Self-trust is something we all want, but many of us struggle to build it. If you find yourself second-guessing your decisions, over-preparing for worst-case scenarios, or feeling like you can't rely on yourself, you're not alone. 

In this episode, we’re unpacking why self-trust is so challenging, especially for those with anxious attachment, and how to shift your focus to build a strong foundation of inner security.

What We Cover in This Episode:

• Why anxiety craves control — and how this undermines self-trust
• The inverse relationship between trust and control
• How trying to prevent bad things from happening leads to self-blame
• A powerful reframe: self-trust isn’t about making the "right" decision, but making decisions in alignment with your values
• The biggest ways we unknowingly damage self-trust
• Why building self-trust is essential for healing anxious attachment

Self-trust isn’t about getting everything right or ensuring a perfect outcome, but about showing up with integrity and knowing you have your own back. 

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• Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
• Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

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It’s painful when you feel like your needs in a relationship aren’t being met. Whether it’s emotional intimacy, quality time, affection, or communication, this can lead to frustration, loneliness, and resentment — especially if you’ve voiced your needs and still don’t see change.

In this episode, we’re exploring:

• Why anxiously attached people so often get stuck around needs
• What to focus on if you feel stuck in a cycle of unmet needs
• How to know when it’s a compatibility issue vs. a communication issue

If you’ve ever wondered whether your needs are “too much” or felt torn between self-advocacy and keeping the peace, this episode will give you clarity on how to navigate these conversations with confidence and self-respect.

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• Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
• Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

Additional Resources

• Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
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Social media can be a minefield at the best of times, but if you have an anxious attachment style, it can amplify relationship anxiety in ways that feel overwhelming. From overanalysing who your partner follows to spiralling over why they haven’t posted about you, social media can fuel insecurity, comparison, and even compulsive checking behaviours.

In today’s episode, we’re exploring why social media is such a common trigger for people with anxious attachment, the unhealthy patterns it can create, and most importantly, how to navigate it in a way that supports your wellbeing and relationship security.

What We Cover in This Episode:

• Why social media fuels anxiety for anxiously attached people
• The biggest relationship triggers—who your partner follows, why they won't post about you, and more
• The comparison trap and how it distorts reality
• Unhealthy social media behaviours that reinforce insecurity
• Practical strategies to reduce social media anxiety and feel more secure

Link to Episode #165: Why Validation is So Important for Anxiously Attached People

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• Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
• Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

Additional Resources

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In today's episode, we're talking all about conscious dating and how you can raise your standards and date from a place of grounded self-confidence and self-worth. Many anxiously attached people struggle a lot with dating, experiencing anxiety, insecurity and self-doubt every step of the way. This can naturally block us from connecting with others in a way that feels healthy and authentic. 

We'll cover:

• the importance of dating with intentionality 
• common mindset pitfalls
• identifying your values, non-negotiables and deal-breakers

Resources mentioned

• Conscious Dating Workshop: Join my Insiders membership on the Premium tier for free access to my Conscious Dating Workshop
• Higher Love Break-Up Course
• Secure Together Couples Course

Highlighted Links

• Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
• Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

Additional Resources

• Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
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• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
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In today's episode, we explore how perfectionism intersects with anxious attachment and impacts our ability to form secure relationships. We examine how the drive for perfection often stems from attachment wounds around unworthiness and creates barriers to authentic connection.

Key themes covered:

• The links between perfectionism and anxious attachment patterns
• How perfectionism manifests in relationships (performing, people-pleasing, fear of making mistakes)
• The connection between perfectionism and fear of abandonment
• Why perfectionism creates distance in relationships despite our intentions for closeness
• How perfectionism impacts vulnerability and emotional intimacy

We discuss practical steps for:

• Recognising perfectionist patterns in your relationships
• Moving from self-criticism to self-compassion
• Embracing "good enough" in relationships
• Building tolerance for imperfection
• Showing up authentically in relationships

Highlighted Links

• Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
• Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

Additional Resources

• Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
• Join my email list 💌
• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
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Have you ever wondered how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety? If so, this episode is for you. We're talking all about the difference between intuition and anxiety, and sharing some simple tools to know how best to relate to these states and when to listen to the information our body is giving us.

We'll cover:

• anxious attachment and hyperawareness of shifts in people's emotional states
• trusting our perception but questioning the meaning-making
• recognising urgency as a key imprint of anxiety
• treating our anxiety with care and kindness without letting it run the show

Highlighted Links

• Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
• Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

Additional Resources

• Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
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• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Visit my website

In today's episode, we're talking about how to rebuild self-worth after a break-up. It's so common, particularly for anxious attachers, to emerge after a break-up feeling incredibly uncertain and lacking in self-worth. We become acutely aware of the extent to which we lost ourselves in the relationship, but often don't know where or how to begin reconnecting with who we are.

We'll talk about:

• why it's so common for self-worth to be damaged after a break-up
• self-abandonment and self-loss when relationships are under strain
• deciding to go all in on yourself
• practical tips for rebuilding self-worth and reconnecting to your authenticity

Highlighted Links

• Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
• Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

Additional Resources

• Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
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• Visit my website

In today's episode, we’re exploring the key signs that you’re moving from anxious attachment toward greater security. While every healing journey is unique, certain themes consistently emerge as markers of growth. If you're working on healing your anxious attachment style, this episode will help you recognise the shifts happening within you.

What We Cover:

• How healing is not linear and why everyone's journey looks different
• The mindset shifts that show you're stepping out of fear and insecurity
• Emotional and relational changes that signal you're building self-worth and self-trust
• Learning to let go of control and embrace uncertainty
• Practical insights to keep you motivated as you continue your journey

Whether you're just beginning to explore attachment healing or you're deep in the process, this episode offers validation and encouragement to help you stay the course.

Join Healing Anxious Attachment to start your journey to secure attachment today!

Highlighted Links

• Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
• Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

Additional Resources

• Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
• Join my email list 💌
• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Visit my website

For our first episode of 2025, we're exploring the journey of creating a life that feels deeply authentic and aligned with who you truly are. Moving beyond societal expectations and the hamster wheel of constant striving, this episode challenges you to embrace courage, honesty, and personal responsibility to make meaningful changes in your life.

Key topics covered:

• Why honesty with yourself is essential for transformation
• The power of action—and why inaction is a decision too
• How to reconnect with your deepest desires and yearnings
• Building capacity for discomfort as a tool for growth
• Practicing courage and embracing fear as part of the process

If you’re ready to step into agency, responsibility, and bravery in 2025, this episode is for you.

For those wanting deeper support, I invite you to join me in Homecoming, a six-month mastermind for creating a life filled with joy, freedom, and abundance.

Highlighted Links

• Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
• Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

Additional Resources

• Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
• Join my email list 💌
• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Visit my website

In this Q&A episode, I’m answering your most common questions about early dating—particularly through the lens of anxious attachment. If dating feels like a minefield of overthinking, anxiety, and emotional highs and lows, this episode is for you.

We’ll explore:

• Early dating dynamics: Navigating the vulnerability and uncertainty that comes with getting to know someone new.
• Not attaching too quickly: Why it happens for those with anxious attachment and how to pace yourself emotionally.
• Texting anxiety: How to manage the discomfort of waiting for replies and keep yourself grounded.
• Values over chemistry: Why prioritising what truly matters can help you avoid unhealthy patterns and feel more secure.

Highlighted Links

• Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
• Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

Additional Resources

• Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
• Join my email list 💌
• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
• Visit my website