The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

In this episode of the Lead with the Enneagram podcast, we had an enlightening conversation with Amy Bartko, an Enneagram 7, who shared her experiences with the overcommitment cycle and how the Enneagram has helped her navigate through it. Amy's story is a testament to the power of the Enneagram in creating long-term freedom and choices, which is especially significant for Enneagram 7s like her.

We delved into the complexities of the Enneagram and how it can be applied to both personal and professional life. I shared my own journey from skepticism to embracing the Enneagram, and how it has transformed my approach to leadership, sales, and relationships.

Amy and I discussed the challenges of being an Enneagram 7, such as the tendency to say "yes" to too many things and the struggle with feeling boxed in. We also touched on the importance of delegation and the value of giving people grace, recognizing that not everyone operates the same way.

We explored Amy's tri-type, 7-4-9, and how it influences her work in high-level influencer and celebrity marketing. The combination of visionary thinking, empathy, and a nonjudgmental approach makes her uniquely effective in her field.

Amy asked insightful questions about how to lean into her Enneagram type for greater success and how to identify and work with different Enneagram types in her life. We discussed the significance of pausing before committing, the value of asking questions, and the importance of understanding the motivations of others.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in using the Enneagram as a tool for personal growth and better communication. Whether you're an Enneagram 7 or not, you'll find valuable insights into understanding and leading the people in your life.

Connect with Tracy:
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Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Email [email protected]

As we step into 2024, it's time to reflect on our goals and intentions. But before we charge ahead, I want to talk about the importance of taking a pause. This isn't about inaction; it's about intentional reflection to ensure our goals align with our true selves.

I've been where you are, skeptical of the Enneagram, but now, with over a decade of experience, I've seen its transformative power in my life and the lives of others. Whether it's personal growth, family dynamics, or professional leadership, the Enneagram has been a guiding light.

In this episode, we'll explore why pausing is crucial before setting goals. It's not just about what you want to achieve but understanding the core motives and fears that drive you. The Enneagram can help you identify these, ensuring your goals are genuinely yours, not influenced by external comparisons or pressures.

I'll share personal anecdotes, like my powerful full moon sound bowl healing session and a deep conversation with friends, to illustrate the importance of digging deeper into our desires. It's about knowing who you are, which many of us struggle with. The Enneagram has been my tool for self-discovery, and it can be yours too.

If you're ready to start the year with clarity and purpose, I encourage you to explore the Enneagram Blueprint. It's a highly accurate assessment that can provide you with the right information to navigate your journey. With this knowledge, you can leverage your strengths, be aware of your blind spots, and take action that aligns with your true self.

Remember, growth is uncomfortable, but with the Enneagram as your compass, you can stay on track, even when the path gets rocky. Let's make 2024 a transformative year together.

Connect with Tracy:
Tracy’s Website http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Email [email protected]

Today we're exploring the power of choosing a theme word for the year.

This past year has been a rollercoaster for me, filled with grief, challenges, and a lot of personal growth. I've learned the importance of not bypassing the hard feelings and truly going through the process to grow. Despite having a strong network of resources, I've realized the necessity of facing my struggles head-on.


I recently had a transformative weekend with a close friend and strategist, which helped me start to emerge from my cocoon season. We discussed the concept of a theme word and how it can serve as a North Star through life's ups and downs. After much reflection and consideration, I've chosen "emerge" as my word for 2024. It signifies my readiness to step into new beginnings and embrace the next stage of my life.

In this episode, I guide you through the process of choosing your word. It involves a compassionate acknowledgment of the past year's highs and lows, brainstorming with trusted friends or mentors, and considering your personal and professional life holistically.

I encourage you to reflect on your Enneagram type, core fears, and blind spots when selecting your word. This self-awareness will help you stay grounded and focused throughout the year.

Thank you for your support in 2023, and I look forward to growing together in 2024. Remember to share your theme word with me, and let's make this year transformative.

Connect with Tracy:
Tracy’s Website http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Email [email protected]

In this episode I am talking all about goal setting! As we're in the week of setting goals for the new year, I want to guide you through goal setting for 2024 using the Enneagram lens. This episode is particularly special as we celebrate the four-year anniversary of the podcast.

