We're back with the guest of our #1 most listened to episode and this time with his mentor for more insights...more science...and more facts – that you can all apply to your love lives. We're chatting with Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkle, professors at UC Davis & Northwestern, about what romcoms get right (and wrong) about finding love, the myths of relationships we've been told to believe, and how to reevaluate societal expectations around compatibility.

Check out their podcast 'Love Factually'. For more info on Eli, visit: https://elifinkel.com/. To learn more about Paul: https://pauleastwick.com/

To listen to our #1 most listened episode with Paul, search for The Science of Attraction.

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With all the buzz about dating intentionally...what does it even mean? Because we've seen some definitions that aren't helping – and may actually be limiting us – in the way we think about putting our best foot forward when dating. We talk about surprise run-ins with Dateable listeners, if it's even possible to use dating apps intentionally, and why it may be more intentional to get rid of people who you know AREN'T the real deal instead of try to set up intentional boundaries with them. Enjoy!

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How ready are you for a relationship? Like truly ready? We're diving into what it means to actually be ready for a real, long-term committed relationship – and how you can spot if someone else is too. We're discussing the signs of relationship readiness, the red flags to watch out for, and how you can find out your relationship readiness score to become more relationship ready.

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There's so much to unpack this week as we chat about everything from air fryers to Mark Zuckerberg's mid-life crisis. But most importantly, it brings us to the age old question: how many people should you date at once? And when is it better to date one at a time versus multiple people. We're going in deep as we dissect when to disclose you're sleeping with others, when to double down on someone versus playing the field, and what to do when you're still unsure and feeling lukewarm about someone. Enjoy!

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You’ve probably seen his quotes all over the internet or maybe read one of his many bestselling books but we have the man behind it all Diego Perez aka Yung Pueblo here to share how to love better and treat love like the skill it truly is. We're discussing the three green flags to look out for in a relationship, why attachment is the greatest enemy of love, and how to lean into the growth that inevitably comes through any type of relationship – no matter how long or serious it may be.

Learn more about Diego at @yungpueblo, go get his book 'How to Love Better: The Path To Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness & Compassion, and visit his website: https://yungpueblo.com/

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We're back together chatting about a relevant topic: burnout. Whether it's from dating or just life in general, we're discussing the stages of burnout and how we can minimize going over stage 4 and not having toxic hope, but actual hope, throughout the dating process. We're also chatting about bachelorette parties, wedding dress hacks, the definition of a term that will be banned from our vocab, and so much more! Enjoy.

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It's so hard to not be focused on the milestones, but Julie had a reality check recently that she wanted to share on this quickie with you. Because as Dr. Laurie Santos discussed in this week's episode the arrival fallacy is exactly that – a fallacy. And the reality is that we're never out of the middle (even if we've hit said milestones), so do we not just embrace the middle, but truly enjoy it.

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Do relationships make us happy? If so, why are unmarried and childless women the most happy cohort of people out there? Because happiness is more than milestones as we chat with Dr. Laurie Santos about the complexities and common misperceptions when it comes to our overall well-being. And that's certainly not to say social connection and relationships aren't important! We'll dive into the U-shaped happiness curve, the way to enhance personal happiness while dating, and how to shift your focus to nurture your overall well being regardless of your relationship status.

Learn more about Laurie at @lauriesantosofficial, check out her podcast 'The Happiness Lab' wherever you listen to podcasts, and visit her website: https://www.drlauriesantos.com/

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We're chatting over brunch recapping some of our SF together time, from dinners out together with friends to the types of questions we got from daters at our book launch events. We're talking about the only hack for having better dates, the benefits that come from finding your person "later" on, and how sending that text may lead to that second date (or if nothing else, the answers you need to move the f on). Enjoy!

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If you feel like you've had a string of *almost* relationships that haven't quite turned into the real deal, then this one's for you! We're chatting with Ali Jackson about her journey through the world of dating – from when she was documenting all her dates in Notion to meeting her now-boyfriend. We discuss the various forms of not-quite-relationships, the foolproof way to know if someone is on the same page as you, and how to stay optimistic (yet realistic) about dating.

Learn more about Ali at @findingmrheight and check out her podcast 'Finding Mr. Height' wherever you listen to podcasts.

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