Now that 2026 is here, John Kim shares 12 powerful questions to help you live with more honesty, alignment, and intention this year.

This episode isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about telling the truth.

A grounding conversation to return to throughout the year.

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In this episode of the video course, we explore one of the most powerful concepts in personal transformation: unlocking your inner code.

You’ll learn how your false beliefs, old stories, and disconnected parts of self quietly shape your life — and how to rebuild a stronger, safer inner container that allows you to grow instead of staying stuck.

Through storytelling, real-life examples, and practical reflection prompts, John walks you through:

What You'll Learn:

Reflection Questions

This Episode Is For You If…

✔ You want to break patterns

✔ You want to feel more alive

✔ You’re ready to meet yourself again

✔ You want to grow without self-judgment

✔ You’re doing the work and want deeper tools

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In this lesson, we explore how to move from a life shaped by fear, dread, shame, and survival into a life built on joy, creativity, presence, gratitude, and alignment.

You’ll learn how to pull yourself out of lower frequencies, design a safe life container, and step into an attracting state — where the right people, opportunities, and experiences naturally find you.

This is how you stop forcing your life… and start receiving it.

🌟 What You’ll Learn:

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This episode is about the parts of ourselves we don’t easily name.

In Part 2, we explore unspoken hurt, projection, scarcity, envy, anger, and intimacy — and how these experiences shape the way we show up in relationships and in our work.

We talk honestly about using productivity and helping others as a shield, the lingering fear that success doesn’t erase, and the protective parts we built long ago that may no longer serve us.

This is not about fixing yourself. It’s about recognizing what’s actually running the room.

A conversation for anyone willing to sit with truth — even when it’s uncomfortable.

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This episode is about what happens when we slow down and ask the questions that don’t come with neat answers.

In an honest and reflective conversation, we explore the inner world behind the therapist’s role — the places where healing is still unfolding, emotions are still complicated, and vulnerability still matters.

We talk about being seen in relationship, struggling with sadness and anger, the pull between authenticity and edge, and how early experiences shape the way we show up in life, love, and work.

This isn’t a lesson. It’s a conversation.

A reminder that healing doesn’t require perfection — only presence, honesty, and a willingness to stay with what’s real.

If you’re on your own journey of self-understanding, this episode meets you there.

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In this episode of Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy, we sit down with the questions people are often too afraid to ask out loud — the ones about love, loss, sex, shame, attachment, boredom, longing, and the quiet fear that maybe something is wrong with us.

From wondering why “healthy love” feels boring after toxicity… to grieving a breakup someone else moved on from too quickly… to asking how often long-term couples should be intimate… to questioning why we attract emotionally unavailable partners… to the messy, human moments around sex, desire, loneliness, and readiness.

These are the things we carry alone. This episode sets them down in the open.

Why This Episode Matters

These aren't just questions — they’re emotional crossroads.
Most people bring them into therapy last, if ever.
But naming them is the beginning of healing, clarity, and choosing differently.

Perfect For You If…

Listen Now

Every question in this episode is a doorway. Step through.

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In this module, we explore why healthy love can feel unfamiliar — even uncomfortable — when your nervous system is used to chaos or stress. You’ll learn how your brain adapts to emotional environments, why joy can feel out of reach, and how tiny moments of safety can transform your entire relational world.

What you’ll learn:

This module is all about expanding your capacity for joy, hope, and relational peace — one small moment at a time.

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In this module of the video course, we explore why we repeat the same relationship patterns — even when we know they’re not good for us — and how understanding your emotional wiring can shift everything.

You’ll learn:

This episode is a reminder that your patterns aren’t failures — they’re information. And once you understand them, you can create the relationships you’ve always deserved.

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In Part Two of this powerful conversation, John Kim and Shaka Senghor go even deeper into healing, alignment, and the spiritual mechanics of change.

Shaka opens up about:

This episode is the invitation to your next chapter. A conversation about energy, intention, and the quiet decisions that build a new life.

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In this uplifting and deeply human conversation, John Kim sits with bestselling author and speaker Shaka Senghor to explore healing, forgiveness, purpose, and the power of rewriting your story.

Shaka shares:

If you need inspiration, hope, or a reminder that change is possible, this episode is for you.

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