In today's episode, we're talking all about getting back together with an ex. Facing the prospect of rekindling after a relationship has ended can bring up so many conflicting feelings - longing, optimism and hope, together with fear, worry, self-doubt and anxiety.

In helping you navigate the messiness of these situations, I'll be sharing some good reasons and some not-so-good reasons why you might consider getting back together with an ex, and how you can best approach that decision to support yourself and your relationship going forward.

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If you've ever come across standard "self-love" advice and it hasn't really landed for you, you're not alone. As great as it would be if we could all click our heels and achieve self-love, the simple reality is that for most of us, that's a far cry from where we're at - and if anything, the pressure to love ourselves can leave us feeling even more broken and hopeless.

In today's episode, I'm sharing four pillars of a healthy relationship with self, that go beyond "self-love". These are more concrete, actionable focus areas that you can explore as you build a stronger and more resilient sense of self, and in so doing, reap the rewards in your relationship with others. We'll cover:

• self-compassion
• self-care
• self-respect
• self-trust

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In today's episode, I'm joined by Dr. Morgan Anderson and we're talking all about building self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence in the context of dating. Dr. Morgan is a licensed clinical psychologist, attachment theory expert, relationship coach, and author of the relationship self-help book, Love Magnet. She is also the host of the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.

In our conversation, we cover:

• how insecure attachment styles fuel unhealthy dating patterns
• how low self-worth and a lack of self-trust impact our dating mindset
• common shifts that occur as you rewire old patterns and move towards secure attachment
• practical tools and tips for shifting your dating mindset and building a secure dating persona

To connect with Dr. Morgan:

• Listen to her podcast: Let's Get Vulnerable
• Find her on Instagram: @drmorgancoaching
• Visit her website: drmorgancoaching.com

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In today's episode, we're talking all about why avoidant partners tend to struggle with defensiveness. While defensiveness is far from being the exclusive domain of avoidant attachment, many people will attest to the fact that avoidant folks are often quick to become defensive in response to relational tension or ruptures - and that this can form a key piece in the negative cycle of many anxious-avoidant relationships.

We'll cover:

• why defensiveness is a natural response to feeling attacked
• how avoidant partners can perceive relational needs and concerns as personal failings
• avoidant attachment and emotional expressiveness
• how you can start to relate to a partner's defensiveness with greater compassion rather than judgment and blame

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In today's episode, we're talking all about comparison. Comparison is one of those things that we're all susceptible to at some point or another: we compare ourselves based on appearance, personality, success, relationships. It can sometimes seem like there's a neverending list of reasons to feel dissatisfied or inadequate when we look at our lives relative to someone else's. 

And yet, while comparison is arguably a universal human experience, it's undeniable that some of us struggle with the comparison trap more than others - sometimes to the point where it feels debilitating and destructive to our sense of self.

We'll cover:

• why some people are more susceptible to the comparison trap than others
• how this tendency interfaces with other struggles like unworthiness, jealousy, anxious attachment, and fear of abandonment
• how building our self-worth can help us to shift focus away from others and build more genuine self-confidence

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In today's episode, we're talking all about break-ups. Break-ups are one of the most challenging and sometimes destabilising emotional experiences we can go through, and there is so much conflicting advice and information on how best to approach the ending of a relationship.

In this episode, I'm providing you with some hard (but hopefully liberating) truths about the break-up process, so that you can make the most of the opportunity that your break-up offers to deepen in your self-awareness and your relationship with yourself.

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For our last episode of the year, I'm sharing my own story about the power of choosing courage over comfort and making bold, scary, uncomfortable choices in the direction of the life that you desire. So many of us cling to familiarity and the known thing, even when it feels draining and deeply at odds with who we want to be and how we want our lives to look and feel. 

As we say goodbye to 2023 and enter the new year, let us reflect on where we are still hiding or avoiding in our lives, and what might be possible if we embrace a bigger, bolder, braver life that we can truly be proud of. 

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In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts about trust, risk and vulnerability. Many of us would prefer to trust only when we've completely de-risked or have some semblance of certainty that we won't get hurt, but unfortunately this is entirely at odds with the inherent vulnerability of trust. 

We'll cover:

• why our fear will always keep us on the lookout for ways in which we might get hurt
• how trust and vulnerability interface with fear and risk-aversion
• why we need to let go of trying to control the future
• how we can start to view trust as a choice rather than a feeling

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• Join the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge
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In today's episode, we're unpacking three relationship superpowers (which frankly are also life superpowers!). These are the skills and mindset pieces that I wish for everyone to be cultivating as they walk the path of becoming more secure in themselves and in their partnerships. 

We talk about:

• discernment and self-trust
• the importance of humility and curiosity
• keeping things in perspective 

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• Join the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge
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In today's episode, we're talking all about the importance of self-care in a relationship, and how prioritising self-care can (somewhat counterintuitively) be far more nourishing and constructive for the relationship than being overly focused on the relationship itself. 

We'll cover:

• why anxiously attached people tend to obsess over the relationship 
• how neglecting ourselves when the relationship is under strain makes things worse
• why we should all be prioritising our self-care if we want a thriving relationship with ourselves and our partners

Highlighted Links

• Join the 28-Day Secure Self Challenge
• FREE TRAINING: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love
• Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
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