The Look & Sound of Leadership

A leader and her coach discuss a three-step model for turning upward feedback into a learning conversation that might allow the boss to hear the message. 

This month’s coaching conversation explores whether feedback should be given upwards in the first place. If so, are there ways to deliver the feedback effectively? 

Download the free “Giving Upward Feedback” PDF.

In the commentary, Tom tells a story about the Marshmallow Test being debunked. Here’s the column he mentions.

This episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

Communication Skills

Feedback

Managing Up

Five related episodes you might listen to are:

74 Dealing with Emotional Responses

14 Delivering Tough Feedback

32 Giving Powerful Feedback

118 Perception is Reality

99 The Disruptive Executive – Part One

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From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 

Knowing she’ll need to network to achieve her career goals, an ambitious leader asks her coach what a good networking conversation actually sounds like.

Resources for Building Your Networking Skills

Leverage the latest algorithm on LinkedIn with this research report.

Coaching For Leaders podcast: “How to Grow Your Professional Network”

Coaching For Leaders podcast: “Executive Presence with Your Elevator Speech”

10 Rules for Networking

Link to 10 Rules of Networking PDF in Essential Tools bin

Sorting & Labeling

Link to Sorting & Labeling PDF in Essential Tools bin

The Look & Sound of Leadership: “Assume Equality”

The Look & Sound of Leadership: “Being Concise”

This month’s episode is in the podcast archive in three categories:

For Women

Relationship Building

Social Skills

Five episodes to grow your networking skills: 

162 - Acting on the Corporate Stage

180 - Becoming Expert

193 - Branding Yourself

176 - The Executive Impostor

192 - Pursuing a Promotion 2020

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Listen to Tom’s conversation with Scott Ritzheimer on “Secrets of the High Demand Coach.”

COACHES!

Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. You’ll get CCE’s, too!

From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 

#podcast#leadershipnetworking#growyournetwork#professoinalconnections#networkingskills#leadershipdevelopment#networkbuilding#careerconnections

An ambitious leader knows she’ll need to network to achieve her career goals. But, to her, networking feels slimy, so she asks her coach for help. 

Some core concepts from this episode:

• The purpose of networking is to know people.
• Don’t target people. Nurture a relationship.
• Make networking 5% of your job every week.
• Networking makes you a more valuable employee.
• Show interest in the other person. No monologuing about yourself.

Listen to Tom’s “Flow” and “Fall” stories on the Coaching Stories podcast with Dr. Sam Humphrey. 

COACHES!

Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. You’ll get CCE’s, too!

https://www.icfla.org/special-interest-groups-2/

Be in touch with Tom here.

Please help yourself to the free resources in our Essential Tools bin including one called “10 Rules of Networking.” 

This month’s episode is in the podcast archive in three categories:

For Women

Relationship Building

Social Skills

Five episodes to grow your networking skills: 

42 - The Art of Chat

58 - Elevator Speeches

242 - Mastering Nerves

129 - Mentoring & Mentors

66 - Networking

Tom also mentioned an episode called Conquering People Pleasing.

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From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 

Before testifying in a high-stakes case, a theorist and his coach swap horror stories about their nerves hijacking them and the lessons they learned. 

Tom’s Top Three Ideas for Mastering Nerves:

• Celebrate Incremental Improvement
• Write Happy Endings
• Ignore Your Nerves

Here is the clip of Emma Stone battling her anxiety.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkN0sPQ76E0

Email Tom and tell him he’s crazy here.

For Coaches! 2 Resources!

1.  Coaching Stories Podcast

2.  Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF-LA. CCE’s given!

Tom’s conversations with Neha Singh on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast are here and here.

Please help yourself to the free resources in our Essential Tools bin.

This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:

Managing Yourself

Nervousness

Self-Talk

Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies: 

Act “As If”

Choosing Persistence

Conquering Fear

The Executive Impostor

The Many Parts of You

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From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

Angry at himself for continually putting others’ needs before his own, a leader turns to his coach for tools. He learns a new way to think and a behavior to try. 

Be in touch with Tom here.

Listen to Tom’s conversations with Neha on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast here and here.

Our Essential Tools bin has free resources to help you build your look and sound of leadership.