Today, we'll dive into how each Enneagram type can set goals effectively, avoiding common pitfalls and leveraging their unique strengths. We'll also discuss the importance of integrating this knowledge for true transformation, because as I always say, information doesn't equal transformation.Enneagram Insights for Goal Setting

• Type 1 (Reformer): Aim for realistic and flexible goals. Balance self-improvement with self-acceptance.
• Type 2 (Helper): Prioritize self-honoring and self-care. Set boundaries and focus on personal achievements.
• Type 3 (Achiever): Balance goals with personal life. Set goals that aren't necessarily measurable and go beyond external validation.
• Type 4 (Individualist): Embrace unique personal goals and avoid comparison with others.
• Type 5 (Investigator): Incorporate social and emotional goals. Overcome analysis paralysis and balance knowledge with action.
• Type 6 (Loyalist): Address fear and anxiety. Build a supportive network and trust in your decision-making.
• Type 7 (Enthusiast): Prioritize and focus on key goals. Manage impulsiveness and embrace depth over excitement.
• Type 8 (Challenger): Balance assertiveness with collaboration and vulnerability.
• Type 9 (Peacemaker): Overcome inertia and passive resistance. Assert your own needs and prioritize personal goals.

Common Challenges

• Balancing ambition with mental health and wellness.
• Maintaining flexibility in goal setting.
• Recognizing the right to change your mind about your goals.

Remember, the Enneagram is not just about understanding ourselves but also about leveraging who we are designed to be. If you're new to the Enneagram or my podcast, I encourage you to listen to previous episodes for a deeper understanding.

Connect with Tracy:
Tracy’s Website http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Email [email protected]

In this vulnerable and heartfelt episode, I sit down with my dear friend Aisha Marshall, a social Enneagram 3, to discuss the necessary parts of going into cocoon season in order to emerge as the best version of ourselves.

Cocoon season is an unpredictable phase of self-exploration and unlearning unhealthy patterns. It varies for each individual, and there is no specific timeline or step-by-step guide to navigate it. We emphasize that cocoon season is disruptive and uncomfortable. It requires you to confront your coping mechanisms and address the pain that led to your development. Many people resist or rush through cocoon season due to its challenging and painful nature.

We also explore the misconception that Enneagram 3s have it easy and we dive into the hidden costs and challenges they face. Whether you're an Enneagram 3 or someone who loves or leads them, this episode offers important insights and information.

Join us as we navigate the journey from cocoon to butterfly season.

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Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Email [email protected]

In this episode, I provide tips for each Enneagram type on how to navigate the holiday season and find harmony. I address the stressors and challenges that each type may face during this time and offer suggestions for growth and self-care.

Enneagram Type 1 (The Reformer): Type 1s may struggle with the disruption of their sense of perfectionism and black-and-white thinking during the holiday season.

Enneagram Type 2 (The Helper): Type 2s may overextend themselves and try to please everyone during the holiday season.

Enneagram Type 3 (The Achiever): Type 3s may feel pressure to be the best at everything and put on a perfect holiday show.

Enneagram Type 4 (The Individualist): Type 4s may experience heightened emotions and feelings of melancholy during the holiday season.

Enneagram Type 5 (The Investigator): Type 5s may struggle with social demands and depletion of energy during the holiday season.

Enneagram Type 6 (The Loyalist): Type 6s may experience heightened anxiety and worry during the holiday season.

Enneagram Type 7 (The Enthusiast): Type 7s may overcommit and experience burnout during the holiday season.

Enneagram Type 8 (The Challenger): Type 8s may struggle with control and dynamics during the holiday season, which can lead to anger and conflict.

Enneagram Type 9 (The Peacemaker): Type 9s may settle for short-term harmony and neglect their own desires during the holiday season.

Listen to this episode to find out my tips for each type as you head into the holiday season.

Connect with Tracy:
Tracy’s Website http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Email [email protected]

In this episode, I am speaking with Jennifer Staats, a fellow Enneagram 8, about the power of vulnerability in our homes and in the world. We discuss the challenges faced by strong, independent women who are wearing many hats in their lives.

Jennifer clarifies the misconception that vulnerability is synonymous with transparency. She explains that vulnerability is a lifelong lesson and emphasizes the importance of practicing it, particularly during moments of weakness, betrayal, or violation.

