Dr. Aziz Gazipura explains the dangers of people-pleasing tendencies and shares actionable steps for overcoming it. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) The massive costs of being a people-pleaser

2) How to not feel guilty when saying no

3) A surprising strategy to build your discomfort tolerance 

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— ABOUT AZIZ — 

Dr. Aziz is a clinical psychologist and one of the world's leading experts on social confidence. In 2011, Dr. Aziz started The Center For Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping everyone break through their shyness and social anxiety.

Through confidence coaching, audio and video programs, podcasts, a detailed blog, and intensive weekend workshops, Dr. Aziz has helped thousands of people all over the world increase their confidence and lives out his mission: To help every person who is stuck in shyness liberate themselves to pursue the relationship, career, and life they have always dreamed of.

He lives in Portland, Oregon with his wife Candace and son Zaim.

• Book: Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself (site) 

• Book: Less Nice, More You: Stop Hiding & Become The Most Bold, Authentic Version Of You Now 

• Mini course: “5 Steps to Unleash Your Inner Confidence” 

• Organization: Social Confidence Center 

• Website: DrAziz.com 

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Study: Effect of Pain Reprocessing Therapy vs Placebo and Usual Care for Patients With Chronic Back Pain - A Randomized Clinical Trial

• Book: Free to Focus: A Total Productivity System to Achieve More by Doing Less by Michael Hyatt 

• Book: The Way Out: A Revolutionary, Scientifically Proven Approach to Healing Chronic Pain by Alan Gordon, Alon Ziv

• Previous episode: 830: Lessons Learned from the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness with Dr. Robert Waldinger

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Shanna Hocking shares transformative mindsets to help you advance your career and achieve your goals. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) How daily bold moves increase confidence 

2) Powerful mantras to keep self-doubt at bay 

3) How to stop dreading difficult conversations 

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— ABOUT SHANNA — 

Shanna A. Hocking is a leadership consultant and coach, fundraising strategist, speaker, and writer. Shanna spent 20 years in fundraising leadership at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, University of Alabama, and Duke University. 

She is the author of One Bold Move a Day: Meaningful Actions Women Can Take to Fulfill Their Leadership and Career Potential. Shanna’s expertise has been featured in Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Fortune, Wall Street Journal, The Muse, and Harper’s Bazaar UK. Shanna was named a LinkedIn Top Voice in 2024. 

• Book: One Bold Move a Day: Meaningful Actions Women Can Take to Fulfill Their Leadership and Career Potential 

• LinkedIn: Shanna Hocking 

• Website: ShannaAHocking.com 

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Tool: Hogan Assessments 

• Study: “Stronger together: A multilevel study of collective strengths use and team performance” by Maria Christina Meyers, Marianne van Woerkom, and Robin Bauwens 

• Book: I Hope This Finds You Well: A Novel by Natalie Sueook: What Works for Women at Work: Four Patterns Working Women Need to Know by Joan C. Williams and Rachel Dempsey 

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Ximena Vengoechea shares her viral three-phase life audit exercise for surfacing and achieving your most important goals. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) How to transform your life with just Post-Its and a marker 

2) How to turn fanciful wishes into actionable goals 

3) How to stay motivated while pursuing hard goals 

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— ABOUT XIMENA — 

Ximena Vengoechea is a user experience researcher, writer, and illustrator whose work on personal and professional development has been published in Inc., the Washington Post, Newsweek, and Insider, among others. She is the author of Rest Easy and Listen Like You Mean It, and she writes a newsletter about personal growth and human behavior. She lives in New York. 

