I break down why self-worth isn’t a motivation problem and why trying to “think” your way into confidence rarely works. I explain how your identity is built from predictable behavioral patterns and how your nervous system resists change that feels unfamiliar or threatening. We dive into the biology behind self-worth, including dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine, and how they shape drive, discipline, and resilience. Finally, I lay out practical steps you can use to rebuild self-worth through action, repetition, and new patterns.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why Self-Worth Isn’t a Motivation Problem

01:07 - Identity as Predictable Patterns

02:37 - The Rider and the Elephant

03:56 - Why the Brain Rejects Change

05:16 - Self-Worth as a Felt Experience

06:59 - Dopamine and Direction

07:12 - Serotonin and Self-Control

08:21 - Norepinephrine and Resilience

09:28 - Why Change Feels Like Death

11:07 - Practical Steps to Rebuild Self-Worth

14:56 - Self-Worth Is Built Through Action

***

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I sit down with Leland Vittert to talk about his childhood diagnosis of autism and the extraordinary role his father played in shaping his resilience. We explore why removing adversity from children often backfires, and how discipline, honesty, and responsibility can become acts of love. This conversation isn’t about romanticizing struggle, it’s about learning how to do hard things and refusing to be defined by limitations.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction

02:10 - Autism Diagnosis and Early Childhood

05:40 - A Father’s Radical Commitment

08:05 - Growing Up Without Friends

10:55 - Self-Esteem Outside School and Sports

13:20 - Why Adversity Was Never Removed

17:30 - Learning You Can’t Be Broken

20:05 - Living With Autism as an Adult

23:45 - Discipline Versus Accommodation

27:00 - Teaching Social Skills Deliberately

30:40 - Protection, Trust, and Character

34:50 - Letting Kids Become More

39:35 - Discipline as Strength

45:10 - Parenting Without Expectations

48:10 - Final Reflections and Where to Find Leland

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I break down the single most critical masculine trait every man needs to master this year: self-control. I explain why true masculinity isn't about suppressing your emotions or killing your aggression, but rather channeling that intense energy into mastery and leadership. I also share four practical pillars you can use immediately to stop reacting to the chaos around you and start leading your life with power under command.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The Single Most Important Masculine Trait

02:57 - Why Masculinity Itself Isn’t the Problem

06:16 - The Cost of Losing Control

08:14 - Pillar #1: The Power of the Pause

10:04 - Pillar #2: Channeling Aggression into Mastery

12:54 - Pillar #3: Disciplining the Body First

14:31 - Pillar #4: Ending the Need for Validation

15:44 - True Masculinity is Power Under Command

***

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I sit down with Mark Walsh for a wide-ranging and unfiltered conversation about the collapse of meaning in modern life and how it is impacting men in particular. We explore why young men feel lost, why modern psychology and culture are failing them, and what it actually takes to stay grounded in an increasingly chaotic world.

We talk about masculinity, embodiment, faith, community, and why comfort-driven modernity is producing anxiety rather than fulfillment. This is a challenging conversation that does not offer platitudes, but it does offer a path forward

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - The Death Cult of Modernity

01:21 - What Is Really Happening to Young Men

06:15 - Meaning, God, and the Collapse of Culture

10:28 - Why Modern Life Feels Insane

16:10 - The Gender Divide and Radicalization

23:47 - Why Men Feel Politically Homeless

31:30 - Joker Energy and Cultural Breakdown

36:27 - The Four Reconnections Men Need

44:16 - Feminism as Ersatz Religion

48:20 - What Modern Psychology Gets Wrong

54:22 - How Men Become Embodied Again

***

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In Part 2 of this video, I dive into the works of Dostoyevsky, Nietzsche, and Kant to share five psychological pillars that will help you build inner sovereignty and resilience. We explore the necessity of integrating your aggression and choosing meaningful suffering over empty comfort. Finally, I challenge you to speak the truth even when it risks your social approval, as this is essential for maintaining trust in yourself.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 The 5 Psychological Pillars from Great Philosophers

2:02 Why Comfort is Not Meaning

12:57 Choosing Truth Over Approval

20:28 Recap: The 5 Pillars of Manhood

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I dive into the works of Dostoyevsky, Nietzsche, and Kant to share five psychological pillars that will help you build inner sovereignty and resilience. We explore why rejecting modern victimhood in favor of radical responsibility is the only path to true psychological maturity. I also explain why a harmless man is not a good man, discussing the necessity of integrating your aggression and choosing meaningful suffering over empty comfort. Finally, I challenge you to speak the truth even when it risks your social approval, as this is essential for maintaining trust in yourself.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 The 5 Psychological Pillars from Great Philosophers

