Dating Intentionally

In this episode, you’ll hear from Shani Silver, a podcaster and author of A Single Revolution: Don't Look For a Match—Light One. We talk about singlehood, dating apps, and the balance between wanting to be single and wanting a partner. You’ll hear about how Shani changed her perspective on dating and being single. Shani also provides a ton of tips for folks who want to make connections without putting too much pressure on relationships. At the end, Shani shares what she wants to see more of in the dating world and what you can do to flip the script while dating.

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About Shani: Shani Silver is an author and podcaster originally from Fort Worth, Texas. Her name is pronounced like “rainy” with a “sh.” Her book, A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match—light one, helps singles reframe singlehood to see its value and validity, for as long as we happen to be single. She is not an advocate for singlehood, she's an advocate for people being happy while single, and there is a difference. Her podcast, A Single Serving Podcast, launched in April of 2019 in the hopes of giving single women content that—for once—didn’t revolve around dating, and to support singles around the world in shedding the societal shame of singlehood. Shani has lived and dated in Austin, TX, Los Angeles, CA, Chicago, IL, Philadelphia, PA, and Brooklyn, NY. She currently lives in New Orleans. Following ten years of use, Shani permanently deleted her dating apps in January of 2019. She has loved her life ever since.

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In this episode, I answer five dating dilemmas from listeners. Thanks to everyone who submitted dating dilemmas!

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In this episode, you’ll hear from Lily Womble, a feminist dating coach and author of Thank You More Please. We talk about being a decision maker in your love life, self trust, and digging deeper to find what you really want. You’ll hear about how Lily adapted essence based preferences in her work. And Lily provides a ton of tips for folks who want to see more success in their dating lives. We discuss Lily’s book and Lily reveals what inspired her to write it. At the end, Lily shares her thoughts on dating apps and what she wants to see more of in the current dating world.

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About Lily: Lily Womble is sparking a feminist revolution in the way we date and find love. She was one of the top matchmakers in the U.S., but after setting up hundreds of dates, Lily realized that the answer to finding love was much deeper than a setup, and that the way we are taught to date is still stuck in the patriarchal dark ages. She founded her company, Date Brazen, in 2018 and has since helped hundreds of women create love lives that are epic, settle-proof, and joyful-as-hell with her intersectional feminist approach.

She changes lives daily on TikTok, Top 4 Relationship Podcast- The Date Brazen Podcast , and sold-out coaching programs world-wide. Her debut nonfiction advice book, Thank You, More Please: A feminist guide to breaking dumb dating rules and finding love, comes out in June 2024 with Legacy Lit. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband, Chris.

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It's my wedding week! In this episode, I discuss how to know/decide that your partner is the one - meaning the person you will be with long-term and/or get married to. Even if you don't want to get married, this episode will walk you through the factors of deciding if the person you're with is someone you want to be with for the long haul. I address the mistakes we make along the way when making this decision and the pressure we put on ourselves. I also talk about how I decided/knew my fiance was the one and why I don't believe there is just one person for everyone.

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In this episode, you’ll hear from Whitni Miller, a couples’ intimacy coach and sex educator. We talk about desire discrepancy, speaking up during sex, and keeping it spicy in the bedroom. 

You’ll hear about how Whitni helps clients with different levels of desire start the conversation and work through it together. And Whitni provides a ton of tips for people pleasers who don’t want to fake orgasms anymore. At the end, we answer a dating dilemma about differing kinks and sexual likes early on. 

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About Whitni: Whitni Miller, also known as Bde.moves, is a distinguished figure in Queer couples' intimacy coaching and sex education, boasting over four years of expertise in guiding individuals and couples toward authentic pleasure. Grounded in principles of radical self-acceptance and relational communication, Whitni fosters transformative experiences, empowering clients to embrace their desires with confidence.

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In this episode, you'll get advice for starting and maintaining a long-distance relationship. I included advice from listeners who have successfully dated someone long distance, as well as advice from my own experience doing long distance for a year in my last relationship. You'll hear about how it works in the early stages of dating and how to strengthen and develop a long-term relationship even when you live far away from each other.

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In this episode, you'll hear from Ella Dawson, a writer and author, talk about what it’s like dating after leaving an abusive relationship and being diagnosed with an STI. She has made it her mission to break the stigma around herpes and other STIs because they’re a lot more common than you’d think. In this episode, Ella explains how to bring up STIs in a way that won’t result in an awkward silence or breakup. Ella also shares her advice for anyone who has experienced or is experiencing an abusive relationship and what tools you can use to prevent another relationship like that. And we chat about Ella’s new book, But How Are You Really? and what inspired her to write a novel! 

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About Ella Dawson: Ella Dawson is an NYC-based sex and culture critic whose work has been published by Elle, Vox, and Women’s Health, among others. She was once internet famous for having herpes, but that’s a whole other story. Ella is proudly bisexual, very anxious, and aspires to adopt a kitten. Follow her on social media and on Patreon as @brosandprose.

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I believe dating can be fun. In this episode, you'll hear eight different ways to enjoy the process more so you can stop deleting and redownloading dating apps every month. Some of these tips are practical, like tweaking your pre-date routine. And some tips are more about your mindset, like why you need to stop trying to be liked. I also included a bunch of the BEST date ideas according to you, the listeners. At the end, I answer a dating dilemma about what to do when someone says "let's be friends" after a few great dates.

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In this episode, you'll hear from Celia Gurney, a writer and creator who covers demisexuality and asexuality. We get into Celia's journey and how she discovered demisexuality, different resources that helped her along the way, and different levels of attraction. You'll hear about primary attraction vs. secondary attraction and how to approach dating if you need to develop an emotional connection first.

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Celia Gurney is a writer, educator, improviser, and content creator who just spent two years in France, where she co-founded an improv comedy collective. Her essay about discovering and embracing demisexuality can be found at Mangoprism.com, and links to everything else are on her Instagram (@ceelia_later). 

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Get ready to be inspired! In this special episode (yay 101 episodes!), you'll hear from 5 members of this community about how they've found success in their dating lives. Success in dating is NOT just about finding a relationship (or whatever you're looking for). We can define it however we want. I'm so excited to have made it to over 100 episodes of this podcast, thanks to YOU, and so I wanted this episode to be about your successes.

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