In this episode of Absolute Trust Talk, managing attorney Kirsten Howe shares an estate planning miss that has nothing to do with your documents — the literal, physical mess we tend to leave behind. Drawing on years of trust administration experience, Kirsten explains what really happens when one child is named trustee and inherits the job of emptying a home filled with decades of belongings: stalled home sales, frustrated siblings, and inheritances delayed by months. She also shares the story of a daughter trustee who nearly hauled a box of "trash" to the dumpster, only to find $2,500 in cash tucked inside. Her advice is refreshingly hands-on: start sorting through your own things now, one closet and one room at a time, so the people you love aren't left to do it for you.

Time-stamped Show Notes: 0:00 Introduction 0:35 Kirsten introduces today's miss — this one isn't about what your documents say, it's about something you yourself can do, starting now. 1:05 The scenario she sees constantly: one child is named trustee, the family home is full of decades of belongings, and it can't be sold until it's cleared out — a job that typically lands on that one child. 1:55 A lose-lose bind: the other siblings often won't help, yet they'll complain if the trustee spends estate money to hire a professional to do it. 2:15 Why an inheritance can take six months instead of two — the first three months may go just to emptying the house. 3:05 Pro Tip: Start now, one closet and one room at a time: even Kirsten admits to three closets and three dressers of clothing she hasn't touched in years. 3:50 You don't have to do it alone — enlist a child or a friend, trade off helping at each other's homes, or hire a professional. 4:28 A cautionary tale: a daughter trustee, overwhelmed by boxes of old tax returns, bank statements, and decades-old books, nearly called for a dumpster — until she found $2,500 in cash in a box she assumed was trash. 5:40 The bottom line: take the job on now. Every bit you do eases the load on the child you've chosen as trustee, helps your kids get along after you're gone — and you might even enjoy revisiting old memories along the way.

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