00:50 Dostoyevsky on Responsibility vs. Victimhood

10:15 Kant and the Power of Self-Mastery

18:00 Nietzsche on Integrating the Shadow

26:02 Why Comfort is Not Meaning

32:57 Choosing Truth Over Approval

40:28 Recap: The 5 Pillars of Manhood

***

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I break down Tyler Durden as a psychological and masculine archetype, not as a role model, but as a warning signal. I explore why Fight Club still resonates with men today, what Tyler gets right about masculinity, and where his version of power goes off the rails. This is a conversation about repression, shadow integration, discipline, and why unintegrated strength turns destructive. The goal is not to become Tyler Durden, but to understand what he represents and integrate it responsibly.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why Tyler Durden Still Possesses the Male Psyche

01:45 - Tyler Durden as a Symptom of Emasculation

03:34 - The Hollow Man and Consumer Masculinity

05:25 - Tyler Durden as the Shadow Masculine

07:14 - The Absence of Masculine Initiation

08:05 - Pseudo-Initiation and Self-Destruction

09:00 - Pain, Brotherhood, and Fight Club

10:53 - Violence vs Contact With Reality

12:44 - Comfort, Weakness, and Modern Men

13:30 - What Tyler Durden Gets Right

15:46 - Power Without Consciousness

17:54 - Tyranny, Cult Dynamics, and Shadow Possession

20:20 - Project Mayhem and Destructive Identity

22:20 - Rage Masculinity in the Modern World

23:31 - Integration Over Destruction

24:43 - Disciplined Power and True Masculine Initiation

25:57 - Tyler Durden as the Alarm, Not the Answer

***

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I break down 10 things men must stop doing in 2026 if they want their strongest year yet. I talk about why being busy is not the same as making progress, how avoidance quietly erodes integrity, and why a regulated nervous system is becoming a competitive advantage. If you want more clarity, direction, and self-leadership this year, this episode will challenge you to cut what is weakening you and focus on what actually matters.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Why 2026 Requires Elimination, Not More Motivation

01:31 - Stop Confusing Motion With Progress

03:07 - Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations

04:47 - Stop Letting Dopamine Run Your Life

06:50 - Stop Treating Your Body as Separate From Your Mind

08:52 - Stop Blaming Your Past for Your Present

10:29 - Stop Trying to Be Like Everyone Else

11:42 - Stop Living With an Unregulated Nervous System

13:58 - Stop Outsourcing Meaning and Validation

15:32 - Stop Doing Everything Alone

17:47 - Stop Waiting for “Someday”

***

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I break down why anxiety is so prevalent today and why much of it is being intentionally manufactured. I explore the existential and psychological forces driving anxiety - from social media comparison to nervous system overload. I also share three practical tools you can start using immediately to reduce anxiety and regain a sense of internal stability. If you struggle with chronic worry or overwhelm, this episode will give you a new framework for understanding and working with anxiety.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Why anxiety is increasing by design

00:46 Anxiety as a future-based distortion

03:19 Global instability and manufactured fear

04:31 Comparison addiction and social media

06:12 The breakdown of objective truth

08:51 Disagreement as relational death

11:13 Nervous system sensitivity and stress

17:15 Three tools to reduce anxiety

***

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Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

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Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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I sit down with AJ McQueen for a deeply honest conversation about trauma, masculinity, faith, and self-acceptance. AJ shares how violence, heartbreak, and survival shaped his early life, and how learning radical acceptance became the turning point in his growth as a man. We talk about sex, discipline, purpose, boundaries, and why so many men live stuck in survival mode. This is a raw, reflective discussion about becoming grounded, choosing yourself, and learning how to live with integrity.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - Introduction and Meeting AJ

01:00 - Heartbreak as a Catalyst for Growth

05:10 - Sex, Addiction, and Masculinity

10:00 - Growing Up Around Violence

16:20 - Defining Manhood and Fatherhood

21:15 - Autonomy, Boundaries, and Self-Respect

28:45 - Saying No and Taking Back Control

35:15 - Trauma, Gifts, and Acceptance

40:30 - Confidence Through Radical Acceptance

48:25 - Survival Mode vs Self-Understanding

53:30 - Enoughness and Self-Worth

01:01:10 - Travel, Perspective, and Expansion

01:06:20 - Faith, Spirituality, and Service

01:12:30 - Closing Reflections and Gratitude

***

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

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Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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