Everyday actions, when turned into rituals, can manage emotions and create a sense of meaning.

Amy Sandler is joined by Harvard Business School Professor Michael Norton to discuss his latest book, The Ritual Effect. Norton explores the significance of rituals in reducing stress and enhancing productivity, both at work and in personal life. He shares compelling research and personal anecdotes that illustrate how everyday actions, when turned into rituals, can manage emotions and create a sense of control and purpose. The conversation covers the practical application of rituals in business settings, their emotional significance, and how they can foster team cohesion and workplace wellness. Whether you're a skeptic or a believer in the power of rituals, this episode offers valuable insights into how structured routines can lead to greater emotional health and professional effectiveness. 

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Episode Links:

• Michael Norton
• Michael Norton’s Books
• Harvard Business School Profile
• Michael's Paper on Humblebragging
• Michael's Paper on Matchmaking
  
• Rituals Quiz | What Are Your Rituals? | Michael Norton

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Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction
Amy Sandler introduces guest Michael Norton and his book The Ritual Effect.

(00:02:16) A Quick Ritual Exercise
A fun and engaging ritual exercise to explore emotional connections.

(00:04:18) From Skeptic to Advocate
Michael’s journey from being a ritual skeptic to writing The Ritual Effect.

(00:07:40) The Meaning of Rituals
How rituals naturally emerge to provide structure and meaning.

(00:10:04) Rituals vs. Habits
The emotional difference between habits and rituals.

(00:12:13) Rituals as Emotion Generators
The dual role of rituals in generating and managing emotions.

(00:15:05) The Power of Collective Rituals
How shared rituals strengthen bonds and create collective experiences.

(00:16:30) Rituals at Work
Examples of team rituals that foster bonding and purpose.

(00:20:46) Fostering Meaning in Teams
Balancing team pride and inclusivity when designing rituals to reflect shared values.

(00:23:38) Creating Work Rituals
Advice for leaders to cocreate rituals for new work teams.

(00:26:24) Adapting Rituals for Remote Work
How teams have developed virtual rituals to maintain connection online.

(00:29:05) Meaningful Rituals in the Workplace
The significance of rituals in the workplace for individuals and leaders.

(00:32:54) Evaluating the Benefits of Rituals
How rituals contribute positively to mental health and well-being.

(00:36:49) Leaders Supporting Organic Rituals
Tips for leaders to encourage authentic rituals without imposing corporate mandates.

(00:39:59) Aligning Rituals with Team Values
Using rituals to express and reinforce organizational values creatively and authentically.

(00:41:50) Discovering Your Rituals
Exploring the rituals in your life through Michael’s Ritual Quiz.

(00:45:21) Conclusion

Practicing Radical Candor with your family members this holiday season.

Holiday communication with your family can be rife with stress. And while you love your family, let’s be frank, family togetherness during the holidays often goes sideways. So much so that it’s become a trope that’s spawned dozens of holiday movies. But you can survive it by practicing Radical Candor with your nearest and dearest this holiday season to avoid defaulting to Obnoxious Aggression, Manipulative Insincerity or Ruinous Empathy.

Get all of the show notes at RadicalCandor.com/podcast.

Episode Links:

• Applying Radical Candor To Dysfunctional Family Dynamics
• 7 Ways Radical Candor Transforms Relationships, According To ChatGPT
• A Happy Marriage Of Growth And Stability | Radical Candor
• Radical Candor – Speaking Directly and Caring Personally – The Veterinary Idealist
• The Overton Window – Mackinac Center
• How to Use Radical Candor to Communicate Clearly With Your Family During the Holidays

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Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction
Kim, Jason, and Amy introduce the topic of navigating difficult family dynamics during the holidays.

(00:02:53) Radical Candor and the Holidays
The struggle with practicing Radical Candor with families during the holidays.

(00:04:36) Generational and Cultural Differences
How cultural and generational gaps complicate family communication.

(00:07:12) Family Role Expectations and Childhood Patterns
Reverting to childhood behaviors and role expectations during family visits.

(00:9:18) Taking the Bait: Avoiding Escalation
Strategies for turning down conversational "volume" and avoiding conflict bait.

(00:20:20) Overreacting to Advice
How understanding intent can improve family dynamics.

