You were invited. You went first. You survived the initiation.

And now you’re here—the part most people never reach. Because invitation feels electric. Initiation feels intense.

But integration? Embodiment? That feels steady.

And steady is where leaders are built. This episode is about what happens after the leap—when courage stops being an event and becomes your identity.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why embodiment is the real work after courage
• The difference between invitation, initiation, and integration
• Why most people collapse after going first
• How Enneagram patterns show up during embodiment
• The difference between awareness and integrated leadership
• Why calm can feel unsafe after transformation
• How to build staying power instead of chasing intensity
• What true courage looks like in daily life

Key Takeaways

Embodiment happens after the adrenaline fades:
Invitation is the spark. Initiation is the fire. Integration is tending the flame long after the moment passes.

Most people love courage but hate maintaining it:
The leap is exciting. The maintenance is quiet. Real leadership lives in consistency, not intensity.

Without integration, you relive the same lesson in different forms:
If you don’t integrate the initiation, you’ll keep repeating the leap in new environments.

Collapse often comes from old coping patterns returning:
Loneliness, validation-seeking, chaos manufacturing, and retreat cycles are common after transformation.

Awareness of your Enneagram isn’t enough—embodiment is the flex:
Knowing your patterns is helpful. Leading yourself through them is mastery.

Integration turns fear into power:
Moving from reacting to responding, from default fear to integrated strength, is the shift that changes everything.

Calm can feel unsafe when you’re wired for intensity:
If chaos is familiar, peace can feel threatening. Learning to hold calm is a new level of nervous system maturity.

Integrity becomes your baseline in embodiment:
You stop negotiating with yourself, stop explaining your growth, and start living from alignment.

Staying is harder than jumping:
Courage is the spark. Staying is the discipline that turns courage into identity.

Embodiment is quiet power:
It’s less proving, less performing, more presence. Real mastery often looks subtle from the outside.

Quotes That Landed

“Most people love the moment of courage, but very few love the maintenance of it.” 
“Invitation is the spark. Initiation is the fire. Embodiment is tending the flame.”
“Integration isn’t a box you check—it’s a practice you live.”
“Courage becomes powerful when it becomes who you are.”
“You don’t need another leap. You need staying power.”

Try This This Week

Notice where you’re chasing intensity instead of practicing integrity.

Ask yourself: Am I looking for another leap—or learning how to stay? Practice holding steady. No proving. No performing. Just presence.

If this trilogy resonated with you, don’t keep it to yourself. Share these episodes with someone walking through their own invitation, initiation, or integration. And if you’re navigating this season right now, reach out. Slide into my DMs or connect through my website. You don’t have to walk this alone. You don’t need another leap. You need staying power.

Here’s to leading with alignment—and stepping fully into who you already are.

You went first. You felt the nudge, told the truth, made the call, and jumped.

And then… the noise stopped.

No parade. No instant confirmation. Just space. This episode is about the moment no one prepares you for—the initiation that comes after courage. The silence. The grief. The recalibration. And how to stay rooted when relief and terror coexist in the same breath.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why the moment after courage is often harder than the decision itself
• What the “initiation phase” actually is—and why nothing has gone wrong
• The good, the hard, and the ugly that show up after you go first
• How grief can exist without meaning regret
• Why your Enneagram patterns flare up after the jump
• The difference between courage and staying power
• How to regulate your nervous system when calm feels unsafe
• What truly gets rebuilt—and what has to fall away

Key Takeaways:

Going first is an initiation, not a finish line:
The decision is only the threshold. What follows is a period of identity lag, silence, and recalibration.

Silence after courage is normal—not a sign you failed:
The lack of feedback can feel destabilizing, but it doesn’t mean you chose wrong. It means you crossed a threshold.

Your body often knows before your mind catches up:
Relief, calm, and nervous system settling often arrive alongside panic and doubt.

Grief doesn’t mean regret—it means it mattered:
You can grieve people, roles, identities, and seasons even when the decision was absolutely right.

After courage, old protection patterns get louder:
Your Enneagram wiring doesn’t disappear—it flares. Control, people-pleasing, overthinking, or avoidance are common responses.

Over-explaining is a form of self-betrayal:
Trying to make others understand can pull you back into captivity and erode your authority.

Loneliness can drive self-sabotage if you’re not aware:
Isolation, overcompensation, numbing, or stirring drama can feel regulating—but they destabilize you further.

