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20 | Green Flags That Don’t Give You Butterflies (But Should)
In today’s episode, we’re flipping the script, we’re not talking about red flags. We’re talking GREEN FLAGS!
The subtle, powerful signs of emotional safety, regulation, and genuine connection that most people overlook in favor of sparkly chaos. (Yes, chaos and chemistry are not the same thing.)
This episode will have you rethinking every “boring” date you ever ghosted. Because real love isn’t about adrenaline—it’s about alignment.
💬 Loved the episode? Let us know!
Drop a comment, leave a review, or DM us your thoughts—we want to hear from the Deja Crew. Your feedback helps us grow and create more emotionally mature daters in the world!
Let's connect:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast
Timestamps:
00:00 Intr00:36 Red flags are everywhere, but what about the green ones?01:11 What healthy love actually feels like01:44 When a relationship feels “boring” but safe02:28 Regulation vs. emotional highs and lows02:48 Being yourself without walking on eggshells03:27 Understanding nervous system safety in relationships04:12 Green flag #1: They don’t get defensive05:24 Responding vs. reacting in communication06:07 Emotional maturity and creating safe feedback space06:26 Green flag #2: Vulnerability is safe in their hands07:55 They don’t use your feelings against you08:47 Reciprocating emotional safety09:37 Green flag #3: They comfort you without asking10:06 Emotional attunement and support10:56 Why kindness might feel “too nice” if you're not used to it11:26 Green flag #4: They don’t talk poorly about their ex12:13 Accountability and self-awareness in past relationships12:34 Green flag #5: Long-term friendships matter13:25 Friendships reflect attachment style14:24 Green flag #6: Playfulness and comfort being yourself15:42 When you’re called “too much” vs. being accepted16:13 Chemistry vs. chaos in dating history17:04 Real-life example of thoughtful support17:50 Relationships aren’t supposed to feel like hard work18:21 Important reflection questions to ask yourself18:55 Real love = alignment, not adrenaline19:17 Share the podcast and coaching offer20:12 Coaching vs. therapy20:54 Outro
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By Dating Déjà VuIn today’s episode, we’re flipping the script, we’re not talking about red flags. We’re talking GREEN FLAGS!
The subtle, powerful signs of emotional safety, regulation, and genuine connection that most people overlook in favor of sparkly chaos. (Yes, chaos and chemistry are not the same thing.)
This episode will have you rethinking every “boring” date you ever ghosted. Because real love isn’t about adrenaline—it’s about alignment.
💬 Loved the episode? Let us know!
Drop a comment, leave a review, or DM us your thoughts—we want to hear from the Deja Crew. Your feedback helps us grow and create more emotionally mature daters in the world!
Let's connect:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast
Timestamps:
00:00 Intr00:36 Red flags are everywhere, but what about the green ones?01:11 What healthy love actually feels like01:44 When a relationship feels “boring” but safe02:28 Regulation vs. emotional highs and lows02:48 Being yourself without walking on eggshells03:27 Understanding nervous system safety in relationships04:12 Green flag #1: They don’t get defensive05:24 Responding vs. reacting in communication06:07 Emotional maturity and creating safe feedback space06:26 Green flag #2: Vulnerability is safe in their hands07:55 They don’t use your feelings against you08:47 Reciprocating emotional safety09:37 Green flag #3: They comfort you without asking10:06 Emotional attunement and support10:56 Why kindness might feel “too nice” if you're not used to it11:26 Green flag #4: They don’t talk poorly about their ex12:13 Accountability and self-awareness in past relationships12:34 Green flag #5: Long-term friendships matter13:25 Friendships reflect attachment style14:24 Green flag #6: Playfulness and comfort being yourself15:42 When you’re called “too much” vs. being accepted16:13 Chemistry vs. chaos in dating history17:04 Real-life example of thoughtful support17:50 Relationships aren’t supposed to feel like hard work18:21 Important reflection questions to ask yourself18:55 Real love = alignment, not adrenaline19:17 Share the podcast and coaching offer20:12 Coaching vs. therapy20:54 Outro