(00:24:37) Why Gifts Sometimes Backfire
The alternate perspectives on gifts dependant on the giver or receiver.

(00:27:42) Gifts Gone Wrong
Personal anecdotes of gift-giving mishaps and lessons learned.

(00:33:33) The Strain of Gift Giving
How gift giving can be especially hard in strained family dynamics.

(00:35:59) Setting Boundaries with Family
Asserting personal boundaries when saying yes takes its toll.

(00:39:22) Gifting with Intent
Releasing the obligation of the perfect gift for the giver and receiver.

(00:43:51) Radical Candor at Family Gatherings
Guidance on when to lean into Radical Candor and when to let things slide.

(00:50:12) Appreciating Moments Together
The finite nature of time with loved ones and making the most of family gatherings.

(00:54:51) Radical Candor Tips
Tips on setting boundaries, practicing care, and avoiding unnecessary conflict.

(01:00:01) Conclusion

How the CORE method can help you thrive in the messy middle.

Caught in the middle of a boss who’s all care but no action and a team lead who’s full steam ahead with no brakes? That’s a workplace tightrope no one wants to walk. Your ability to Care Personally and Challenge Directly can seriously be affected when communication falls apart on both ends of the spectrum, and it’s not just frustrating—it’s debilitating. How do you stay productive and keep your sanity when you’re managing up and down with people who either dodge conflict entirely or bulldoze through it? In this episode, Jason and Amy tackle the messy middle, breaking down how to use the CORE method (Context, Observation, Result, Expected Next Steps) to navigate these tricky situations. It’s not about pointing fingers or playing favorites—it’s about finding a way to ditch the drama and focus on what really matters: working better together.

Get all of the show notes at RadicalCandor.com/podcast.

Episode Links:

• Give Candid Feedback With the CORE Method | Radical Candor
• Feedback from Your Boss | Radical Candor
• Asking for Feedback | Radical Candor
• The Radical Candor Order of Operations | Radical Candor
• Make Work Less Like Jr. High: Radical Candor Podcast 5 | 10
• Managing Challenging Conversations At Work | Radical Candor
• Navigating Workplace Tensions: Stuck Between Ruinous Empathy and Obnoxious Aggression

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Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction
Amy and Jason introduce a listener dilemma about a ruinously empathetic boss and an obnoxiously aggressive team lead.

(00:02:15) Defining Ruinous Empathy and Obnoxious Aggression
What it means to care without challenging and to challenge without caring.

(00:04:44) It’s the Boss’s Job: Accountability Matters
Why the manager has ultimate responsibility and how to provide feedback.

(00:07:53) Raising the Issue with Your Boss
How to approach a ruinously empathetic boss with care and directness.

(00:11:46) Involving Your Boss Effectively
How to engage your boss in resolving team tensions without blame or shame.

(00:17:55) Using the CORE Method
A step-by-step approach to delivering clear and constructive feedback.

(00:20:55) Role-Play: Navigating a Clean Escalation Conversation
How to handle a tough conversation between a team member and an aggressive lead.

(00:31:11) Building Common Ground
Tips for fostering mutual understanding and creating actionable steps.

(00:34:02) Radical Candor Tips
Key takeaways and practical tips for addressing conflict.

(00:36:35) Conclusion

Showing respect when you just don’t connect.

Ever feel like caring about a coworker is just...not in the cards? Same. Here’s the thing though – you don’t have to be besties to show respect and keep things productive. In this episode, Kim, Amy, and Jason tackle the tough question of how to Care Personally when someone’s driving you up the wall. With relatable stories (yes, even a deodorant conversation makes an appearance) and practical tips, they break down how to stay curious, address frustrations head-on, and avoid letting those "ugh" feelings spiral into toxicity. The key takeaway? Stop writing mental soap operas about your colleagues and start having real conversations. Awkward? Sure. Worth it? Absolutely.

