In this insightful episode of the Lead with the Enneagram podcast, we had the pleasure of speaking with Emily Helderman, a licensed therapist who discovered that her true Enneagram type was not what she initially thought. Despite being labeled as an Enneagram 3 by many, Emily's journey led her to realize she is actually a Social Enneagram 2. We delved deep into the nuances of overgiving, people-pleasing, and the motivations behind helping others.

Key Takeaways:

• The Misidentification of High-Achieving Women: We discussed how high-achieving women, like Emily, are often mistyped on the Enneagram, particularly when it comes to distinguishing between types 2 and 3.
• The Enneagram as a Growth Tool: I shared my own skepticism-turned-advocacy for the Enneagram and how it can be applied effectively in personal and professional settings.
• The Journey of Self-Discovery: Emily opened up about her initial resistance to being a type 2 and how she came to embrace her true type through self-reflection and understanding her core motivations.
• The Challenge of Boundaries: We explored the difficulty Enneagram 2s face in setting emotional boundaries and the guilt associated with not always being able to help.
• Playing Small: Emily candidly discussed the ways she has played small in her career and personal life, and how recognizing this pattern is the first step towards change.
• The Importance of Vulnerability: We touched on the importance of vulnerability for growth, especially for type 2s, who may struggle with asking for help and expressing their needs.
• The Role of Sad Stories: Emily questioned whether her attachment to her "sad story" was holding her back from fully stepping into her potential and serving others without ego.

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In this episode, we'll explore why people tend to give up on their goals so early in the year and how each Enneagram type might struggle with sticking to their resolutions. From the perfectionist tendencies of Type 1s to the fear of vulnerability that challenges Type 8s like myself, we'll delve into the unique motivations and fears that can lead each type to quit.

But it's not all about the challenges. I'll also share strategies for overcoming the urge to quit, emphasizing the importance of compassion for oneself. The Enneagram provides us with a roadmap to understanding our core fears and motivations, which is crucial when we find ourselves wanting to throw in the towel.

If you're ready to break the cycle of quitting and truly commit to your goals, remember that the journey is where the magic happens. It's about the people we meet, the challenges we face, and the growth we experience along the way.

For those seeking a more hands-on approach, I offer VIP coaching to help you navigate these challenges and make lasting changes. With only two spots left, now is the time to take action and ensure this year is different.

So, if you're tired of quitting on yourself and your dreams, join me on this journey of transformation with the Enneagram as our guide. Together, we can make Quitter's Day a thing of the past.

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Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
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In this episode of "Lead with the Enneagram," we dive deep into the world of Enneagram Threes, particularly those with a self-preservation instinct like our guest, Laurel Boylan. We explore how the Enneagram can be applied to family dynamics, especially in a household as diverse as Laurel's, with six different Enneagram types under one roof. I offer practical advice on how to communicate effectively with each type, emphasizing the importance of understanding their core motives and fears.

Laurel and I discuss the challenges of overcoming a scarcity mindset, particularly around money, and the shame that can accompany it. I highlight the significance of meeting these fears with compassion rather than trying to eliminate them, and the power of nurturing our inner child's emotions to foster growth and change.

We also touch on the concept of flow and how operating at a higher frequency of gratitude and compassion can unblock blessings and create a sense of fulfillment that hard work alone cannot achieve.

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Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
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In this episode, I reflect on a transformative trip I took with a group of seven other women to a small island in Mexico. This journey was a follow-up to last week's discussion about the importance of support and love in our lives, and it turned out to be a profound experience of vulnerability and growth for me.

As an Enneagram 8, known for seeking power and control within a group, I consciously approached this trip with the intention to receive as much as to give. Surrounded by four other Enneagram 8s, two Enneagram 2s, one Enneagram 7, and one Enneagram 5, I found myself in a dynamic where, despite our intense and assertive nature, none of the 8s felt the need to take over. This was a testament to the trust we had in each other and the leadership of our Enneagram 7 friend who planned the trip.