Calm can feel more dangerous than chaos:
If chaos is familiar, peace can trigger fear. Learning to stay in calm is a skill.

The real work is staying, not jumping:
Courage is the leap. Leadership is staying when the novelty fades and no one is clapping.

Integrity is a daily practice, not a one-time choice:
Going first requires continuously choosing not to abandon yourself.

Quotes That Landed:
“Going first isn’t just a decision—it’s an initiation.”
“Grief does not equal regret.”
“Courage is the jump. Staying is the practice.”
“Nothing has gone wrong. You’re being refined.”
“Calm can feel unsafe when chaos is familiar.”

Try This This Week

When discomfort shows up after a brave decision, pause and ask:
Am I trying to escape the quiet, or am I learning to stay with myself? Practice staying—without over-explaining, fixing, or retreating.

If this episode stirred something in you, don’t rush to fix it or explain it. Let it settle. Nothing has gone wrong. Share this episode with someone who’s in the aftermath of a brave choice. Leave a review if it resonated. And if you want to talk it through, slide into my DMs or reach out through my website. Next episode, we’re diving deeper into what it means to stay—to embody courage over and over again, long after the jump. I’m rooting for you. You’re not alone. We’re doing this together.

There is a moment—quiet, internal, undeniable—when you realize you’re being asked to go first. Not first to perform. Not first to prove. First to tell the truth. First to stop pretending something fits when it doesn’t. First to move without permission, applause, or certainty. In this episode, we talk about that moment—why it’s so unsettling, how your wiring influences your resistance, and what it actually costs to ignore the call when you already know what’s true.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• What “going first” actually means—and what it doesn’t
• Why going first feels terrifying even when you know it’s right
• How each Enneagram center resists going first in different ways
• The nervous-system reason staying feels safer than leaving
• The real cost of not going first—and why it compounds over time
• How to move forward without certainty, approval, or permission

Key Takeaways

Going first is an internal decision, not a public performance:
It’s rarely loud or impressive. Most of the time, it happens quietly—long before anyone else understands or agrees.

Your nervous system prioritizes safety over truth:
Biologically, you’re wired to choose belonging, control, and certainty—even when your soul knows something no longer fits.

Your Enneagram wiring shapes how you resist going first:
Gut types tighten and endure. Heart types adapt and self-abandon. Head types wait for more certainty. Different strategies—same fear.

Waiting is often fear disguised as discernment:
What looks like patience, loyalty, or wisdom is frequently avoidance when staying feels safer than moving. The real question isn’t “Will this work?” but “Can I live with myself if I don’t?”
There comes a moment when staying costs more than leaving—and your body knows it first.

Going first often costs approval but builds self-trust:
You may lose proximity, validation, or familiarity—but you gain clarity, integrity, and forward momentum.

Not going first compounds quietly over time:
Resentment, exhaustion, anxiety, and self-betrayal grow when you keep choosing what fits your past instead of your truth.

Courage isn’t something you wait for—it’s something you practice:
You don’t need permission or certainty. You need the willingness to stop abandoning yourself.

Quotes That Landed
“Leadership doesn’t announce itself. It whispers—and waits to see if you’ll listen.”
“You’re more tired of betraying yourself than being misunderstood.”
“Waiting often isn’t discernment—it’s fear.”
“Going first doesn’t end the story. It begins it.”
“You may lose approval, but you gain self-trust.”

Try This This Week

Notice where you keep circling the same decision.

Ask yourself: What am I hoping will change—when I already know what’s true? Then take one honest step forward without over-explaining, justifying, or waiting for permission.

If this episode stirred something in you, don’t rush to quiet it. That restlessness isn’t a problem—it’s a signal. Share this episode with someone who’s standing at the edge of a decision. Leave a review if it landed. And if you want to keep the conversation going, slide into my DMs and tell me where you feel the call to go first. Next episode, we’re talking about what actually happens after you go first—the good, the hard, and the parts no one likes to talk about.

