In today's episode, we're talking all about people-pleasing: what it is, why we do it, and how it's different to "just being a nice person". For many of us, people pleasing is second nature. We are so accustomed to accommodating others and burying our own feelings and needs that we don't even realise we're doing it. 

Unfortunately, this typically leads us to feel disconnected, lonely and exhausted - not to mention it usually backfires insofar as building healthy relationships is concerned.

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In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on the common question of why those with anxious attachment patterns are typically attracted to those with avoidant attachment patterns (and vice versa). As we know, this is a very common relationship pairing - which can be confusing when you feel like the challenges of that dynamic are at odds with your preferences and desires. 

As we'll cover, oftentimes this is driven by subconscious patterns that propel us to recreate the familiar in a way that reinforces our core beliefs about ourselves and others. 

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In today's episode, I'm answering a listener's question of "How do I know if my relationship is worth fighting for?" This is a big question, and unfortunately it's one of those messy ones that no one can tell you the answer to. What's worth fighting for according to one person, might be simply too hard and too much for another.

We'll cover:

• fear of regret no matter what we choose
• focusing on what you can control
• how to do things differently rather than staying stuck in the same loops

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• How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

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In today's episode, we're talking all about things that we need to normalise in long-term relationships. So much of the time, our expectations about our relationships - that they should be harmonious 100% of the time, that we should love everything about our partner, that we should never doubt or question our choices - leave us feeling confused and anxious. 

When really, the problem is not with our relationship - it's with the pressure we've placed on our relationship to meet an unrealistic standard of perfection. 

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• Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up
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In today's episode, we're talking about 5 things that secure couples do really well to build safety, intimacy and connection in their relationships. We'll cover:

• raising important issues and knowing when to let things go
• prioritising connection, play and intimacy
• validating each other's experience rather than needing to be right
• balancing togetherness and separateness
• engaging in meaningful repair when things go awry

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In today's episode, I'm joined by my partner Joel and we're answering your questions about how we've navigated aspects of the anxious-avoidant dynamic in our relationship. 

We talk about:

• doing "the work" individually and as a couple
• how we've built trust and safety over time
• how we manage conflict and have hard conversations

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• Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up
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In today's episode, we're talking all about stress and the profound impact it can have on our relationships. We live in a world where stress is chronic and constant - and not only does that spell trouble for our health and wellbeing, but it can leave us feeling lonely, resentful and disconnected in our partnerships. 

We'll cover:

• how stress can exacerbate existing attachment dynamics
• why we aren't designed for chronic stress and what it does to us
• how our nervous system's stress response affects our perception and our stories
• tips for managing stress more adaptively as an individual and within your relationship

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• Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up
• How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

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In today's episode, we're talking about what to do when your partner doesn't want to work on the relationship. This is an incredibly common dynamic, to have one partner who wants to actively work on things and another partner who is more resistant (which can often overlap with anxious-avoidant dynamics).

We'll cover:

• why your partner might be feeling resistant to doing "the work"
• how different people make meaning out of needing to work on a relationship
• ways to dismantle fear stories your partner might have
• why it's entirely valid to value growth in a partnership

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• Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up
• How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

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In today's episode, we're talking all about trust & trustworthiness. Trust is something that many people struggle with, oftentimes as a direct result of past experiences where trust has been breached. And as we'll discuss in today's conversation, trust is about so much more than honesty. My hope is that you'll walk away from today's episode with greater clarity about why you might struggle with trust, and the steps you can take to remediate this in your relationships. 

We'll cover:

• the interplay between trust and trustworthiness
• the five pillars of trust
• how self-trust and relational trust are connected
• building trust through small acts over time

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• Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up
• How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

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In today's episode, we're exploring healthy interdependency. Interdependency is often cited as a key trait of secure functioning relationships, and yet many of us lack a clear picture of what healthy interdependency actually looks and feels like - especially if you have a history of insecure attachment patterns.

We'll cover:

• the spectrum from codependency to hyper-independence 
• interdependency as a healthy middle ground
• how different attachment styles relate to codependency, independence and interdependence
• signs of healthy interdependency in a relationship

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• Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up
• How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love

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