This week is a tough one for me. This EnneaTalk Tuesday is all about parenting. I share a very vulnerable and difficult story, one that I referenced in a post this week that many of you asked about. I open up about a painful event that took place between my daughter and me, and how understanding the Enneagram helped diffuse the situation before it got worse. I discuss how understanding myself, how to use the Enneagram, and learning how my communication impacts my kids shifted everything in my household, and how it can help you shift everything in yours.

Listen to this week’s episode to hear how the Enneagram enabled me to take a pause in a tense situation, discover why I am so passionate about the Enneagram, and how it can be the greatest tool in moving the needle in your home.

Stopping generational trauma

For many of you, your biggest fear is hurting or messing up your kids—for me at least, it was. I discuss how terrified I was to pass on the same cycle I had experienced in childhood to my own kids, and how the moment I realized I was doing just that, I had to make a change. I share how the Enneagram was introduced to me, how I used it in my own home, and how the energy and compassion immediately grew in my family.

I discuss the importance of being a leader, of showing up for your kids by first showing up for yourself, and how important it is to understand how you impact them when you are under stress. In order to fix your family in crisis, you must first understand the root of it—and take a deep dive into yourself to stop it from harming those around you.

Understanding the energy in your house and how you create it

I share an event that happened between my daughter and I, and how it impacted everyone in the home, shifting the energy entirely. I talk about the importance of letting your kids in— how they will know if something is wrong and how the uncertainty of having to guess is more damaging then telling the truth.

If you are ready to take control of your communication, of your home, and take the deep dive into exploring yourself, schedule a typing session with me. I can help you learn to use the Enneagram, so you can grow a home of compassion, self-awareness, acceptance, love, and understanding.

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“Sometimes the wrong information is worse than not having any information.” 2:30
“When I could identify pretty closely what [type] my children were and then speak the language towards that type, everything, and I mean everything changed in my home.” 5:06
“If I wanted something different for my kids, I was going to have to be something different.” 7:09
“For anything to change, you’re gonna have to take some radical responsibility, and the Enneagram really helped me do that.” 8:48
“If you had asked me my biggest fear my whole life, it wasn’t sharks or snakes or heights or the dark, it was ‘please don’t let me f— up my kids.’” 9:26
“The very first thing you must understand in parenting before you try to fix your children or figure their type out is you MUST understand yourself.” 9:39
“I want [my children] to know what hurting looks like, and that it’s normal and we all feel hurt. That was hard for me—it’s still hard for me.” 26:41
“Understanding myself at such a deep level has allowed me to show them what that looks like.” 28:31
“The more that you are humbled enough and unconditionally committed to your own self-awareness, I guarantee you it will shift your home.” 31:01
“The Enneagram is the fastest tool I’ve ever used in any of my personal development [endeavors].”31:59