The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

In this episode of the Lead with the Enneagram, we dive deep into the world of setbacks with the incredible journalist and writer, Amy Shoenthal. As we're well into the new year, many of us find that our initial excitement for our goals has faded, and life's unexpected challenges have thrown us off course. Setbacks are a natural part of life, especially for those of us striving to do epic things in the world.

Amy, a writer for Forbes magazine and Harvard Business Review, brings her expertise and insights to the table, discussing her new book, "The Setback Cycle." This book is a timely resource for anyone looking to turn the less desirable parts of life into opportunities for growth and action.

We explore the four phases of the setback cycle: establish, embrace, explore, and emerge. Amy shares her personal journey through these phases, including her experiences with workplace challenges after maternity leave and how she redirected her ambition into a successful freelance writing career.

The conversation also touches on the Enneagram, particularly focusing on how understanding our Enneagram type can help us navigate setbacks. As an Enneagram 2, Amy discusses the struggle of asking for help and the importance of acknowledging one's own needs.

Listeners will find this episode to be a valuable tool for understanding setbacks and learning how to move through them with grace, class, and clarity. It's an episode you'll want to keep on speed dial, offering insights that are applicable both personally and professionally.

Remember, setbacks are not the end of the story; they can be the beginning of something magical. So let's embrace the messy middle, find our green light, and make the impact we desire in the world.

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Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
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Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
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In this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I dive into the transformative power of the Enneagram in both personal and professional spheres.

I explore the intersection of identity and business, particularly for entrepreneurs who are the face of their brand. I emphasize the importance of authenticity in branding and how understanding oneself through the Enneagram can lead to a more sustainable and fulfilling business.

I also touch on the challenges of evolving identities, especially in the digital age where personal branding is crucial. The episode highlights the importance of knowing oneself deeply to navigate these changes without losing authenticity.

For those new to the Enneagram, I describe it as a map to your inner world, offering a framework for personal growth. I stress the importance of identifying your Enneagram type accurately and how it can serve as a roadmap for your soul.

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Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
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In this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, we dive deep into the practical applications of the Enneagram, particularly focusing on Type 2, the Considerate Helper. Our guest, Tisha, shares her journey from skepticism to embracing the Enneagram as a powerful tool for self-discovery and growth.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding Motivations: The Enneagram is more than a personality test; it's about understanding the 'why' behind our actions. For Type 2s, actions are often motivated by a desire for love and appreciation.
• Setting Boundaries: Type 2s tend to say 'yes' too quickly, leading to overcommitment. It's crucial for them to pause before agreeing to requests and consider if they would still say 'yes' without external validation.
• Navigating Relationships: Type 2s have a gift for intuitively understanding others' needs, but they must learn to communicate their own needs clearly to build authentic and supportive relationships.
• Dealing with Stress: Under stress, Type 2s can exhibit traits of an unhealthy Enneagram 8, becoming confrontational. Recognizing this pattern can help them address the underlying issues of feeling unappreciated or resentful.
• Embracing Individuality: Growth for Type 2s involves embracing their individuality (Enneagram 4 traits) and prioritizing self-care to avoid burnout and serve others from a place of fullness.
• COVID-19 Reflections: The pandemic provided an unexpected opportunity for Type 2s to focus on themselves, highlighting the importance of maintaining personal space and self-care routines.

Connect with Tracy:
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Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
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In this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I discuss the significance of self-awareness and the beauty of the Enneagram when used correctly. I touch upon the common theme of self-understanding that has emerged in my recent interactions with mastermind groups and high-level entrepreneurs. I caution against using the Enneagram to force change rather than finding a natural flow and the importance of approaching the typing process with openness and patience.

I also address the concerns of those who use the Enneagram in their businesses or coaching practices, stressing the need for integrity and depth in the typing process. I highlight the potential pitfalls of online quizzes and assessments and the value of having a guide to navigate the complexities of the Enneagram.

As I look forward to 2024, I am excited about creating a certification mentoring program for those who wish to use the Enneagram in their work with integrity and depth. I invite you to explore the Enneagram further and reach out to me.

Remember to embrace the messiness of the journey, to be gentle with yourself, and to recognize the miracles that can emerge from the process.

Connect with Tracy:
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Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
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In this insightful episode of the Lead with the Enneagram podcast, we had the pleasure of speaking with Emily Helderman, a licensed therapist who discovered that her true Enneagram type was not what she initially thought. Despite being labeled as an Enneagram 3 by many, Emily's journey led her to realize she is actually a Social Enneagram 2. We delved deep into the nuances of overgiving, people-pleasing, and the motivations behind helping others.

Key Takeaways:

• The Misidentification of High-Achieving Women: We discussed how high-achieving women, like Emily, are often mistyped on the Enneagram, particularly when it comes to distinguishing between types 2 and 3.
• The Enneagram as a Growth Tool: I shared my own skepticism-turned-advocacy for the Enneagram and how it can be applied effectively in personal and professional settings.
• The Journey of Self-Discovery: Emily opened up about her initial resistance to being a type 2 and how she came to embrace her true type through self-reflection and understanding her core motivations.
• The Challenge of Boundaries: We explored the difficulty Enneagram 2s face in setting emotional boundaries and the guilt associated with not always being able to help.
• Playing Small: Emily candidly discussed the ways she has played small in her career and personal life, and how recognizing this pattern is the first step towards change.
• The Importance of Vulnerability: We touched on the importance of vulnerability for growth, especially for type 2s, who may struggle with asking for help and expressing their needs.
• The Role of Sad Stories: Emily questioned whether her attachment to her "sad story" was holding her back from fully stepping into her potential and serving others without ego.