• Book: The Life Audit: A Step-by-Step Guide to Discovering Your Goals and Building the Life You Want 

• Blogpost: “How and Why to do a Life Audit” 

• Website: XimenaVengoechea.com 

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Notebook: Moleskine 

• Notebook: Leuchttrum1917 

• Book: I Hope This Finds You Well: A Novel by Natalie Sue 

• Book: Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything by BJ Fogg 

• Past episode: 317: How to Form Habits the Smart Way with BJ Fogg, PhD 

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Disney legend Duncan Wardle shares keys for tapping into your creative side. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) What blocks our creativity 

2) How to hone your ideas with a “naive expert” 

3) The trick to surfacing your best ideas 

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— ABOUT DUNCAN — 

As Head of Innovation and Creativity at Disney, Duncan and his team helped Imagineering, Lucasfilm, Marvel, Pixar, and Disney Parks to innovate, creating magical new storylines and experiences.

He now brings his extensive Disney expertise to audiences around the world using a unique approach to Design Thinking, helping people capture unlikely connections, leading to fresh thinking and disruptive ideas.

Delivering a series of keynotes, workshops and ideation forums, his unique Innovation toolkit helps companies embed a culture of innovation into everyone’s DNA.

Duncan is a multiple TED speaker and contributor to Fast Company, Forbes & the Harvard Business Review. He teaches innovation Master Classes at Yale, Harvard, and Edinburgh University. 

• Book: The Imagination Emporium: Creative Recipes for Innovation 

• Website: DuncanWardle.com 

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Book: Creativity, Inc.: Overcoming the Unseen Forces That Stand in the Way of True Inspiration by Ed Catmull and Amy Wallace 

• Book: Virgin by Design by Nick Carson 

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Dr. Janna Koretz reveals the pitfalls of letting your job become your identity and what to do about it. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) Why career enmeshment harms mental health

2) The power of protected thinking time

3) The root cause of workaholism–and how to cure it

Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep1016 for clickable versions of the links below. 

— ABOUT JANNA — 

Dr. Janna Koretz is the founder of Azimuth, a therapy practice specializing in the mental health challenges of individuals in high-pressure careers. She has spent over a decade helping her clients face and overcome their mental health issues by developing a unique understanding of industry-specific nuances in fields like law, consulting, finance, and technology. 

Dr. Koretz has been featured in many publications, including Harvard Business Review and the Wall Street Journal, focusing on the importance of recognizing career/identity enmeshment. She also writes and speaks on the challenges of discovering and living your personal values. 

In addition to therapy, Azimuth provides a set of free online tools that have helped tens of thousands of people, including the Burnout Calculator, Career Enmeshment Test, and Values Navigator. The practice is also developing a values-based journaling iOS app, set to launch later this year, based on the popularity of its Values Navigator tool. 

• Website: AzimuthPsych.com 

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Book: The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt 

• Past episode: 873: Dr. Steven Hayes on Building a More Resilient and Flexible Mind 

• Study: The Stanford Prison Experiment

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Caroline Miller shares the overlooked science that helps you pursue your most ambitious goals. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) The top goal-setting myths to abandon immediately 

2) The two types of goals and how to set them 

3) The BRIDGE methodology for effective goal-setting 

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— ABOUT CAROLINE — 

For over three decades, Caroline Adams Miller has been a pioneer with her groundbreaking work in the areas of the science of goal setting, grit, happiness, and success. She is recognized as one of the world’s leading positive psychology experts on this research and how it can be applied to one’s life and work for maximum transformation. 

She is the author of nine books, including My Name is Caroline, Getting Grit, Positively Caroline and Creating Your Best Life, which the "father of Positive Psychology," Dr. Martin Seligman, lauded in Flourish as "adding a major missing piece" to the world of goal setting. She is a magna cum laude graduate of Harvard University and attained one of the first 32 degrees in the world in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania.

• Book: Big Goals: The Science of Setting Them, Achieving Them, and Creating Your Best Life 

• Book: Getting Grit: The Evidence-Based Approach to Cultivating Passion, Perseverance, and Purpose 

• Book site: BigGoalsBook.com 

• Child Mind Institute: ChildMind.org 

• Website: CarolineMiller.com 

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Book: Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment by Daniel Kahneman, Olivier Sibony, Cass Sunstein 

• Book: Woman's Inhumanity to Woman by Phyllis Chessler 

• Study: “Benefits of Frequent Positive Affect” by Sonja Lyubomirsky, Laura King, Ed Diener 

• Survey: VIA's Character Strengths Survey 

• Tool: Perplexity 

• Tool: Google Notebook  

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Happy Thanksgiving! Pete briefly reflects on two recent episodes that helped level up how he uses AI.

