Tessa West addresses the seven common types of jerks at work–and how to deal with them effectively. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) How to tell if someone is being an intentional jerk at work 

2) How to identify your particular type of work jerk 

3) How to tell if you’re the jerk at work

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— ABOUT TESSA — 

Tessa West is an Associate Professor of Psychology at New York University, where she is a leading expert on interpersonal interaction and communication. She has published over 60 articles in the field of psychology's most prestigious journals, and has received multiple grants from the National Science Foundation and the National Institutes of Health. She writes regularly about her research in the Wall Street Journal. 

• Book: Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to do About Them 

• Quiz: “Am I a Jerk at Work?” 

• Website: TessaWestAuthor.com 

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• Book: Children of Time by Adrian Tchaikovsky 

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Owen Fitzpatrick talks about how your inner propaganda shapes your beliefs, decisions, and behavior–and how you can stop it from sabotaging your success.

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) Why to be wary of the “temptations of certainty”

2) The three reasons people form/change their beliefs 

3) The four steps to rewiring your beliefs 

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— ABOUT OWEN — 

Owen Fitzpatrick is a social psychologist. Owen has traveled to more than 100 countries and studied propaganda firsthand in places such as North Korea, Rwanda, and Afghanistan. Also an award-winning filmmaker and former television presenter, he brings the craft of storytelling to his work. He has worked with leaders at Google, LinkedIn, Pfizer, and Coca-Cola, studied at Harvard Business School and MIT, and is the author of nine books translated into 20+ languages. His TEDx talk “Mind Control” has reached more than 1.4 million viewers. Originally from Dublin, Ireland, he now lives in New York City.

• Book: Inner Propaganda: Leading Hearts and Minds Through Turbulent Times

• Book site: InnerPropaganda.com

• Instagram: owenf23

• LinkedIn: Owen Fitzpatrick

• Website: OwenFitzpatrick.com

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Study: “The rise and fall of rationality in language” by Marten Scheffer, Ingrid van de Leemput, Els Weinans, and Johan Bollen

• Study: “On the conversational persuasiveness of GPT-4” by Francesco Salvi, Manoel Horta Ribeiro, Riccardo Gallotti, and Robert West

• Book: Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts by Annie Duke

• Book: Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, Revised Edition by Robert Cialdini

• Book: Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know by Adam Grant

• Book: Address Unknown: A Novel by Kathrine Kressmann Taylor

• Documentary: "Behind the Curve"

• Past episode: 664: Dr. Robert Cialdini on How to Persuade with the 7 Universal Principles of Influence

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Amy Morin shares practical tools to stay calm, confident, and resilient under pressure.

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) How to quickly shift your mood and energy

2) How to defuse dread and make your workday easier

3) The simple tool to keep worry from taking over your day

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— ABOUT AMY — 

Amy Morin, LCSW is a psychotherapist, mental strength trainer, internationally bestselling author, and the award-winning host of the Mentally Stronger With Therapist Amy Morin podcast. Her books on mental strength, including 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, have sold more than 1 million copies and been translated into more than 50 languages. 

She’s practiced therapy for over 20 years, and she’s a sought-after speaker whose TEDx talk, “The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong,” is one of the most viewed talks of all time with more than 25 million views. Her new book is The Mental Strength Playbook: 50 Tools to Cope with Stress, Thrive Under Pressure, and Gain a Competitive Edge in the Workplace. Amy lives on a sailboat in the Florida Keys.

• Book: The Mental Strength Playbook: 50 Tools to Cope with Stress, Thrive Under Pressure, and Gain a Competitive Edge in the Workplace

• Podcast: Mentally Stronger with Therapist Amy Morin

• TEDxTalk: The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong | Amy Morin | TEDxOcala

• Website: AmyMorinLCSW.com

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• App: How We Feel

• Book: Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity by David Allen

• Book: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends by Marisa Franco

• Past episode: 482: David Allen Returns with the 10 Moves to Stress-Free Productivity

• Past episode: 840: The Science Behind Strong, Lasting Friendships with Dr. Marisa G. Franco

• Video: The Chris Hemsworth Video You Need | Netflix

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Michael Sorensen demonstrates the simple superpower that vastly improves our relationships: validation.

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) How to improve conversations with the four-step validation method 

2) How we unintentionally invalidate others

3) How to move past the discomfort of emotional conversations 

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— ABOUT MICHAEL — 

Michael Sorensen is a marketing executive by day and a bestselling author, speaker, and relationship coach by night. His book, I Hear You, has helped hundreds of thousands of people across the world become masters of connection in business, love, and life. 

Michael has been invited to speak at some of the world’s largest organizations, had his work translated into over a dozen languages, and has even conducted training for the United States Navy. 

