We're back with a crowd favorite of when we interview each other! This week, Julie interviews Yue, starting with her reflections on 2025 and how she learned to not shrink herself and embrace the freedom to be her true self. She also drops something so surprising (she even had Julie in shock!) related to her current relationship and how she's been able to work through the challenges of understanding each other's definitions of freedom. We discuss future goals for 2026, how she's aiming for more alignment, and the ways she's working to build a rich life for herself and with her partner. Enjoy!

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With the throwback to 2016 trend, Yue reflected back to what she was like during that time when dating. As someone who was often told she was "intimidating", she shares how she used to view this as a badge of honor and as a way to attract men, but now realizes it was code for being emotionally unavailable and attracting all the wrong types of people. She shares why this actually held her back in dating, the shifts she made, and why she wants to be viewed as open and available instead. Enjoy!

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We often ask "Are they ready for a relationship?" but the more important questions is "Are you ready?" We're revealing 10 questions you need to ask yourself now to see how you relate to others, know when to stay vs walk away, and trust yourself in the process of finding love. We're also doing a final segment with Dr Serena Sterling, the founder of the new dating app Satya, about taking initiative on dating apps to actually make dates happen (and how to make it crystal clear if you're ready or not). Enjoy!

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We talk about the need for emotional intelligence all the time, but what about relational intelligence? In many ways, it's as important or if not more! In today's episode, Julie's taking about the 5 stages of Relational Intelligence and how to put them into motion when applied to the common dating scenario of someone you're into not texting or setting up plans as quickly as you'd like. Julie shares why regulating before you act is so important, the type of text you can send to get the clarity you need, and how to move forward with this information. Enjoy!

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As we approach the year of the horse – a year full of movement, momentum, courage and moving forward – we wanted to dive into how 2026 will look for each dating archetype. If you're new here, definitely take our quiz (https://howtobedateable.com/) or it's in our book 'How to Be Dateable'! We discuss the superpowers each dating archetype brings, the boost you need for 2026, and what to watch out for. Plus we do another segment with Dr Serena Sterling, the founder of the new dating app Satya, about the 'rate your match' feedback loop she created. Enjoy!

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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We're all so rational when it comes to dating and trying to find our person. But what if we need to be a bit more delusional? And what's missing is that level of delulu that helps us envision what we truly want and actually believe it's possible. Yue shares why she's going to be embrace being delusional this year and how we all can get some of that magic back into dating, relationships and love.

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Happy 2026 all! We're back bringing that new year energy and sharing why 2026 – the year of the horse – will be better for your love life. We kick off this episode with a special segment with Dr Serena Sterling, the founder of the new dating app Satya, about what she's doing to change dating app culture (which includes keeping people in purgatory for bad dating behaviors!). We also discuss how to manifest better dating experiences and relationships for 2026 – beyond just imagining what you want but actually putting it all into action with a four step ritual that anyone can do this year. Enjoy!

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Dating Sunday (the first Sunday in January) is the busiest day for online dating, seeing huge spikes in activity. So how do you maximize this peak dating season that runs through February? We're back with a quickie where Julie shares seven essential tips for maximizing success on dating apps during the peak season, starting with Dating Sunday.

• How To Refresh your dating profile for the new year

• Why it's essential to swipe and message with purpose, not impulse

• Quick ways to craft messages worth responding to

• The Peak Time of Day to Maximize Your Results On Apps

• Tips For Getting People To Reach Out To You

• The Most Important (But Overlooked) Reset Needed

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As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.

And to conclude our series: we’re celebrating the beauty of finding love later in life—and why timing that once felt “off” can end up being perfect in hindsight. We’re joined by former CNN journalist May Lee, who shares her incredible journey of getting engaged for the first time at age 57. Her story is warm, grounded, and such a powerful reminder that taking your time doesn’t mean you’ve missed out—it often means you’re creating space for the right partner to arrive. If you’ve ever worried you’re running out of time or felt anxious about not being where you thought you “should” be, this episode is your reassurance that love doesn’t expire—and your story is still very much unfolding.

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As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.

We're back for Day #7 with one of our favorite past guests, author & intuitive Nikki Novo, who breaks down how to tap into your intuition so you can build trust, courage, and clarity as you date. We get into how to strengthen your instincts when dating, how to tell the difference between gut feelings and fear spirals, and what it looks like to relinquish control while still staying in charge of your choices. If you’ve ever wished you could trust yourself more—or felt torn between your heart, your head, and the pressure to make the “right” decision—this episode is your reminder that the clearest answers often come from within. Enjoy!

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