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It’s pub day for Why Am I Like This?, and Sabrina’s mom Helly joins the show to talk honestly about Sabrina’s old dating patterns: texting nonstop, chasing emotionally unavailable men, people pleasing, and losing herself trying to make someone love her. Helly shares the advice she gave Sabrina for years, like “be careful what you wish for” and “you have to love yourself more than you need to be loved,” and explains why choosing yourself is where real change starts.
Sabrina then opens up about imposter syndrome, needing outside validation, the pressure of content creation, and her mom’s health, and how hearing “I’m proud of you” changed things for her. If you struggle with anxious attachment, self-abandonment, low self-worth, or letting go of people who don’t choose you, this episode is a reminder that healing is messy, there’s no fully healed version of you, and you can still become who you want to be.
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Chapters:
00:00 Mom Reveals My Past Dating Patterns
03:00 Obsessive Texting and Losing Yourself
06:00 Choosing Yourself After Hitting Bottom
09:00 Stop Waiting for Someone to Rescue You
12:00 Letting Go of Ego in Relationships
15:00 Chasing Validation and Self-Worth
18:00 Imposter Syndrome and Fear of Failure
21:00 There Is No Fully Healed Version of You
24:00 You Get to Choose How You Show Up
27:00 Stop Chasing the Spark, Choose Safety
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Why do I keep choosing the wrong people? Why can't I let go of someone who won't choose me? If you're stuck asking "why," this episode is for you. Sabrina breaks down why self-awareness alone won't heal anxious attachment, how childhood patterns follow you into dating and relationships, and what Mary Ainsworth's Strange Situation study shows about anxious and avoidant attachment: avoidants feel the panic too, they just hide it.
She also reads from Chapter 4 of her new book, Why Am I Like This?, about a dating story that taught her what self-abandonment really looks like. Learn the better questions to ask yourself, how nervous system regulation changes the story you tell yourself, and how to stop people pleasing and start choosing you.
Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book
Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
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Chapters:
00:00 Stop Asking Why: Ask Better Questions
04:03 Why Self-Awareness Isn't Enough
07:06 How to Trust Yourself and Choose You
09:41 The Strange Situation Attachment Study
13:10 Family Patterns and Outgrowing People
16:04 Feeling Insecure? Stop Being Perfect
18:37 Childhood Trauma and Anxious Attachment
21:42 Abandoning Yourself to Get Chosen
25:09 Self-Abandonment Is a Trauma Response
28:41 Third-Person Self-Talk Stops Rumination
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Why does healing feel so hard, and why doesn't "regulating your nervous system" fix it? Nervous system expert Masha Kay returns to break down what the internet gets wrong about nervous system regulation, why regulation has become the new perfectionism, and what capacity really means in dating and relationships. We talk about why someone can love you and still not meet your needs, how to handle being triggered by a text, why "if he wanted to, he would" is bad advice, and what's actually going on when an avoidant partner shuts down.
Masha explains somatic experiencing and titration in plain terms, how to stop ruminating and overthinking, and why building stability in your whole life matters more than any quick trick for calming anxiety. If you're dealing with anxious attachment, a painful breakup, emotional triggers, or healing from childhood patterns, this episode gives you real tools for healing trauma, feeling safe in your body, and building healthier relationships.
Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book
Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
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Chapters:
00:00 Nervous System Regulation Myths
05:16 What Dysregulation Really Looks Like
10:44 Why Love Isn't Enough in Relationships
16:43 Healing Your Whole Life, Not Just Dating
22:27 Feeling Safe Around Difficult Family
27:08 Somatic Experiencing Explained
33:11 Titration: Why Slow Healing Works
38:38 Are You Really Doing the Work?
43:34 How to Handle Triggers in Dating
50:20 Avoidant Attachment and Overthinking
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How do you get over a breakup without making it mean something is wrong with you? In the final episode of the Things To Do and Not To Do series, Sabrina breaks down what to do and what not to do during and after a breakup, from why no contact matters (and why it shouldn't be used to make your ex miss you) to how to handle the urge to text your ex, stop ruminating, and accept that closure is a decision you make, even when you never get the conversation. She also covers processing anger and grief, moving on from someone who broke up with you months ago, staying civil with an ex you work with or co-parent with, and seeing your ex on dating apps.