We’re in the year of the fire horse—and if you already feel like you’ve been bucked off the saddle, you’re not failing…you’re being invited to lead yourself differently. In this powerful first interview of 2026, I sit down with one of my closest friends and greatest teachers, Amber Lilyestrom, to talk about self-leadership, money, nervous system safety, sovereignty, and the subconscious codes that quietly run your life. This is not about more strategy. This is about the operating system you’re running—and whether it’s finally time to upgrade.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why self-leadership is where most high performers actually get stuck.
• How subconscious “money codes” shape your income, confidence, and visibility.
• Why knowing better doesn’t mean doing better (and what to do about it).
• The real connection between money, safety, love, and belonging.
• Why money problems are never actually about money.
• How nervous system conditioning sabotages success, receiving, and self-trust.
• The danger of outsourcing your authority to coaches, gurus, and “success culture.”
• Why information without integration keeps you stuck.
• How to begin upgrading your internal operating system in 2026.

Key Takeaways:

1. Your Operating System Shapes Your Results: Subconscious wiring—not strategy—determines how you lead, earn, and grow.
2. Survival Patterns Once Saved You: The behaviors holding you back were adaptive intelligence—now they need an upgrade, not shame.
3. Money Is an Effect, Not the Cause: Income reflects self-trust, nervous system safety, and your relationship with receiving.
4. Early Love Patterns Still Run Your Business: What you exchanged for belonging shapes visibility, confidence, and wealth today.
5. Outsourcing Authority Erodes Power: True sovereignty begins when you stop giving your future to gurus and hype.
6. Receiving Is the Real Block: Conditional love and control patterns limit abundance more than lack of skill ever could.
7. Strategy Without Integration Fails: Tactics can’t override unresolved emotional wiring.
8. Self-Trust Is the Ultimate Currency: When you trust yourself, you become regulated, resilient, and unshakeable.

Quotes That Landed:

• “You’re not broken — you’re running outdated technology.”
• “Money is an effect. We are the cause.”
• “You have to feel it to free it.”
• “Information without integration is just a cluttered mind and spirit.”
• “Self-trust is the ultimate currency.”
• “You don’t get a replay on your loved ones’ lives.”

Try This This Week (Your EDGE Move):
Journal honestly on these questions:

• What did I have to exchange to feel loved or safe as a child?
• Where do I still abandon myself to feel secure?
• Where am I outsourcing my authority instead of trusting myself?
• What feeling am I numbing instead of listening to?

Then choose one small act of sovereignty:

• Say the real thing.
• Feel the uncomfortable emotion.
• Stop betraying yourself around money, visibility, or worth.

Resources Mentioned:

• Amber Lilyestrom — Money Codes Free Workshop
  👉 amberlilyestrom.com/codes
• Podcast: Homeward: The Sovereign Business Podcast

This is not the year to outrun your patterns. It’s the year to upgrade your operating system. If you’re done chasing strategy without cracking your codes, this is your work. Share this episode with someone ready to lead themselves differently. And if you’re serious about sovereignty, money, and self-trust—start here.

It’s mid-January and if you’re already exhausted, frustrated, or quietly wondering what the hell just happened—you’re not broken. This episode isn’t hype. It’s discernment. The year of the horse doesn’t care about your declarations; it cares about your regulation, your timing, and your truth. Speed is reactive. Torque is power applied on purpose. In this episode, I break down why January lies to us, the three types of “fire horses” most of us ride, and how to stop burning yourself out or justifying hesitation as wisdom. This won’t be the year you start the fastest—it’s the year you finish the strongest. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why January rewards adrenaline—but adrenaline isn’t wisdom or sustainable energy.
• The difference between horsepower (reactive speed) and torque (intentional force).
• The three Fire Horse archetypes: The Charger, The Staller, and The Discerning Fire Horse.
• How hype disconnects you from nervous system readiness and emotional truth.
• Why most people execute someone else’s vision (or an outdated version of their own).
• How the Enneagram reveals why you move the way you do.
• What “regulated power” actually looks like in real life.

Key Takeaways:1. January Lies to You

• January rewards loud declarations, performative momentum, and borrowed adrenaline.
• It ignores nervous system capacity, emotional readiness, and relational reality.
• Speed feels productive—but it comes with a bill.
• “Expectations are just a lead-up to resentment.”

2. Speed vs. Torque

• Speed = reactive, adrenaline-driven, unsustainable.
• Torque = force applied with intention, timing, and regulation.
• Duck feet under water vs. an eagle flying with deliberate power.
• “Torque is what happens when power listens before it moves.”