• Book: I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships 

• Website: MichaelSSorensen.com 

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Software: TextExpander 

• App: Copy’Em

• Book: Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss

• Book: The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

• Book: The Slight Edge (Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success and Happiness) by Jeff Olson

• Past episode: 311: Communication Secrets from FBI Kidnapping Negotiator Chris Voss 

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Jeremy Pollack explains the critical role our nervous system plays in conflict resolution.

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) The neurobiological underpinnings of conflict

2) The 60-second hack to regain your composure

3) How to deal with a conflict that’s going nowhere

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— ABOUT JEREMY — 

Jeremy Pollack, Ph.D. is a social-organizational psychologist and a leader in the field of workplace conflict resolution and peacebuilding. He is the Founder of Pollack Peacebuilding Systems, an international conflict resolution consulting firm. He is also co-founder and chairman of the Peaceful Leadership Institute, a 501c3 non-profit dedicated to promoting the model and theory of Peaceful Leadership. Jeremy is a coach, trainer, mediator, and author. He coaches and trains executives and employees at a variety of levels and industries, from Fortune 100 companies to major non-profits.

• Book: Wired for Peace: Using 7 Neuroscience-Based Principles to Resolve Conflicts

• Website: PollackPeaceBuilding.com

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Term: Terror management theory

• Book: Little Book of Conflict Transformation: Clear Articulation Of The Guiding Principles By A Pioneer In The Field (Justice and Peacebuilding) by John Lederach

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Dr. Marilee Adams shows you how to ask the questions that drive improvement and innovation. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) How your inner questions shape your decisions and behavior

2) Why brainstorming often falls short–and what to do instead

3) The hidden assumptions that limit your thinking and creativity

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— ABOUT MARILEE — 

Marilee Adams, PhD, award-winning author, is a pioneer in inquiry-based coaching, leadership, and organizational culture. The originator of the Question Thinking methodologies, she is CEO and founder of the Inquiry Institute and a consultant for organizations large and small. 

Dr. Adams is an affiliate instructor for Weatherhead’s Executive Education Program at Case Western Reserve University and for ten years was an adjunct professor in the Key Executive Leadership Program at American University.

• Book: Change Your Questions, Change Your Life, Fifth Edition: 14 Powerful Tools for Leadership, Coaching, and Results

• Book: The Art of the Question: A Guide to Short-Term Question-Centered Therapy (Wiley Series in Couples and Family Dynamics and Treatment)

• Email: [email protected]

• Website: InquiryInstitute.com

• Tool: Choice map

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• Book: How to Tell a Story: The Essential Guide to Memorable Storytelling from The Moth by The Moth, Meg Bowles, Catherine Burns, Jenifer Hixson, Sarah Austin Jenness, Kate Tellers, Chenjerai Kumanyika, Padma Lakshmi

• Book: The Science of Storytelling: Why Stories Make Us Human and How to Tell Them Better by Will Storr

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Jia Jiang explains his four-step framework for making discipline and success easier.

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) The problem with hard discipline

2) How to make your goals feel easy and enjoyable

3) Two handy tips to defeat procrastination

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— ABOUT JIA — 

Jia Jiang is an award-winning speaker, entrepreneur, and the bestselling author of Rejection Proof. As a keynote speaker, Jiang has spoken at corporate and industry events and in front of 400,000+ live audiences. His TED talk has millions of views and is ranked in the top 1% among all TED talks. Jiang is also the owner of Rejection Therapy, which helps people overcome their fear of rejection and develop mental resilience. His work has been featured in Time, CNN, Today, Business Insider, The Guardian, Wired, and more.

• Book: Easy Discipline: An Unconventional Way to Achieve Ambitious Things

• TED Talk: What I Learned from 100 Days of Rejection | Jia Jiang | TED

• Video series: 100 Days of Rejection Therapy

• Substack: Easy Ambition

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• Book: How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

• Book: Go for No! Yes is the Destination, No is How You Get There by Richard Fenton and Andrea Waltz

• Book: Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die by Chip Heath and Dan Heath

• YouTube: Caroline Girvan

• Game: Slay the Spire II

• Past episode: 016: Going for No with Andrea Waltz

• Past episode: 1167: Mastering the Three Elements of Charisma with Olivia Fox Cabane

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DJ DiDonna makes the case for why taking more extended time off helps professionals get further in their careers–and shares tricks for actually snagging that time. 