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Episode Links:

• What It Means to Care Personally About Your Team
• What's the Ideal Manager-Employee Relationship?
• What does it mean to Care Personally?
• How to Develop Empathy for Someone Who Annoys You
• What Is Radical Respect? Learn Why It's Crucial for a Healthy Workplace Culture
• Beware The Fundamental Attribution Error: Radical Candor Podcast 5 | 8
• How to Give Difficult Feedback While Still Caring Personally
• Adam Grant | Instagram
• How to Care Personally About Someone You Don’t Like
• How to Care Personally When You Don’t Like Someone

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Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction
Kim, Jason and Amy introduce ​​a listener’s question about caring personally for someone you don’t like.

(00:02:09) Radical Respect
How respect forms the core of caring personally, even when someone annoys you.

(00:03:48) Reframing Perspectives
Reframing narratives to foster empathy in difficult workplace interactions.

(00:05:05) Addressing Irritating Behaviors
Two stories from differing perspectives on personal irritations at work.

(00:08:17) Curiosity as a Bridge
The power of curiosity in understanding and seeing humanity in others.

(00:11:02) Unspoken Disagreements
How assumptions and unspoken disagreements corrode relationships.

(00:14:16) Repairing Relationships at Work
The journey from conflict to rebuilding a strained relationship with a peer.

(00:22:17) Different Work Styles
Respecting differing approaches to work and optimizing collaboration.

(00:24:14) The Role Self-Awareness
Self-awareness and transitioning from internal frustration to constructive dialogue.

(00:33:08) Indifference vs. Engagement at Work
The inefficiencies of emotional detachment from colleagues.

(00:34:29) Balancing Connection and Boundaries
Maintaining professional relationships while respecting personal boundaries.

(00:37:38) Radical Candor Tips
Key tips from the episode, including respect, curiosity, and addressing biases.

(00:40:24) Conclusion

Tune in to the Radical Candor Podcast to learn to love your job and kick ass at work without losing your humanity by practicing the principles of Radical Candor. Host and Lead Radical Candor Coach Amy Sandler leads discussions with Radical Candor Author and Co-founder Kim Scott and CEO and Co-founder Jason Rosoff about what it means to be Radically Candid, why it’s simple but not easy to Care Personally and Challenge Directly on the daily, and why it’s worth it.

The messy reality of salary secrecy.

Pay transparency—yikes, it’s one of those topics that makes everyone squirm, but avoiding it does more harm than good. Let’s be real: when salaries are shrouded in secrecy, it doesn’t just make things awkward—it allows inequity and mistrust to thrive. And here’s the kicker: people are already talking about pay, just in whispers instead of open, productive conversations. In this episode, Kim and Jason take a no-nonsense approach to tackling the discomfort. From real stories of pay gaps to the tangled emotions and messy realities behind compensation conversations, they discuss how a lack of transparency impacts trust and fairness, and share practical tips for making compensation more equitable. Whether you’re trying to influence change at your organization or navigate these conversations as an employee, this is your guide to addressing one of the workplace’s biggest taboos—without losing your humanity.

Get all of the show notes at RadicalCandor.com/podcast.

Episode Links:

• 7 Steps for Radical Pay Transparency to Narrow Disparities
• New Laws Force Honesty About Pay. Companies Are Catching Up.
• Designing Fair Compensation Systems
• Pay Transparency: What It Is and How to Do It Right | Built In
• Your Right to Discuss Wages | National Labor Relations Board
• Payscale

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Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction
Kim and Jason introduce the episode and the listener's question about pay transparency.

(00:03:09) Legality of Pay Discussions
The legal landscape of discussing salaries in the workplace.

(00:06:32) Real Stories of Pay Inequity
A personal experience of discovering and addressing pay gaps. 

(00:10:18) Building a Compensation Philosophy
The importance of having a framework for determining salaries.

(00:12:09) Why Pay Disparities Happen
Examples of pay disparities in the workplace and the reasons behind them.

(00:16:09) Theory of Compensation
The process of setting a fair salary band based on market data.

(00:21:38) Efficiency of Salary Formulas
How setting a compensation framework saves time and prevents inequality.

(00:28:06) Transparency in Recruiting
The benefits of sharing salary ranges in job postings and clarifying compensation processes.

(00:33:13) Fixing Pay Disparities with Candor
Strategies to proactively identify and address inequities in compensation.

(00:42:12) Radical Candor Tips
Practical tips for creating transparent compensation systems.

(00:43:33) Conclusion

Missed promotions, broken promises, and the fallout that follows.