3. The Three Fire Horses


Fire Horse #1 – The Charger

• Leaves the gate fast. Fueled by urgency, comparison, proving panic.
• Powerful, driven, impressive—but burns out early.
• Common in Enneagram 3s, 8s, 7s (and some 1s, 2s, 6s).
• Problem: no inventory, no regulation, no discernment.

Fire Horse #2 – The Staller

• Stays at the gate. Calls it “gathering intel” or “being strategic.”
• Fueled by fear of visibility, failure, commitment, or uncertainty.
• Common in 9s, 5s, 6s, 4s (and some 1s, 8s).
• Problem: fear polished up as wisdom.
• “Not moving isn’t discernment. It’s fear.”

Fire Horse #3 – The Discerning Fire Horse

• Regulates first. Reads terrain. Builds capacity and stamina.
• Moves later—but with force.
• Deliberate, decisive, sustainable.
• This is the invitation for everyone in 2026.

1.Vision Before Velocity

• Most people are executing someone else’s vision—or a trendy one.
• Or they’re chasing an outdated version of their own.
• If the vision isn’t vivid, speed is just noise.
• “You don’t move faster toward vision. You move truer to it.”

2. Enneagram Pacing Patterns

• Gut Types (8–9–1): Urgency, resistance, perfectionism.
• Heart Types (2–3–4): Validation, worth, emotional readiness.
• Head Types (5–6–7): Safety, certainty, escapism.
• Your pace is always protecting something.

3. Discernment vs. Fear

• If you’re stalling: is it wisdom or fear?
• If you’re charging: is it alignment or proving?
• The check-in must be compassionate, kind, and curious—not shaming.

Quotes That Landed:

• “The year of the horse doesn’t care about your declarations. It cares about your discernment.”
• “Speed is reactive. Torque is power applied on purpose.”
• “This won’t be the year you start the fastest. It’s the year you finish the strongest.”
• “If the vision isn’t vivid, all that speed is just noise.”
• “Your pace is always protecting something.”

Try This This Week (Your EDGE Move):

• Identify which Fire Horse you’ve been riding: Charger, Staller, or Discerning.
• Take one daily inventory:
  • Is this move coming from fear or alignment?
  • From urgency or regulation?
  • From validation or truth?
• Slow one thing down on purpose.
• Move one thing forward with torque (not adrenaline).
• Revisit your vision: Is it actually yours—or borrowed?

This isn’t the year to outrun yourself. It’s the year to trust your timing and stop bullshitting yourself. If you want guidance building regulated power, vivid vision, and sustainable momentum, book a 90-minute Power Session or apply for VIP 1:1 coaching at tracyomalley.com. Share this episode with someone who’s either burning out or hiding at the gate. The fire horse doesn’t need to prove itself. You are power—when you move the way you’re meant to.

There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that doesn’t come from doing too much—it comes from holding on for too long. Not hustling. Not striving. Just gripping something you already know is complete. This episode closes out 2025 as “the year of the snake”: the season of shedding what once protected you, not because it failed, but because staying in it will suffocate your growth. Real leadership isn’t clinging harder—it’s having the courage to end what no longer belongs in your next chapter.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why some seasons don’t require building or healing—they require ending.
• The “snake shedding” metaphor: growth happens through release, not becoming more impressive.
• The 3 types of necessary endings: dead, dying, and good-but-not-great.
• Why we hold on too long (identity, grief, fear, loyalty-as-self-betrayal).
• Discernment questions to tell the truth about what’s complete.
• How to end things cleanly—with integrity, not drama.
• How to move into 2026 (the “year of the horse”) lighter, freer, and ready to run.

Key Takeaways:

1. You can’t “positive-think” your way out of an ending season
   • When life asks you to build, there’s momentum. Heal = tenderness. End = pressure, friction, quiet discomfort.
2. The orange tree lesson: “Drop the fruit when it’s too heavy”
   • What you’re carrying may have been good… until it became dead weight.
3. Necessary Endings (from the book)
   • Growth doesn’t just require vision—it requires discernment.
   • Not everything misaligned is meant to be healed—some things are meant to end cleanly.
4. The 3 endings you must learn to recognize
   • Dead things: emotionally/energetically over; you’re maintaining a corpse.
     • Tracy’s example: an identity—strength = hardness, power = force, success = heavy and carried alone.
     • “Dead things don’t come back to life because you care more. They end because they’re complete.”
   • Dying things: still moving but require constant resuscitation—fixing, explaining, forcing optimism.
     • Tracy’s example: trying to contort her voice into marketing systems that never fit her.
     • “If it requires you to abandon yourself to sustain it, it’s already dying.”
   • Good-but-not-great: the hardest ending—nothing is “wrong,” it still works, but it no longer fits.
     • Tracy’s example: leaving a network marketing position that still generated six figures/year.
     • “I didn’t leave because it failed. I left because my future wouldn’t fit inside it.”
5. Why we hold on too long
   • Endings require grief: who you were, what you thought it would look like, what felt safe.
   • Staying doesn’t protect you from vulnerability—it trades it for slow erosion (or a blow-up).