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Previous episode: 1004: Seth Godin on How to Maximize Your Impact and Deliver Work That Matters

• Previous episode: 1010: Getting the Most Out of Generative AI at Work with Jeremy Utley

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Darren Chait discusses how to make meetings more engaging using data from Calendly’s State of Meetings 2024 research. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) Why 81% of respondents want more meetings 

2) Three meetings to keep—and the one to stop 

3) Surprising statistics on meeting etiquette 

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— ABOUT DARREN — 

Darren Chait is the VP of Marketing at Calendly, leading the world-class marketing organization. Previously, he was a co-founder of Hugo, the leading meeting workflow solution powering meetings for tens of thousands of customers backed by Google, Slack and Atlassian.

In a prior life, Darren was a corporate lawyer at one of Australia's leading law firms, where he attended meetings for a living – the start of his passion for meetings and the future of work.

• LinkedIn: Darren Chait 

• Website: Calendly.com 

• Study: The State of Meetings 2024 

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Tool: Loom 

• Tool: Gong 

• Tool: Miro 

• Book: Team of Teams: New Rules of Engagement for a Complex World by General Stanley McChrystal, Tantum Collins, David Silverman, Chris Fussell

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Neel Doshi reveals how to build and sustain high performing cultures through total motivation. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) The six motives at the root of culture 

2) How to use metrics the wrong and right way 

3) The questions that kill motivation 

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— ABOUT NEEL — 

Neel is the co-founder of Vega Factor and co-author of bestselling book, Primed to Perform: How to Build the Highest Performing Cultures Through the Science of Total Motivation. Previously, Neel was a Partner at McKinsey & Company, CTO and founding member of an award-winning tech startup, and employee of several mega-institutions. He studied engineering at MIT and received his MBA from Wharton. In his spare time, he’s an avid yet mediocre woodworker and photographer.

• Book: Primed to Perform: How to Build the Highest Performing Cultures Through the Science of Total Motivation

• Website: Factor.ai

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Study: “Poverty impedes cognitive function” by Anandi Mani, Sendhil Mullainathan, Eldar Shafir, and Jiaying Zhao

• Book: Pattern Breakers: Why Some Start-Ups Change the Future by Mike Maples and Peter Ziebelman

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Dr. Manu Kapur reveals how to maximize learning by intentionally designing for failure. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) Why to avoid explanations and experts (at first) 

2) How to achieve the sweet spot of deep learning 

3) Four ways to hack your motivation 

Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep1012 for clickable versions of the links below. 

— ABOUT MANU — 

Dr. Manu Kapur is a world-renowned expert on learning and currently heads the Future Learning Initiative at ETH University Zurich. He divides his research time between ETH Zurich and the Singapore-ETH Center in Singapore. Dr. Kapur earned his doctorate in Education from Columbia University. 

Dr. Kapur is known for his pioneering research on intentionally designing for and learning from failure, demonstrating how this approach can lead to more effective learning compared to traditional methods. He frequently speaks at corporate and educational events and is often interviewed on learning-related subjects, including several appearances on NPR and two successful TEDX talks: Productive Failure and How Failure Drives Learning.

• Book: Productive Failure: Unlocking Deeper Learning Through the Science of Failing (book site) 

• TED Talk: Productive Failure 

• TEDx Talk: How failure drives learning | Manu Kapur | TEDxHSGSalon 

• Website: ManuKapur.com 

• LinkedIn: Manu Kapur 

• Twitter/X: @ManuKapur24 

• Instagram: drmanu_kapur 

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Book: Shantaram: A Novel by Gregory David Roberts 

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