Promotions gone wrong? Yeah, it’s a thing. On this episode, Kim and former Twitter CEO Dick Costolo tackle a listener’s tale of missed opportunities, broken promises, and a management team that just can’t get it together. From the cringe-worthy red flags to the frustrating aftermath, they explore how leadership missteps can wreak havoc on trust and motivation. Tune in for sharp insights, practical advice, and a whole lot of “what NOT to do” when navigating messy workplace dynamics. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a system that doesn’t seem to work, this episode will help you find your way forward.

Get all of the show notes at RadicalCandor.com/podcast.

Episode Links:

• Managerial Musings With Kim Scott & Dick Costolo 5 | 26
• Dick Costolo | LinkedIn
• Kim Scott & Dick Costolo Unpack the Messy Truth About Management Dilemmas
• What Happens When Promotions Go Sideways?

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Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction
Kim Scott introduces Dick Costolo, former Twitter CEO and stand-up comedian.

(00:01:45) The Promotion Predicament
A listener's dilemma about missing out on a promotion.

(00:05:00) Missteps by the First Manager
The mistakes of the listener's first manager, focusing on false promises.

(00:08:20) The Boss’s Boss Blunders
The dismissive and damaging responses from the listener's boss’s boss.

(00:09:36) Advice for Employees
Strategies for employees to clarify expectations with management.

(00:12:29) Addressing Subjectivity in Promotions
The challenge of fairness and transparency in dynamic organizations.

(00:14:54) Navigating Difficult Conversations
The value of candid, constructive dialogue over avoidance in leadership.

(00:18:20) A Call for Transparent Processes
How structured processes can prevent workplace dissatisfaction.

(00:20:30) Conclusion

The fine line between transparency and TMI.

Let’s get into it: oversharing at work — we’ve all done it, and we’ve all cringed after. But here’s the tea: when we spill sensitive info without thinking, we’re not just breaking trust, we’re tanking our ability to Care Personally and Challenge Directly. In this episode, Kim, Jason, and Amy dig into a listener's story about sharing too much too soon and just how quickly oversharing can derail trust and create chaos. They unpack why these missteps happen, how different company cultures play into it, and what it really takes to find that sweet spot between transparency and discretion. If you’ve ever found yourself in the awkward aftermath of an overshare, this one’s for you. Let’s learn how to slow down, think it through, and keep our Radical Candor intact!

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Episode Links:

• Use the GSD Wheel So No One Feels Sad, Bad or Left Out 4 | 2
  

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Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction
Amy, Kim and Jason introduce the episode around a listener’s question on oversharing at work.

(00:01:26) Listener's Question on Oversharing
A listener seeks advice on managing sensitive information more effectively.

(00:03:58) Communication and Cultural Assumptions
How organizational secrecy and biases affect information sharing.

(00:06:30) Pause and Reflect 
The importance of pausing before sharing any potentially sensitive information.

(00:08:42) Organizational Communication Structure
Insights into structured vs. open communication styles and their impact.

(00:12:09) Developing Effective Information Channels
Strategies for ensuring efficient communication and reducing redundancy.

(00:17:12) Soliciting Feedback and Building Trust
Soliciting feedback from team leads after communication missteps.

(00:22:16) Framework for Information Sensitivity
The “Category” framework to clarify communication roles and boundaries.

(00:24:56) Initiative and Respecting Boundaries
The balance of taking initiative versus respecting organizational boundaries.

(00:28:55) Communication and Problem Preference
Being clear on workplace communication styles to tackle preferred challenges.

(00:33:43) Personalizing Communication Styles
Insights on managing communication impulsivity and biases.

(00:38:47) Radical Candor Tips
Checklist for managing sensitive information and improving communication.

(00:41:05) Conclusion

Susan Rigetti on speaking up, keeping receipts, and why silence is never the answer.

We’re shaking up the workplace and diving deep into the raw reality of whistleblowing and the courage it takes to speak up with this special episode from the Radical Respect podcast. Kim, Wesley, and special guest Susan Rigetti, author of Whistleblower, break down the challenges of calling out toxic systems while being real with yourself. When harmful practices go unchecked, they don’t just derail careers—they damage the core of psychological safety that we all need to do our best work. So how do you find the strength to raise your voice when the stakes feel impossibly high? Susan shares her own powerful story of calling out the broken culture at Uber, laying out what happens when you decide you’ve had enough and choose to act. If you’ve ever struggled to raise your voice in the face of workplace dysfunction, learn why silence is never the answer and how respect and courage can transform even the most challenging environments.