Discernment Questions (Journal Prompts):

• Is this giving me life… or just history?
• Am I staying out of alignment… or out of fear?
• What am I calling loyalty that might actually be self-abandonment?
• What becomes possible if I let this end?
• Am I making room for the next chapter—or hoarding the old one?

Quotes That Landed:

• “The snake doesn’t evolve by becoming more impressive. It evolves by shedding.”
• “Not everything misaligned is meant to be healed. Some things are meant to be ended.”
• “Ending something good requires more courage than ending something broken.”
• “You don’t need certainty—you need integrity.”
• “You can’t run like the stallion you are if you’re dragging dead weight.”

Try This This Week (Your EDGE Move):

1. Identify ONE thing you’ve been white-knuckling that feels complete.
2. Name which bucket it’s in: dead, dying, or good-but-not-great.
3. Take one clean, integrity-based step toward ending it (without drama):
   • Set the boundary.
   • Stop resuscitating it.
   • Make the decision you’ve been negotiating with.
4. Let yourself grieve—don’t bypass it. Shedding feels naked before it feels powerful.

2025 was the year of shedding. 2026 is the year of the horse—and you don’t get to run light if you refuse to release what’s heavy. If you need support ending what’s complete (cleanly, consciously, and without apology), book time with Tracy: 90-minute sessions or VIP 1:1 support . Share this episode with someone who needs permission to let go—and leave a review to help the message land where it’s needed.

You made the brave call. You announced it. You felt the surge. And then—silence. Your soul said yes, but your nervous system is screaming abort. This episode is for the messy middle: the hour, day, or week after the pivot when the old life is gone and the new one isn’t formed yet. I break down what’s actually happening in your body and identity, why it feels like panic, and how to walk yourself through it without backtracking, numbing out, or abandoning what you know is right.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The anatomy of the “holy-f*ck moment” after a big decision (physiology first, mindset second).
• Nervous system crash vs. true red flags—how to tell the difference.
• Identity disorientation: why even aligned pivots shake your sense of self.
• The void (between what was and what will be) and how to stand it without spiraling.
• The EDGE framework to move through fear: Excavation, Discernment, Grace, Embodiment.
• Enneagram centers as a cross-check for decisions (head/heart/gut).
• Practical regulation tools that bring your power back online.

Key Concepts & Takeaways:

1. It’s not failure—it’s physiology
   • Your soul makes the pivot; your body pays the bill first. Shakiness, scattered thoughts, nausea = wiring bracing for the unknown, not a bad decision.
2. Identity disorientation is normal
   • You left a role you mastered; ego hates unemployment. Panic ≠ misalignment.
3. Loss of control & visibility fear
   • “Do I look unhinged? Will they trust me?” Shame gets loud here—name it to diffuse it.
4. The void is preparation, not punishment
   • Spiritual wilderness between chapters is where capacity gets built before full clarity lands.
5. The EDGE Framework
   • E – Excavation: Name the fear. What identity is dying? What’s being born?
   • D – Discernment: Feelings aren’t facts. Is this danger or discomfort? Intuition or ego?
   • G – Grace: Regulate, don’t coddle. Of course this feels big. New rhythm, not wrong move.
   • E – Embodiment: Put power back in the body—walks, breath, sunlight, prayer, one courageous step.
6. Cross-check with the three centers
   • If you’re a gut type (8/9/1), bring in heart or head. Heart types (2/3/4), ask: would I still want this if no one clapped? Head types (5/6/7), ask: am I chasing certainty—or choosing a true yes?