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) How to convince your boss to let you take a sabbatical 

2) How sabbaticals act as “regret insurance”

3) How to plan a truly fulfilling sabbatical

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— ABOUT DJ — 

DJ DiDonna is a senior lecturer of business administration at Harvard Business School, where he teaches MBA courses on entrepreneurship and building meaningful professional and personal lives. He has spent his career translating social science research into real-world tools for positive change. In 2019, DiDonna founded The Sabbatical Project to define, explore, and research the role of sabbaticals in modern life. He has helped organizations around the world—from nonprofits to Fortune 50 companies—design and implement sabbatical policies.

His work has been featured in The Atlantic, Harvard Business Review, Time, Fast Company, The Wall Street Journal, and The New York Times. Previously, DiDonna cofounded EFL Global, a fintech company that enabled more than $2 billion in capital to underbanked businesses and individuals across twenty countries before its acquisition in 2018. DiDonna earned his MBA from Harvard Business School. On his sabbatical, DiDonna walked nine hundred miles on pilgrimage in Shikoku, Japan, helped lead the Wilson Sheehan Lab for Economic Opportunities at his undergraduate alma mater, Notre Dame, and unskillfully remodeled his kitchen. Outside work, you can find him plotting how to be in the Big Outdoors.

• Book: Big Time Off: The Transformative Power of Sabbaticals and How to Take One by DJ DiDonna

• LinkedIn: DJ DiDonna

• Website: TheSabbaticalProject.org

• Website: djdidonna.com

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• Tool: Voice Dream Reader

• Book: The Three-Body Problem (The Three-Body Problem Series, 1) by Cixin Liu

• Book: Working Identity: Unconventional Strategies for Reinventing Your Career by Herminia Ibarra

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Simone Stolzoff shows you that it’s possible to turn uncertainty into your advantage.

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) How to build your uncertainty tolerance  

2) What to ask when you face indecision

3) Why curiosity is the antidote to fear

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— ABOUT SIMONE — 

Simone Stolzoff is an author and journalist who explores big questions about work, meaning, and identity. A former design lead at the global innovation firm IDEO, he is the author of two books: The Good Enough Job and How To Not Know. His work has been featured in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and on the TED stage. He lives in San Francisco with his wife and son.

• Book: How to Not Know: The Value of Uncertainty in a World that Demands Answers

• Book: The Good Enough Job: Reclaiming Life from Work

• Book site: HowToNotKnow.com

• Substack: The Article Book Club

• Website: SimoneStolzoff.com

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• Tool: Intolerance of Uncertainty Scale (IUS)

• Study: World Uncertainty Index

• Study: "Is the Pain Worth the Gain? The Advantages and Liabilities of Agreeing With Socially Distinct Newcomers" by Katherine W. Phillips, Katie A. Liljenquist, and Margaret A. Neale

• Study: "Increasing intolerance of uncertainty over time: the potential influence of increasing connectivity" by R Nicholas Carleton, Gabrielle Desgagné, Rachel Krakauer, and Ryan Y. Hong

• Figure: Annie Duke

• Book: Flex Your Feelings: Train Your Brain to Develop the 7 Traits of Emotional Fitness by Dr. Emily Anhalt

• Book: London Falling: A Mysterious Death in a Gilded City and a Family's Search for Truth by Patrick Radden Keefe

• Book: The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath

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Olivia Fox Cabane reveals the behaviors and practices that help develop your personal charisma.

— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) The number one myth surrounding charisma

2) How to amplify your presence in just a few seconds

3) The master key to looking and feeling more powerful

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— ABOUT IAN — 

Olivia Fox Cabane is a leading authority on the science of charisma and the bestselling author of The Charisma Myth and The Net And The Butterfly, translated into 36 languages. 

Formerly Director of Innovative Leadership for Stanford StartX, she has lectured on charisma, leadership, and innovation at Harvard, Yale, MIT, the Marine War College, and the United Nations. As cofounder of the KindEarth.Tech Foundation, she supports foodtech companies advancing environmental sustainability. 

Her clients include the leadership of Apple, Google, TikTok, Deloitte, UBS, and JP Morgan as well as founders of Airbnb, Brex, Paradigm, and Presight. She has been featured in The New York Times, The Economist, and The Wall Street Journal. 

• Book: The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism

• Meditation: The Charisma Myth Exercises: Metta

• Website: AskOlivia.com

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Study: “Case Report: Women, Be Aware that Your Vocal Charisma can Dwindle in Remote Meetings” by Ingo Siegert and Oliver Niebuhr

• Study: “Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes” by Jane M. Howell and Peter J. Frost

• Study: “Predictors of leadership: The usual suspects and the suspect traits” by John Antonakis

• Researcher: Dr. Oliver Niebuhr

• Microphone: Maono HD300T

• YouTube: Podcastage

• Book: Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini

• Book: Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha by Tara Brach

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