Get all of the show notes at RadicalCandor.com/podcast.

Episode Links:

• How Susan Fowler Rigetti Inspired Me to Step Up and Speak Out
• Susan Fowler Rigetti
• Reflecting on One Very, Very Strange Year at Uber
• Whistleblower: My Unlikely Journey to Silicon Valley and Speaking Out Against Injustice

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Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction
Amy introduces the Radical Respect podcast with Kim, Wesley and guest Susan Rigetti, author of Whistleblower.

(00:03:24) Whistleblower and Lessons from Uber
Susan discusses her book, Whistleblower, and her challenges at Uber.

(00:07:13) Advice to Younger Self
The hard lesson of recognizing when a system can’t be fixed from the inside.

(00:10:33) The Cost of Staying Silent
The psychological and financial struggles many face when they stay silent.

(00:14:25) Staying True to Your Values
How keeping a list of values helped navigate a toxic work culture.

(00:16:20) Writing Whistleblower
Addressing misconceptions and setting the record straight with Whistleblower.

(00:21:18) Understanding Systemic Barriers
The systemic barriers that individuals face in the workplace.

(00:23:55) Reporting to HR
Documenting and reporting issues to hold organizations accountable. 

(00:26:20) Keeping the Receipts
Advice on documenting conversations and emails to protect oneself.

(00:29:07) Conclusion

Examining and expanding our capacity to hold different beliefs.

Brace yourself—this episode is all about navigating workplace tension with Radical Candor. Kim and Amy team up with Denise Hamilton, author of Indivisible: How to Forge Our Differences Into a Stronger Future, to tackle the complicated landscape of workplace polarization and the radical power of respect. Denise, known for her "irrational optimism," sheds light on how we can bridge deep divides, even when it feels impossible and that respect isn’t something earned through understanding—it’s the baseline that makes understanding possible. They explore why caring personally means building trust, even when opinions clash, and how we can create workplaces that honor both individual voices and collective purpose. With Denise’s wisdom and Kim’s Radical Candor principles, this episode digs into the tough conversations leaders often avoid but desperately need. If you’ve ever felt the strain of differing views at work, this conversation is for you—because staying connected is the only way forward.

Get all of the show notes at RadicalCandor.com/podcast.

Episode Links:

• RC Pod: Political Discussions at Work
• Denise Hamilton / Indivisible: How to Forge Our Differences Into a Stronger Future
• Radical Respect pod: Indivisible [YouTube]
• WatchHerWork
• Denise Hamilton

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Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction
Kim and Amy introduce Denise Hamilton, author of Indivisible.

(00:03:32) Discussing Politics at Work
Insights into the discomfort around political conversations in professional settings.

(00:05:01) Contradictory Messages
The conflicting messages people face around authenticity at work.

(00:07:22) Building a Respectful Work Culture
How workplace culture influences political discussions.

(00:10:59) Personal and Workplace Boundaries
Balancing personal beliefs and professionalism at work.

(00:12:59) The Role of Respect in Understanding
Respect as the foundation for understanding others.

(00:16:42) Holding Space for Emotions Post-Election
The importance of allowing emotional expression at work after tense events.

(00:21:36) Leaders Counteracting Negativity
The role leaders play in intentionally fostering positivity.

(00:24:03) Common Ground in Heated Times
Finding common ground with people who hold different views.

(00:27:05) Approaching Sensitive Topics Mindfully
Denise shares her “four-question rubric” for starting difficult conversations.

(00:31:52) Navigating Information Curation
The pitfalls of curated news and incomplete information.

(00:35:43) Misinformation and a Leader’s Responsibility
How leaders should address misinformation in their organizations.

(00:39:23) Owning vs. Renting: Social Responsibility
Adopting a long-term, invested mindset for societal change.

(00:44:06) The Vision for a Relationship-Centered Future
Hope for a future rooted in personal connections and humanity.

(00:46:05) Conclusion