Quotes That Land:

• “Your soul makes the pivot, but your body pays the bill first.”
• “Panic is physiology; misalignment is a pattern. Know the difference.”
• “The void isn’t punishment—it’s preparation.”
• “Fear can have a voice, but it doesn’t get a vote.”

Try This This Week (EDGE Moves):

• Name it: Write the sentence “I am actually afraid of ___ because ___.” Read it out loud.
• Separate it: Label sensations (body) vs. stories (mind). Circle what’s fact.
• Regulate it: 10-minute walk at sunrise, phone on airplane mode; 4-7-8 breathing x 5 rounds.
• One next step: Ship one tiny visible action toward the new path (DM, post, invite, calendar block).
• Cross-check: Run your yes through the other two centers before you decide again.

Timestamps:
00:00 The moment after the pivot
03:00 Why your nervous system crashes (and why that’s normal)
07:30 Identity disorientation & ego panic
10:05 Visibility fears, shame, comparison
12:10 The void as spiritual training ground
14:40 The EDGE framework walkthrough
17:15 Embodiment practices that work
19:40 Tracy’s real-time pivot (network marketing shift)
22:50 Don’t abandon the pivot before the magic catches up

Next Steps:

• If you’re in your own “holy-f*ck” moment, book a 90-minute session or grab your Enneagram Blueprint to get your personal atlas and tri-type cross-checks.
• DM @tracy_omalley with “EDGE” for details on the new leadership-first, integrity-driven business model.

Thirteen years ago, I woke up at rock bottom. I thought sobriety meant losing my fun, my freedom, my edge—but what it really gave me was everything I’d been craving: authenticity, alignment, and freedom. In this episode, I share the story of that turning point, the lessons sobriety has taught me, and how they apply to every single one of us—whether your vice is alcohol, people-pleasing, work, or relationships. These 13 truths will sharpen your edge and give you the clarity, courage, and integrity to live fully alive.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The real story of my sober date and why it wasn’t my first attempt.
• How codependency is the sneakiest, most polished addiction of all.
• 13 powerful lessons sobriety has taught me about leadership, love, and life.
• Why freedom—not control—is the sharpest edge you’ll ever carry.
• How these truths apply far beyond sobriety to anything that’s keeping you stuck.

Key Takeaways (13 Lessons):

1. Radical, compassionate honesty heals faster than any numbing ever will.
2. Discomfort is a compass, not a curse. Growth happens in resistance.
3. You don’t need numbing when you’re living in alignment.
4. Discipline creates freedom, not restriction.
5. Shame dies when it’s dragged into the light. Secrets keep you sick.
6. Your edge comes from your scars, not your image.
7. Self-leadership is the highest form of leadership.
8. Numbing never fixes the pattern—it only swaps it out.
9. Real connection requires real presence.
10. Boundaries build bridges, not walls.
11. The body keeps the score and the wisdom—learn to listen.
12. Legacy isn’t what you build, it’s who you become.
13. Freedom is the sharpest edge you’ll ever carry.

Quotes That Landed in My Bones:

• “The thing I was most afraid to lose turned out to be the thing I gained the most: freedom.”
• “Shame dies the second it’s spoken into the light.”
• “Self-leadership is the highest form of leadership—if you can’t lead yourself, you can’t lead anyone else.”

Try This This Week (Your EDGE Move):
Take one place in your life where you’re hiding, numbing, or half-living—and drag it into the light. Get radically honest with yourself about what it’s costing you. Then choose one small, disciplined action today that builds your freedom muscle.

You’ve been circling a decision—you can feel it in your body. One moment you see yourself freer and bigger on the other side. The next, fear pulls the brake and whispers what if you blow up your life? You stall, wait for clarity, and call it timing, but deep down you’re not stuck because you don’t know the answer—you’re stuck because you don’t trust yourself to choose it. In this episode, Tracy breaks down how to tell the difference between fear in disguise and a true fuck yes—and gives you the five-step practice to move forward with clarity, courage, and compassion.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The difference between contracting fear and an expansive fuck yes.
• How each Enneagram center (instinct, heart, head) processes decisions.
• The one question each type must ask before leaping.
• Why fear can have a voice but not a vote.
• A five-step practice to check your motives and move forward aligned.

Key Takeaways (by Center):

Instinct Types (8, 9, 1)

• Hangup: Mistake reaction for clarity; resist discomfort.
• Edge: Ask if you’re grounded—or just avoiding vulnerability, peace disruption, or being wrong.

