In today's episode, we're talking all about trust & trustworthiness. Trust is something that many people struggle with, oftentimes as a direct result of past experiences where trust has been breached. And as we'll discuss in today's conversation, trust is about so much more than honesty. My hope is that you'll walk away from today's episode with greater clarity about why you might struggle with trust, and the steps you can take to remediate this in your relationships. 

We'll cover:

• the interplay between trust and trustworthiness
• the five pillars of trust
• how self-trust and relational trust are connected
• building trust through small acts over time

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In today's episode, we're exploring healthy interdependency. Interdependency is often cited as a key trait of secure functioning relationships, and yet many of us lack a clear picture of what healthy interdependency actually looks and feels like - especially if you have a history of insecure attachment patterns.

We'll cover:

• the spectrum from codependency to hyper-independence 
• interdependency as a healthy middle ground
• how different attachment styles relate to codependency, independence and interdependence
• signs of healthy interdependency in a relationship

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In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts around anxious attachment & open relationships. While not being my personal experience, this is an area I receive a lot of requests and questions around, as various non-monogamous relationship structures grow in popularity. 

We'll cover:

• common struggles of anxious attachment and how they might show up in an open relationship structure
• the importance of having a strong relationship to self when exploring open relationships
• communication, boundaries and self-advocacy
• why you should never agree to open a relationship just to hold onto someone

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You've probably heard about the 5 Love Languages as pioneered by Gary Chapman. In this episode, I’ll share how to navigate the very common situation of having different love languages to your partner. We'll also cover how love languages interface with anxious-avoidant dynamics, and offer insights and practical tools on how you can share your love language with your partner so they can understand how to love you the way you want to be loved (and vice versa)!

We’ll cover:

• The 5 love languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, gift giving, and quality time
• The benefits of knowing your love language, and your partner's
• How love languages play out in anxious-avoidant dynamics

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Mismatched libido in a relationship is a challenge that a lot of couples face. In today’s episode, I’ll be answering a listener's question of how to navigate mismatched libido in a relationship, particularly in an anxious-avoidant dynamic. I’ll guide you on strategies to break the anxious-avoidant spiral, by initiating open dialogue and finding a middle ground between both partners.

We’ll cover:

• Why it's unrealistic to expect your libidos to be in sync all the time
• How anxious and avoidant attachment styles relate to sex and intimacy
• Tips for reframing a partner's lack of interest in sex

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Retroactive jealousy is one that focuses on the past, fixating on other partners or stages in your partner's lives and being threatened by it. In today’s conversation, I’ll dive into how such jealousy stirs immense stress, but more importantly, we share insights into building healthier, more resilient relationships.

We'll cover:

• Impacting our self worth
• Looking for skeletons and reasons to not trust
• If you should share the jealousy with your partner
• Keeping yourself in an unhealthy loop 

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With societal pressures and a ticking clock, being newly single in your mid-30s can be challenging. In today’s episode, I want to share advice on navigating being newly single and the mindset for dating, and honouring the desires you have without feeling hopeless or overwhelmed.

We'll cover:

• Grieving a future you thought you would have
• The opportunity for reframe
• Comparisons to other people’s lives
• Creating a full and vibrant life for yourself

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As an anxiously attached person, space in a relationship can sometimes feel like the biggest threat. In today’s episode, I’m sharing my own experience with this and advice on how you can consciously choose space and separateness to foster greater intimacy in your relationship, especially in a time where you may feel more drawn to stay connected.

We'll cover:

• Wanting to close the gap and be closer
• Advice for how to reset and nurture separateness 
• Things to do to focus on your own self-trust and security
• Creating a healthier, more balanced relationship

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Looking out for someone who you care for that is going through a hard time is a challenge most of us will have to face in our lifetimes. But feelings of threat to the relationship, especially as an anxious attached person may come up in these times, and I want to help you navigate through these while prioritising your wellbeing, and not overstepping.

We'll cover:

• Monitoring your “fixing” the situation
• Ways to support someone and yourself
• How you can be a balanced supportive person
• Nothing changes, unless something changes.

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In today's episode, I'm answering your questions on the topic of break-ups. Break-ups are a universally challenging experience, and an area that I receive a lot of questions on.

So today I'm answering your questions on:

• what is a no-contact period and how best to implement it?
• when is it a good idea to reconcile with an ex?
• how to deal with guilt around knowing that I need to break up with someone but worrying about hurting them?

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