Dating Intentionally

In this episode, you’ll hear from a sex therapist and her husband, Vanessa and Xander Marin! We talk about when to bring up sex in early dating, what to do if you don’t feel a “spark,” and you'll get specific tips for navigating other sex-related conversations. You’ll hear about how Vanessa and Xander help clients talk to their partners about sex and their interests and tips for taking responsibility for your own pleasure. At the end, we get into what has become a huge topic in recent years: mental load and how it can negatively affect your sex life.

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About Vanessa and Xander: Vanessa is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field, and Xander is a regular dude who’s here to show you that you don’t need a graduate degree or license to have extraordinary intimacy. Together, they wrote Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, which is an NYT best seller, and they host the podcast, Pillow Talks, available on all platforms.

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In this episode, I’m answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on:

1. “He texts too much, but I'm not sure if it has to do with his mental health.”

2. “We're long distance, but can't decide who should move."

3. “How do I heal from a confusing situationship?”

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Knowing when to end a relationship is tricky, especially if there’s no glaring dealbreaker—sometimes, it’s just not the right fit. How do you know when it’s time to move on?

In this episode, I’m breaking down how to decide whether to keep dating someone or walk away, whether you’re just a few dates in or have been in a relationship for years. I’ll share tips for recognizing signs that it’s over, how to decide with compassion and practical advice for breaking things off based on where you are in your dating journey. I also share my personal experience and exact scripts to start the break up conversation.

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• Ep 93: Why you need momentum in early dating (and how to create it)

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In this episode, I’m answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on these relatable dating scenarios and questions:

1. "If I'm so amazing (his words) why won't he date me?”

2. “I said we should just be friends, but now I’m interested in more.”

3. “How do I handle bad dating advice from family and friends?”

We also have an update from last week's episode from the woman who found out about her date's divorce before he told her.

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How long is the honeymoon phase supposed to last? Is it okay if we run into unsolvable issues in our relationship? What's an okay unsolvable issue, and what's not? These are some of the big questions my guest, Jordan Dann, explores in this episode. We also discuss the progression of new relationships and dealing with big differences. Jordan provides tips on how to get out of your head, stop constantly checking in, and navigate big challenges you may discover in the dating process. At the end, we talk about season 7 of Love Is Blind.

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Jordan Dann is a passionate and dynamic psychoanalyst, author, teacher, and speaker. With a rich background in Gestalt therapy, Somatic Experiencing, and Imago Relationship Therapy, she has honed her skills in helping individuals become more relational, self-aware, and emotionally expressive. Her earlier career as a coach and director for actors further fueled her desire to guide people toward authentic self-expression and freedom in their lives.

For over 20 years, Jordan dedicated herself to coaching professionals in the nonprofit sector, fostering environments where creativity, communication, and conflict resolution can thrive. She’s committed to helping individuals and teams achieve deeper fulfillment, effectiveness, and joy in their work.

As the author of "Somatic Therapy for Healing Trauma" and creator of the Relationship Transformation School, Jordan brings her expertise to those seeking healing and personal growth. She serves as faculty at Gestalt Associates for Psychotherapy in Manhattan and is a nationally certified, New York State-licensed psychoanalyst with a private practice in New York City.

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In this episode, I'm answering your dating dilemmas. Listen and get my take on:

1. "How do I navigate being more sexually experienced than my date?"

2. "Why do women keep rejecting me like this?"

3. "He never told me he was divorced, but I found out about it online."

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In this episode, I get into whether you are asking too much of your partner or not. You’ll learn about how to know if you are asking for too much, why we need to communicate this, and what to do when sharing what you need from your partner. I also get into why someone might be worth it if they’re struggling to meet your needs but still trying. This episode is for you if you want to communicate your needs without feeling like you’re asking too much. And at the end, I answer a dating dilemma about getting back together with someone who wasn’t ready to commit, but now they say they are. 

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In this episode, you’ll hear from Dr. Morgan Anderson, a clinical psychologist and relationship coach. We talk about attachment theory, common misconceptions of attachment theory, and building a secure attachment style. You’ll hear about how Dr. Morgan helps clients become more secure in their relationships. And Dr. Morgan provides a ton of tips for people in relationships with the different attachment styles. At the end, we answer a dating dilemma about communicating your standards in relationships to see if you have similar capacities and values. 

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About Dr. Morgan: Dr. Morgan Anderson is a clinical psychologist, leading attachment theory expert, and relationship coach. She is also the author of Love Magnet and host of the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast (5M+ downloads). Featured in Brides, Women's Health, Cosmopolitan, Popsugar, Elite Daily, and more.

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In this episode, I share tips for talking about money in early dating, how to navigate dating when one person earns a lot more than the other and my experience with creating a prenuptial agreement with my husband. I share questions to ask on a first date to start talking about money and tips for getting into deeper conversations as your relationship progresses. At the end, I answer a dating dilemma from a woman who's concerned about her date's earning potential.

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In this episode, Johnny and I recap our wedding and honeymoon experience. We answer questions about our favorite parts of the wedding weekend, things that went wrong, challenges during the planning process and how we made our day special. Then we get into our honeymoon in Greece, what it was like to use a travel agent for the first time and our thoughts on traveling together for 11 days. I hope you enjoy this episode! Thanks so much for listening and for following our journey.

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