Whether you got dumped or did the dumping, this episode will help you stop tying rejection to your self-worth, let go of who you hoped they would become, and heal after heartbreak without rushing it. Plus, Sabrina shares her tool of the week, the unsent letter, a simple exercise for releasing what you never got to say so you can finally move on.
Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book
Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
Product of the week! https://sabrinazohar.com/product-details/product/69e909bae71ea81b10c2a97c
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Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!
Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!
Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE!
Chapters:
00:00 How to Handle Getting Dumped
03:12 Don't Make a Breakup About Your Worth
06:34 Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Your Ex
09:08 Processing Anger and Grief After Breakup
11:48 Breakup Withdrawal and No Contact
14:30 How to Walk Away From an Ex
17:23 How to Get Closure After a Breakup
20:08 When You're the One Who Ended It
22:15 Seeing Your Ex on Dating Apps
24:42 Unsent Letter Exercise for Heartbreak
Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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The dos and don'ts of dating and relationships, from the first date to years in. Sabrina covers what to do and not do before, during, and after a first date: stop the endless texting, set boundaries and non-negotiables, watch for reciprocity and consistency, and stop falling for potential and breadcrumbs.
Then the relationship dos and don'ts: responding to bids for connection, communicating so your partner actually hears you, handling jealousy without surveillance, and keeping the dating habits that build a healthy, secure relationship.
Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book
Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
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Chapters:
00:00 Breadcrumbs and Bare Minimum Dating
04:22 Dating Dos and Don'ts Before a Date
07:18 Falling for the Idea of Someone
11:04 Big Conversations on a First Date
15:20 What to Do on a First Date
18:26 Why Texting Builds False Intimacy
22:36 Reciprocity and Consistency in Dating
25:25 Relationship Dos and Don'ts
29:11 Jealousy and Opposite Sex Friendships
33:46 How to Track Bids for Connection
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This one is about feeling behind. The belief that you missed your window, that everyone else got the memo, that whatever you want is off the table now because of your age. We are answering the questions you keep sending in: how to date after divorce without carrying the last relationship into the next one, how to stop treating the apps like a second job, whether age gaps actually work and where they stop working, and how to make the kids decision when everyone has an opinion about it except you.
We also get into why so many of us stay in relationships that are hurting us and call it love, what it actually takes to rebuild after a divorce or a breakup that flattened you, and why perimenopause is a conversation you should be having in your 30s instead of finding out at 47. Tamsen Fadal, journalist and author of How to Menopause, joins me for it. Nobody is behind. You are just on your own timeline.
Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book
Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
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Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.
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Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!
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Chapters:
00:00 From News Anchor To Menopause Advocate
05:24 What You Look For Changes With Age
09:15 Divorce, Debt, And Starting Over
13:38 Knowing When To Leave A Relationship
18:48 What A Healthy Relationship Feels Like
24:19 The Pressure To Have Kids
29:35 How To Decide If You Want Children
35:58 Do Age Gaps Actually Work
40:12 Dating App Burnout And Discouragement
45:48 How To Stop Feeling Behind
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You already know the answer. You just keep asking everyone but yourself: him, your friends, your therapist, a stranger with a podcast, anyone who will confirm what you already feel. Sabrina gets into why outsourcing your worth feels safer than trusting your own read, and what happens when you let someone else's behavior become the verdict on your value. He pulled away, so you must be too much. She chose someone else, so you must be nothing.
Listener questions on telling a gut feeling apart from relationship anxiety and ROCD, love bombing and ghosting, staying in a situationship that keeps regressing, and chasing emotionally unavailable men while writing off the available ones as doormats. Anxious and avoidant attachment, reassurance seeking, the abandonment wound, boundaries, and how to stop handing over the pen so your own knowing finally counts.
Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book
Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
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Chapters:
00:00 Are They Into Me Or Am I Reading In
03:09 Would You Be Proud Of Your Life
05:23 Gut Feeling Or Relationship Anxiety
08:02 Why Green Flags Feel Uncomfortable
11:23 Owning Your Part In What Repeats
15:45 Stop Romanticizing The Bare Minimum
19:16 How To Validate Yourself
23:11 Chasing Someone Who Is Pulling Away
27:18 The Red Flags You Ignore Early On
31:34 Losing Weight Won't Make Them Stay
Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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How do you actually get okay being alone? In part one of a three part series, Sabrina answers your questions about being single: how to stop wanting a relationship so badly, how to grieve a breakup or a divorce without rushing the healing, and how to rebuild your identity when it was wrapped up in someone else. She gets into why making dating your hobby keeps you stuck, and the difference between feeling lonely and just being bored.
She also covers the dating app validation loop and the delete then re-download cycle on Hinge and Bumble, why anxious and avoidant people are drawn to each other, the research on how fear of being single leads people to settle for less responsive partners, and the three non-negotiables and boundaries that changed her dating life. Plus a tool of the week and a product of the week.
Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book
Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
Product of the week! https://a.co/d/08HxSyv2
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Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE!
Chapters:
00:00 Why Being Single Feels Like Failure
03:24 Build A Full Life While Single
06:52 Don't Make Dating Your Hobby
10:25 Choose People Who Choose You
13:26 No One Is Coming To Save You
17:26 Stop Wanting A Relationship So Bad
20:53 When Are You Ready To Date Again
24:14 Rebuild Your Identity After A Breakup
26:57 Dating App Validation Loop
30:23 Take Yourself Out This Week
Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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What does loving yourself actually look like when it isn't bubble baths, face masks, or affirmations you don't believe? Sabrina breaks down the real difference between self-love and self-esteem, what the self-compassion research says about anxiety and resilience, and why your inner critic isn't your enemy but a survival strategy you learned somewhere. She also tells the story of the guy who said he wasn't attracted to her two months in, why she walked away that night, and how she met her partner five days later.
This one covers how to stop self-abandoning in dating, three questions to ask yourself on every first date, why proximity and timing matter more than love, how to find closure after being ghosted, how to rebuild self-worth after getting dumped, and how to set boundaries when someone disrespects your time. If you keep accepting low effort, treating rejection like proof you're not enough, or waiting to feel worthy before you act like it, this is your episode on how to actually choose yourself.
Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book
Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
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Chapters:
00:00 What Self-Love Actually Means
03:47 3 Questions To Ask On A Date
05:55 Story Time: Before I Met Ryan
08:59 The Red Flags I Ignored
11:28 When He Said He Wasn't Attracted
13:56 Why Timing Matters More Than Love
16:06 How To Stop Judging Yourself
19:52 Self-Worth After Getting Dumped
23:02 The Client Who Wasted My Time
26:34 Loving Yourself After Being Ghosted
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Discernment in dating is not about spotting every red flag, it's about not creating green ones that were never there. Sabrina opens with the story of the emotionally unavailable man she spent years making excuses for, then breaks down the difference between anxiety and intuition, why your gut is quiet and your anxiety comes with a story, and how the halo effect keeps you ignoring obvious incompatibility. She covers boundaries versus walls, whether "high standards" are self-trust or self-protection, how to trust yourself again after being lied to, and why limerence and fantasy keep you stuck in situationships that were never going anywhere.
If you're tired of overthinking texts, playing detective with attachment styles, and hoping someone becomes who you need them to be, this one is for you. See it for what it is, not for what you want it to be.
Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026, "Why Am I Like This?"
Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book
Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz
If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step HERE!
Get Ad free HERE!
Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.
Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!
Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!
Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE!
Chapters:
00:00 Why The Spark Can Be Dangerous
02:42 Falling For The Fantasy Not Him
05:52 Anxious Texting And Chasing Crumbs
09:30 What Discernment Actually Means
11:47 Is It Your Gut Or Your Anxiety?
14:11 Boundaries Vs Walls In Dating
17:17 High Standards Or Fear Of Intimacy
19:26 Trusting Yourself After Being Lied To
21:40 The Evidence Vs Story Exercise
25:04 Stop Hoping They'll Change
Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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