Each of us brought different tri-types to the table, which influenced our interactions and personal growth. Despite our shared motivations for independence, autonomy, and control, we each displayed our unique ways of dealing with anger and leveraging our heart and thinking centers of intelligence.

During the trip, I was particularly mindful of not falling into my usual role of the rescuer, allowing myself to be vulnerable and open to receiving support. This was challenging, especially given my past experiences with betrayal and hurt from other women. However, I was determined not to let my spiritual gifts block my own blessings.

Tune in to hear more and the lesson I received from a Mayan Prophet during our van ride!

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Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
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Our special guest, Rashae Doyle, CEO and founder of Bevel Up, joins us to discuss her transformation from a nurse practitioner to a thriving business owner. Rashae embodies the essence of a powerhouse woman and shares her experiences of overcoming initial doubts and leveraging her Enneagram type to achieve success.

We explore the complexities of leading a diverse team, the challenges of transitioning from a star employee to a CEO, and the importance of creating a supportive culture in a competitive industry. Rashae opens up about her personal growth journey, the significance of vulnerability in leadership, and how understanding her Enneagram type has helped her navigate business challenges and team dynamics.

Listeners will gain insights into the value of the Enneagram in understanding and motivating team members, the balance between caring and crushing goals, and the fulfillment that comes from collective achievement.

Join us for powerful conversations and learn how to lead with compassion, effectiveness, and a deep understanding of the Enneagram. Whether you're a seasoned Enneagram enthusiast or new to the concept, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you lead yourself and others more effectively.

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Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
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In this episode of "Lead with the Enneagram," host I discuss the importance of having a support system and community in our lives. Building a support system can be challenging, especially for introverts like me. However, I stress the significance of having people around us who can love us, hold us accountable, and help us achieve our goals.

The episode also delves into the concept of vulnerability and the fear associated with it. I emphasize the importance of being vulnerable and exposing our weaknesses in order to receive the support we need. I discuss the difference between transparency and vulnerability, highlighting the need for real-time vulnerability where we share our current struggles and ask for help.

I also touch on the clutter that can exist in our relationships and the need to clear the path for the kind of support we desire. I share how I have had to end friendships to make room for new, supportive relationships. I encourage you to assess their own relationships and determine if they are hindering or supporting their growth.

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Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
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In this episode of the Lead with the Enneagram podcast, we had an enlightening conversation with Amy Bartko, an Enneagram 7, who shared her experiences with the overcommitment cycle and how the Enneagram has helped her navigate through it. Amy's story is a testament to the power of the Enneagram in creating long-term freedom and choices, which is especially significant for Enneagram 7s like her.

We delved into the complexities of the Enneagram and how it can be applied to both personal and professional life. I shared my own journey from skepticism to embracing the Enneagram, and how it has transformed my approach to leadership, sales, and relationships.

Amy and I discussed the challenges of being an Enneagram 7, such as the tendency to say "yes" to too many things and the struggle with feeling boxed in. We also touched on the importance of delegation and the value of giving people grace, recognizing that not everyone operates the same way.

We explored Amy's tri-type, 7-4-9, and how it influences her work in high-level influencer and celebrity marketing. The combination of visionary thinking, empathy, and a nonjudgmental approach makes her uniquely effective in her field.

Amy asked insightful questions about how to lean into her Enneagram type for greater success and how to identify and work with different Enneagram types in her life. We discussed the significance of pausing before committing, the value of asking questions, and the importance of understanding the motivations of others.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in using the Enneagram as a tool for personal growth and better communication. Whether you're an Enneagram 7 or not, you'll find valuable insights into understanding and leading the people in your life.

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Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
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As we step into 2024, it's time to reflect on our goals and intentions. But before we charge ahead, I want to talk about the importance of taking a pause. This isn't about inaction; it's about intentional reflection to ensure our goals align with our true selves.