 
G.W. Bailey’s imdb page is here.

This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:

For Women

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk

Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies: 

188 Boundaries

165 The Conflict Conversation

220 Holding Boundaries

219 How to Set Boundaries

116 Speaking Your Truth 

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From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

A vice president, struggling to control his team of artists, learns a technique for managing bad behavior from his coach. He likes it so much, he uses it with his high performers, too.

The tool described in this episode is simple to understand but may take a bit of courage to implement.

Courage can be taught. Brené Brown created her Dare to Lead course for exactly that purpose. Ready to build your courage? Reach out to us here.

Find more resources to build your skills in the podcast archive. Search these categories:

Assertiveness

Feedback

Management Skills

Five episodes you might listen to are:

#47 Discussing Difficult Behaviors

#18 Holding People Accountable

#138 Managing Disruptive Executives

#127 Managing Performance: Up or Out

#65 Sorting & Labeling

A free infographic for Sorting & Labeling is in our Essential Tools bin. Help yourself to that and all the others.

Thinking about developing someone in your organization, or yourself? Reach out to Tom here.

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From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

#podcast #managingbadbehavior #leadershippodcast #leadershipchallenges  #behaviormanagement  #leadershiptips   #leadershipdevelopment  

A leader is so furious with his self-absorbed boss, he considers quitting the company. He asks his coach to help him manage himself and defuse his triggers.

In addition to the five strategies Tom talks about in this episode, there are lots more strategies in his conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching For Leaders “How to Deal with a Boss Who’s a Jerk.” 

Tom’s wide-ranging conversation with Josh Dittmer can be found here.

Free tools to support your professional development are in our Essential Tools bin. Please help yourself.

Ready to explore coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

Other episodes to help you manage yourself in difficult workplace relationshipsare:

• The Disruptive Executive – Part One
• The Disruptive Executive – Part Two
• Don’t Take It Personally
• Handling Defensive Behaviors
• The High-Maintenance Executive

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Thanks to all of you, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership. 

Happy, healthy, safe new year!

Tired of losing to more savvy players, a leader seeks to decode the secrets of playing politics, focusing particularly on company culture.

Download our free Political Style Chart here.

“The Secret Handshake” is a great tool for mastering workplace politics.



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More tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:

For Women
Perception – how you perceive others
Relationship Building

Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:

188 - Boundaries
210 - How to grow your self-management
67 - “I hate politics”
142 - The Mindful Executive
121 - Your Goodwill Bank Account

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Let us know how we can support you.

Happy, healthy, safe new year. I look forward to being with you all in 2024.

From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, Happy New Year! And thanks!

A leader feels stuck. She sees others winning resources she felt should have been hers, but she hates playing politics. What to do?

Download our free Political Style Chart here.

“The Secret Handshake” is a great tool for mastering workplace politics. 

Many more tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:

Self-Talk

Leadership

For Women

Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:

187 - Agreeable Disagreement

215 - How to Stay Calm Under Fire

192 - Pursuing a Promotion

207 - Tough Conversations

67 - “I Hate Politics”

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JAPAN!

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Be kind to yourself. Things are rough out there! From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership,  be well! And thanks!

A leader, surrounded by people she knows and trusts, can’t seem to get traction with them. In conversation with her coach, she discovers an unexpected cause.

Tools for teams abound in this episode. 

The four tools Tom suggests as first steps for helping your team openly discuss ideas are:

• Say ‘thank you’ when people offer an idea;
• Be curious; don’t dismiss ideas or people;
• Don’t take differences personally; it’s not about you;
• Develop your comfort with disagreement.

The Gradients of Agreement tool supports the ideas in this episode. Download it for free from our Essential Tools bin along with other communication tools like Sorting & Labeling.

Additional tools for team growth mentioned in this episode are the classic Crucial Conversations and Tom’s conversation on The cATalyzing Podcast.

This episode is in our podcast library in three categories:

Communication Skills

Leading Teams

Management Skills

Specific episodes that will help you develop your team are:

Facilitating Open Dialogue

How Teams Fight

Leadership Behavior in Meetings

Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta

Questions as Leadership

Taming Meetings 

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Until next month, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!

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