20:23 - How to actually get over a breakup

24:45 - Why anxious people grow most

27:47 - Tool of the week: the reframe swap

31:12 - Grief vs self punishment

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In the first ever live coaching session of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina sits down with brand ambassador and content creator Judit Moreno for an unfiltered conversation about anxious attachment, the father wound, and why so many of us keep dating emotionally unavailable men. They unpack how childhood shapes adult relationship patterns, what love bombing does to your nervous system, and why self-abandonment can feel like home when chaos was your blueprint for love.

If you have ever wondered why you keep attracting the same partner in different bodies, spiraled in anxious attachment dating cycles, or felt like you are "too much" in relationships, this episode is for you. Sabrina walks Judit through real-time inner child work, reparenting, and the powerful mindset shift from wanting to be picked to actually choosing yourself. A must listen for anyone working on attachment theory, healing childhood trauma, and breaking toxic dating patterns for good.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 First Live Coaching Session

05:15 Anxious Attachment & Father Wound

10:36 When Anxiety Takes Over Your Body

14:47 Be Picked vs. Picking Yourself

19:30 Toxic Love, Gaslighting & Cheating

24:38 Normalizing Chaos in Childhood

29:39 Why Chaos Feels Like Love

35:27 Who Are You Without Struggle?

41:08 Loving the Parts You Hate

46:13 Shame, Guilt & Reparenting

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We hurt in relationships, but we also heal in them. Sabrina sits down with Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, to map out the actual stages of healing attachment wounds: core wounds from childhood, unmet needs, subconscious rewiring, anxious attachment patterns, somatic work, and nervous system regulation. No secure partner is going to fix you, and this episode breaks down exactly why.

If you are stuck in the same dating cycles, doing all the personal growth content and wondering why nothing is sticking, this one is for you. Thais explains why self-awareness is not the same as healing, how to re-parent the unmet needs from your childhood, and the 21-day practice that patterns new beliefs into your subconscious mind. This conversation covers inner child work, attachment theory, and the deep reprogramming that actually changes how you show up in love.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

0:00 Hurt In Relationships, Heal In Them

6:21 Why Your Subconscious Runs Your Life

11:32 You Can't Outsource Your Healing

18:55 Rewire Core Wounds In 21 Days

24:55 Unmet Childhood Needs Explained

29:49 Nervous System Regulation Truth

34:08 Somatic Processing For Triggers

41:21 How To Communicate Needs Clearly

47:33 Setting Boundaries Without Guilt

53:04 Rewire Anger And Reactive Behavior

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