Heart Types (2, 3, 4)

• Hangup: Say yes for applause or no to avoid rejection.
• Edge: Ask—if no one clapped, would I still want this?

Head Types (5, 6, 7)

• Hangup: Overanalyze, overprepare, or chase shiny things for certainty.
• Edge: Ask—am I chasing safety/options, or trusting my true yes?

Quotes That Landed in My Bones:

• “Fear can have a voice, but it does not get a vote.”
• “A fuck yes will feel alive—even in the presence of fear.”
• “Your fear doesn’t get the final word. Your clarity does. Your calling does.”
  
  

Pause. Take inventory with compassion. Cross-check your yes or no through another center of intelligence. Then ask—if fear wasn’t driving, what would I choose? And finally—move. Action builds confidence. Decide with grace and conviction, and then take the leap.

Resources & Links

• Get your Enneagram Blueprint: https://tracyomalley.com/work-with-me
• Book a 90-Minute Deep Dive Session: https://tracyomalley.com/work-with-me
• Connect with Tracy on Instagram: https://instagram.com/tracy_omalley

You believe in your work with every cell in your body—until it’s time to market it. Then you freeze, overthink, stall, water it down, or avoid it altogether…and beat yourself up later. You’re not broken, bad at business, or missing the magic strategy. Marketing feels so personal because it is personal—it brushes up against identity, worth, and your deepest fear of being misunderstood or dismissed. In this episode, I call out the specific hangup for each Enneagram type and give you the exact edge to move through it—so you can finally show up in a way that lands. What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

1. Why marketing doesn’t “break” you—it exposes you (and your wiring).
2. The core marketing hangup for each of the nine Enneagram types.
3. The velvet-hammer truth that cuts through perfectionism, second-guessing, and hiding.
4. Your personalized EDGE move—the contrary action that builds confidence and consistency.
5. How to market with clarity, courage, and precision without sanding down your magic.

Key Takeaways (by Type):

• Type 1 – The Reformer
  Hangup: Won’t release until it’s flawless; polish past the moment.
  Edge: Progress beats perfection—ship it messy. Your “subpar” is most people’s excellent.
• Type 2 – The Helper
  Hangup: Hides offers behind serving; fears marketing is selfish.
  Edge: Marketing is service. If they don’t know, you can’t help.
• Type 3 – The Achiever
  Hangup: So polished you feel untouchable; performing > connecting.
  Edge: Humanity builds trust. Share the story behind the success—real, not manipulative.
• Type 4 – The Individualist
  Hangup: Resists structure; waits for the muse; inconsistent output.
  Edge: Structure is the container that lets your creativity breathe. Put a system around your art.
• Type 5 – The Investigator
  Hangup: Over-research, hoard, “not ready yet”—the work never leaves your head.
  Edge: Share before you’re ready. Clarity comes through action, not more data.
• Type 6 – The Loyalist
  Hangup: Second-guesses every word; over-proofing dilutes the message.
  Edge: Anchor in your why, not guarantees. Hit publish while you still feel the tremble.
• Type 7 – The Enthusiast
  Hangup: Starts 100 ideas; doesn’t stick; trust erodes in the chaos.
  Edge: Discipline creates freedom. Choose one lane and finish the arc.
• Type 8 – The Challenger
  Hangup: Holding back power so you’re not “too much”; or refusing to promote at all.
  Edge: Lead boldly with intention and integrity. Don’t pull your punches—direct lands.
• Type 9 – The Peacemaker
  Hangup: Softens edges to avoid standing out; tries to please everyone and reaches no one.
  Edge: Your voice matters. Take up space; be specific and a little polarizing on purpose.

Quotes That Landed in My Bones:

• “Marketing doesn’t break you—it exposes you.”
• “Perfect content that never gets shared changes zero lives.”
• “What protects you can also paralyze you if it runs the show.”

Try This This Week (Your EDGE Move):
Notice your hangup the moment it shows up—and take the opposite action in real time. Hit publish at 80%. Make one clear ask. Choose one offer and promote it for seven days straight. Your courage—not another template—is what converts. Call to Action:

• Don’t guess your wiring. Get your Enneagram Blueprint
• Want hands-on help applying this to your message and marketing? Book a 90-minute intensive with me. Let’s get your voice clear, consistent, and unapologetic—on purpose.