I've been where you are, skeptical of the Enneagram, but now, with over a decade of experience, I've seen its transformative power in my life and the lives of others. Whether it's personal growth, family dynamics, or professional leadership, the Enneagram has been a guiding light.

In this episode, we'll explore why pausing is crucial before setting goals. It's not just about what you want to achieve but understanding the core motives and fears that drive you. The Enneagram can help you identify these, ensuring your goals are genuinely yours, not influenced by external comparisons or pressures.

I'll share personal anecdotes, like my powerful full moon sound bowl healing session and a deep conversation with friends, to illustrate the importance of digging deeper into our desires. It's about knowing who you are, which many of us struggle with. The Enneagram has been my tool for self-discovery, and it can be yours too.

If you're ready to start the year with clarity and purpose, I encourage you to explore the Enneagram Blueprint. It's a highly accurate assessment that can provide you with the right information to navigate your journey. With this knowledge, you can leverage your strengths, be aware of your blind spots, and take action that aligns with your true self.

Remember, growth is uncomfortable, but with the Enneagram as your compass, you can stay on track, even when the path gets rocky. Let's make 2024 a transformative year together.

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Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
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Today we're exploring the power of choosing a theme word for the year.

This past year has been a rollercoaster for me, filled with grief, challenges, and a lot of personal growth. I've learned the importance of not bypassing the hard feelings and truly going through the process to grow. Despite having a strong network of resources, I've realized the necessity of facing my struggles head-on.


I recently had a transformative weekend with a close friend and strategist, which helped me start to emerge from my cocoon season. We discussed the concept of a theme word and how it can serve as a North Star through life's ups and downs. After much reflection and consideration, I've chosen "emerge" as my word for 2024. It signifies my readiness to step into new beginnings and embrace the next stage of my life.

In this episode, I guide you through the process of choosing your word. It involves a compassionate acknowledgment of the past year's highs and lows, brainstorming with trusted friends or mentors, and considering your personal and professional life holistically.

I encourage you to reflect on your Enneagram type, core fears, and blind spots when selecting your word. This self-awareness will help you stay grounded and focused throughout the year.

Thank you for your support in 2023, and I look forward to growing together in 2024. Remember to share your theme word with me, and let's make this year transformative.

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Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
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In this episode I am talking all about goal setting! As we're in the week of setting goals for the new year, I want to guide you through goal setting for 2024 using the Enneagram lens. This episode is particularly special as we celebrate the four-year anniversary of the podcast.

Today, we'll dive into how each Enneagram type can set goals effectively, avoiding common pitfalls and leveraging their unique strengths. We'll also discuss the importance of integrating this knowledge for true transformation, because as I always say, information doesn't equal transformation.Enneagram Insights for Goal Setting

• Type 1 (Reformer): Aim for realistic and flexible goals. Balance self-improvement with self-acceptance.
• Type 2 (Helper): Prioritize self-honoring and self-care. Set boundaries and focus on personal achievements.
• Type 3 (Achiever): Balance goals with personal life. Set goals that aren't necessarily measurable and go beyond external validation.
• Type 4 (Individualist): Embrace unique personal goals and avoid comparison with others.
• Type 5 (Investigator): Incorporate social and emotional goals. Overcome analysis paralysis and balance knowledge with action.
• Type 6 (Loyalist): Address fear and anxiety. Build a supportive network and trust in your decision-making.
• Type 7 (Enthusiast): Prioritize and focus on key goals. Manage impulsiveness and embrace depth over excitement.
• Type 8 (Challenger): Balance assertiveness with collaboration and vulnerability.
• Type 9 (Peacemaker): Overcome inertia and passive resistance. Assert your own needs and prioritize personal goals.

Common Challenges

• Balancing ambition with mental health and wellness.
• Maintaining flexibility in goal setting.
• Recognizing the right to change your mind about your goals.

Remember, the Enneagram is not just about understanding ourselves but also about leveraging who we are designed to be. If you're new to the Enneagram or my podcast, I encourage you to listen to previous episodes for a deeper understanding.

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Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
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