In today's episode, we're talking all about conscious dating and how you can raise your standards and date from a place of grounded self-confidence and self-worth. Many anxiously attached people struggle a lot with dating, experiencing anxiety, insecurity and self-doubt every step of the way. This can naturally block us from connecting with others in a way that feels healthy and authentic. 

We'll cover:

• the importance of dating with intentionality 
• common mindset pitfalls
• identifying your values, non-negotiables and deal-breakers

Resources mentioned

• Conscious Dating Workshop: Join my Insiders membership on the Premium tier for free access to my Conscious Dating Workshop
• Higher Love Break-Up Course
• Secure Together Couples Course

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• Visit my website

In today's episode, we explore how perfectionism intersects with anxious attachment and impacts our ability to form secure relationships. We examine how the drive for perfection often stems from attachment wounds around unworthiness and creates barriers to authentic connection.

Key themes covered:

• The links between perfectionism and anxious attachment patterns
• How perfectionism manifests in relationships (performing, people-pleasing, fear of making mistakes)
• The connection between perfectionism and fear of abandonment
• Why perfectionism creates distance in relationships despite our intentions for closeness
• How perfectionism impacts vulnerability and emotional intimacy

We discuss practical steps for:

• Recognising perfectionist patterns in your relationships
• Moving from self-criticism to self-compassion
• Embracing "good enough" in relationships
• Building tolerance for imperfection
• Showing up authentically in relationships

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Additional Resources

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• Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
• Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Visit my website

Have you ever wondered how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety? If so, this episode is for you. We're talking all about the difference between intuition and anxiety, and sharing some simple tools to know how best to relate to these states and when to listen to the information our body is giving us.

We'll cover:

• anxious attachment and hyperawareness of shifts in people's emotional states
• trusting our perception but questioning the meaning-making
• recognising urgency as a key imprint of anxiety
• treating our anxiety with care and kindness without letting it run the show

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• Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Visit my website

In today's episode, we're talking about how to rebuild self-worth after a break-up. It's so common, particularly for anxious attachers, to emerge after a break-up feeling incredibly uncertain and lacking in self-worth. We become acutely aware of the extent to which we lost ourselves in the relationship, but often don't know where or how to begin reconnecting with who we are.

We'll talk about:

• why it's so common for self-worth to be damaged after a break-up
• self-abandonment and self-loss when relationships are under strain
• deciding to go all in on yourself
• practical tips for rebuilding self-worth and reconnecting to your authenticity

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Additional Resources

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• Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE)
• Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Visit my website

In today's episode, we’re exploring the key signs that you’re moving from anxious attachment toward greater security. While every healing journey is unique, certain themes consistently emerge as markers of growth. If you're working on healing your anxious attachment style, this episode will help you recognise the shifts happening within you.

What We Cover:

• How healing is not linear and why everyone's journey looks different
• The mindset shifts that show you're stepping out of fear and insecurity
• Emotional and relational changes that signal you're building self-worth and self-trust
• Learning to let go of control and embrace uncertainty
• Practical insights to keep you motivated as you continue your journey

Whether you're just beginning to explore attachment healing or you're deep in the process, this episode offers validation and encouragement to help you stay the course.

Join Healing Anxious Attachment to start your journey to secure attachment today!

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For our first episode of 2025, we're exploring the journey of creating a life that feels deeply authentic and aligned with who you truly are. Moving beyond societal expectations and the hamster wheel of constant striving, this episode challenges you to embrace courage, honesty, and personal responsibility to make meaningful changes in your life.

Key topics covered:

• Why honesty with yourself is essential for transformation
• The power of action—and why inaction is a decision too
• How to reconnect with your deepest desires and yearnings
• Building capacity for discomfort as a tool for growth
• Practicing courage and embracing fear as part of the process

If you’re ready to step into agency, responsibility, and bravery in 2025, this episode is for you.

For those wanting deeper support, I invite you to join me in Homecoming, a six-month mastermind for creating a life filled with joy, freedom, and abundance.

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In this Q&A episode, I’m answering your most common questions about early dating—particularly through the lens of anxious attachment. If dating feels like a minefield of overthinking, anxiety, and emotional highs and lows, this episode is for you.

We’ll explore:

• Early dating dynamics: Navigating the vulnerability and uncertainty that comes with getting to know someone new.
• Not attaching too quickly: Why it happens for those with anxious attachment and how to pace yourself emotionally.
• Texting anxiety: How to manage the discomfort of waiting for replies and keep yourself grounded.
• Values over chemistry: Why prioritising what truly matters can help you avoid unhealthy patterns and feel more secure.

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Additional Resources

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• Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Visit my website

In today's episode, we’re diving deep into self-sabotage—those frustrating patterns where we seem to work against our own best interests. Whether it’s procrastination, pushing people away, or avoiding opportunities, self-sabotage can feel like an endless cycle. 

We cover:

• What self-sabotage really is: Understanding how it’s often a misguided attempt to keep us safe.
• Why we get stuck: Exploring the fears, limiting beliefs, and unmet needs that fuel sabotaging behaviour.
• How to shift these patterns: Where to focus your attention to break the cycle and create new, supportive habits.

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In this episode of On Attachment, we’re diving into how to support an avoidant partner in opening up emotionally. If you’ve ever felt frustrated by your partner’s emotional distance or found yourself unsure how to help them feel safe in the relationship, this episode is for you.

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In today's episode, we're talking about the delicate balance between compassion for others, and boundaries for ourselves. For those of us who tend towards empathy and curiosity towards others' inner worlds, it's easy to fixate on the "why" behind their behaviours (particularly behaviours we don't like or understand). And while that is an admirable trait, without clear boundaries it can easily veer into self-abandonment. 

I'll share some thoughts on how to find a balance between compassion and generosity in our interpretation of others' behaviour, while also having clarity and firmness in our self-advocacy and knowing what we can and can't tolerate. 

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• Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX
• Visit my website