Jennifer also acknowledges the challenges that Enneagram 8 personalities face in embracing vulnerability, as they tend to second-guess others' motives and prefer isolation to avoid being betrayed or put in vulnerable situations. However, she highlights that true strength lies in vulnerability, compassion, and empathy.

The episode goes beyond personal relationships and emphasizes the significance of vulnerability in making connections in the wider world. We stress that developing the ability to be vulnerable can only be achieved through relationships with others, even though it may be intimidating for Enneagram 8 personalities who fear betrayal and violation.

Connect with Tracy:
Tracy’s Website http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Email [email protected]

Understanding and integrating information is crucial for personal growth and preventing negative outcomes. In this episode, I am diving into the significance of using information and integrating it into your life. By doing so, you can develop a compassionate perspective towards yourself and make necessary adjustments before negative consequences arise. I encourage you to approach yourself with compassion, and understand that compassion is the key to effectively utilizing personal development tools. Without compassion, negative patterns and behaviors will persist. While the Enneagram can expedite the transformation process, it requires embracing discomfort. By taking compassionate action and breaking these cycles, you can prevent negative outcomes and lead a more fulfilling life.

The Enneagram is a powerful tool that helps individuals understand themselves and their core Enneagram type with compassion. By comprehending their core motives and fears, you can have personal transformation. The Enneagram enables individuals to recognize that the expression of their Enneagram type can change, but at its core, it provides a deep understanding of who they are. This episode emphasizes that the Enneagram is not about stereotypes or fun memes, but rather about self-understanding and using this understanding as a guide for personal growth. The Enneagram can be applied in all aspects of life, both personally and professionally. Unlike other personal development tools that focus on behaviors, the Enneagram is rooted in core motives and fears. Online assessments for determining Enneagram types are often inaccurate as they primarily focus on behaviors rather than the underlying reasons behind individuals' actions. The episode also discusses the importance of understanding vices, which are protective mechanisms that arise from core motives and fears, in order to gain a deeper understanding of oneself and facilitate personal growth.

Connect with Tracy:
Tracy’s Website http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Email [email protected]

In this episode, we dive deep into the dynamics of the Enneagram and how it impacts your life, career, and relationships with special guest Rebecca Cafiero. An ex-corporate VP of sales turned best selling author, podcaster, and nationally recognized business expert. Rebecca empowers entrepreneurs just like you to put a spotlight on your superpowers so you can step into becoming the expert you’re meant to BE.

We discuss the importance of understanding the different needs and strengths of participants as a facilitator and mentor. By gaining insights into motivations, fears, behaviors, and how individuals show up, the facilitator can effectively connect people based on their strengths and areas of growth. This understanding allows for the creation of a win-win situation, where each participant can benefit and contribute in their own unique way.

Understanding the different needs and strengths of others is crucial for creating a supportive and collaborative environment. The episode emphasizes the importance of curating accountability partners and organizing retreats to facilitate personal and professional growth. By understanding each participant's unique strengths and needs, you can foster collaboration and connection among others, leading to opportunities for mutual support and collaboration.

Connect with Tracy:
Tracy’s Website http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Email [email protected]

In this episode, we dive deep into the dynamics of the Enneagram and how they impact your life, career, and relationships. Get ready for some powerful conversations, live typing sessions, and insightful solo episodes.

The Enneagram is not just a trendy tool, but a powerful resource for personal growth. I address the question that many have been asking: "Can the Enneagram really help me?" While it may have gained popularity recently, we delve into the importance of not letting its trendiness devalue its true potential.

Information alone is not enough; integration is key. Merely listening to a podcast or reading about the Enneagram is a great start, but true transformation comes from actively integrating the insights into your daily life.

Join me for upcoming workshops and one-on-one sessions. If you're eager to dive deeper into the Enneagram and overcome obstacles in your life, I invite you to join my workshop on overcoming obstacles. If you're listening to this in real-time, there's still time to participate! But if you miss it, don't worry. I offer one-on-one sessions and will be hosting future workshops to cater to individual needs. Together, we can take your personal growth to the next level.

The Enneagram truly is a tool that can profoundly impact your life, and I am here to guide you in harnessing its power.

Connect with Tracy:
Tracy’s Website http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Email [email protected]