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Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
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In this episode, we'll explore why people tend to give up on their goals so early in the year and how each Enneagram type might struggle with sticking to their resolutions. From the perfectionist tendencies of Type 1s to the fear of vulnerability that challenges Type 8s like myself, we'll delve into the unique motivations and fears that can lead each type to quit.

But it's not all about the challenges. I'll also share strategies for overcoming the urge to quit, emphasizing the importance of compassion for oneself. The Enneagram provides us with a roadmap to understanding our core fears and motivations, which is crucial when we find ourselves wanting to throw in the towel.

If you're ready to break the cycle of quitting and truly commit to your goals, remember that the journey is where the magic happens. It's about the people we meet, the challenges we face, and the growth we experience along the way.

For those seeking a more hands-on approach, I offer VIP coaching to help you navigate these challenges and make lasting changes. With only two spots left, now is the time to take action and ensure this year is different.

So, if you're tired of quitting on yourself and your dreams, join me on this journey of transformation with the Enneagram as our guide. Together, we can make Quitter's Day a thing of the past.

Connect with Tracy:
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Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
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Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
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In this episode of "Lead with the Enneagram," we dive deep into the world of Enneagram Threes, particularly those with a self-preservation instinct like our guest, Laurel Boylan. We explore how the Enneagram can be applied to family dynamics, especially in a household as diverse as Laurel's, with six different Enneagram types under one roof. I offer practical advice on how to communicate effectively with each type, emphasizing the importance of understanding their core motives and fears.

Laurel and I discuss the challenges of overcoming a scarcity mindset, particularly around money, and the shame that can accompany it. I highlight the significance of meeting these fears with compassion rather than trying to eliminate them, and the power of nurturing our inner child's emotions to foster growth and change.

We also touch on the concept of flow and how operating at a higher frequency of gratitude and compassion can unblock blessings and create a sense of fulfillment that hard work alone cannot achieve.

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Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
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In this episode, I reflect on a transformative trip I took with a group of seven other women to a small island in Mexico. This journey was a follow-up to last week's discussion about the importance of support and love in our lives, and it turned out to be a profound experience of vulnerability and growth for me.

As an Enneagram 8, known for seeking power and control within a group, I consciously approached this trip with the intention to receive as much as to give. Surrounded by four other Enneagram 8s, two Enneagram 2s, one Enneagram 7, and one Enneagram 5, I found myself in a dynamic where, despite our intense and assertive nature, none of the 8s felt the need to take over. This was a testament to the trust we had in each other and the leadership of our Enneagram 7 friend who planned the trip.

Each of us brought different tri-types to the table, which influenced our interactions and personal growth. Despite our shared motivations for independence, autonomy, and control, we each displayed our unique ways of dealing with anger and leveraging our heart and thinking centers of intelligence.

During the trip, I was particularly mindful of not falling into my usual role of the rescuer, allowing myself to be vulnerable and open to receiving support. This was challenging, especially given my past experiences with betrayal and hurt from other women. However, I was determined not to let my spiritual gifts block my own blessings.

Tune in to hear more and the lesson I received from a Mayan Prophet during our van ride!

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Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
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Our special guest, Rashae Doyle, CEO and founder of Bevel Up, joins us to discuss her transformation from a nurse practitioner to a thriving business owner. Rashae embodies the essence of a powerhouse woman and shares her experiences of overcoming initial doubts and leveraging her Enneagram type to achieve success.

We explore the complexities of leading a diverse team, the challenges of transitioning from a star employee to a CEO, and the importance of creating a supportive culture in a competitive industry. Rashae opens up about her personal growth journey, the significance of vulnerability in leadership, and how understanding her Enneagram type has helped her navigate business challenges and team dynamics.

Listeners will gain insights into the value of the Enneagram in understanding and motivating team members, the balance between caring and crushing goals, and the fulfillment that comes from collective achievement.

Join us for powerful conversations and learn how to lead with compassion, effectiveness, and a deep understanding of the Enneagram. Whether you're a seasoned Enneagram enthusiast or new to the concept, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you lead yourself and others more effectively.

Connect with Tracy:
Tracy’s Website http://tracyomalley.com/
Tracy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tracy_omalley/
Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
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In this episode of "Lead with the Enneagram," host I discuss the importance of having a support system and community in our lives. Building a support system can be challenging, especially for introverts like me. However, I stress the significance of having people around us who can love us, hold us accountable, and help us achieve our goals.

The episode also delves into the concept of vulnerability and the fear associated with it. I emphasize the importance of being vulnerable and exposing our weaknesses in order to receive the support we need. I discuss the difference between transparency and vulnerability, highlighting the need for real-time vulnerability where we share our current struggles and ask for help.

I also touch on the clutter that can exist in our relationships and the need to clear the path for the kind of support we desire. I share how I have had to end friendships to make room for new, supportive relationships. I encourage you to assess their own relationships and determine if they are hindering or supporting their growth.

Connect with Tracy:
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Tracy on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tracy.omalley
Tracy on Twitter https://twitter.com/TracyOMall
Tracy on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-o-malley/

Resources:
Attend Tracy’s Enneagram Group Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workshop
Access Tracy’s Enneagram Blueprint https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Using Your Stress Number to Eliminate Shame & Self-Sabotage on Lead with the Enneagram EP356 https://open.spotify.com/episode/111YMhtJjtw4sgBsN4fHs7
Book a Power Session with Tracy http://tracyomalley.com/workwithme/
Learn More About Tracy’s Enneagram Team Dynamics Workshop https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Book a Partner Session with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Tracy https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme
Email [email protected]