In this insightful episode of the Lead with the Enneagram podcast, we had the pleasure of speaking with Emily Helderman, a licensed therapist who discovered that her true Enneagram type was not what she initially thought. Despite being labeled as an Enneagram 3 by many, Emily's journey led her to realize she is actually a Social Enneagram 2. We delved deep into the nuances of overgiving, people-pleasing, and the motivations behind helping others.

Key Takeaways:

• The Misidentification of High-Achieving Women: We discussed how high-achieving women, like Emily, are often mistyped on the Enneagram, particularly when it comes to distinguishing between types 2 and 3.
• The Enneagram as a Growth Tool: I shared my own skepticism-turned-advocacy for the Enneagram and how it can be applied effectively in personal and professional settings.
• The Journey of Self-Discovery: Emily opened up about her initial resistance to being a type 2 and how she came to embrace her true type through self-reflection and understanding her core motivations.
• The Challenge of Boundaries: We explored the difficulty Enneagram 2s face in setting emotional boundaries and the guilt associated with not always being able to help.
• Playing Small: Emily candidly discussed the ways she has played small in her career and personal life, and how recognizing this pattern is the first step towards change.
• The Importance of Vulnerability: We touched on the importance of vulnerability for growth, especially for type 2s, who may struggle with asking for help and expressing their needs.
• The Role of Sad Stories: Emily questioned whether her attachment to her "sad story" was holding her back from fully stepping into her potential and serving others without ego.

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